How old were you when you stopped having sex.

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I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

I ageee with this. Intimacy and romance come in so many different forms and I think that in many ways they’re more important than sex - if sex has to stop or you choose to not to have it then without the other forms of intimacy the relationship will die very quickly. I appreciate that intimacy and romance can go hand in hand with sex - but the opposite cannot be said.

@Gloriia the relationship boards are also full of women being completely blindsided by their DH’s affairs because they’re still having sex. No-one should think for one minute that because a married couple are having sex that it means one of them isn’t straying.

I'm 61 this year. Partner of 12 years is 19 years younger. He's still up for it 😀

Same. I simply cannot imagine it’ll ever happen for me again. Which saddens me, thinking of all the wasted years.

Please tell me you coined your username specifically to post on this thread ….

Some hrt, good selection of vitamins and some exercise that is also distressing (Pilates, yoga) will do you a world of good.

60 plus, have my own room now kids have moved out, but we have sex all around the house these days. Both retired and don’t have to worry about kids coming home

Good for you!

Personally I can think of nothing less appealing than having sex all around the house.

I find it fascinating how people have such different viewpoints yet we're happy doing our own thing ☺️

That would be my dread of having a much younger man 😁

I had sex once in a train toilet (seriously what was I thinking 🥴). Have zero interest in having it anywhere nowadays.

@BunnyLake I🤣🤣🤣
I've never had it anywhere interesting but, like you, zero interest in having it nowadays. Luckily OH isn't either. We still have a great relationship.

That would be my dream. A loving relationship but neither needing sex. I won’t have another relationship because I just don’t want sex (I don’t even want to want it). I sometimes joke that I need to find a gay guy who just wants a female companion. I don’t think any older men who want a new relationship will want it to be totally sexless.

I'm 54, split up from partner 6 weeks ago and missing the fabulous sex we used to have a lot of!
Very much looking forward to a new relationship and getting back to it.

Great advertising placement...

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I don’t get ads in MN. I didn’t know it did them 😁I wouldn’t recommend sex in a train toilet, it’s not very classy is it ☺️

Last time was 2012 so 12 years ago but we were drunk in a hotel, the time before that I really don’t remember, I was always more interested than my wife. We put it down to many things over the years but I don’t believe she wasn’t really interested in ’solving’ it. It improved when she came off the pill (I had a vasectomy) but didn’t last too long. During a holiday a few years ago when I was hoping that being away from the stress of work would result in it happening we had an honest conversation about it as she could tell I was bothered. Anyway, she just isn’t interested, asked if I wanted her to pretend which I obviously don’t, so I’ve now stopped making any advances and just resigned myself to never having sex again. I can hear people know asking ‘why not leave? Everything else is good about our relationship, we’ve been together for 34 years, have a wonderful son, a home that we’ve built together and we laugh all the time, enjoy the same music, tv and films so it seems petty to split up because of one thing that that many on here say they don’t need anyway. I, however, miss it so, so, so much.

I don’t think the relevant poster would care if you recommend it! Sex doesn’t always have to be classy 🙄 You just do you!

Interesting question and great to see so many honest answers.
Surprised that so many don’t have sex.

I totally understand where you are coming from 😁😁😁

My mother was widowed at 65. I remember her saying that she wouldn't mind a man friend to go out for meals and be a plus one for events, but men always want THAT.

That's how I'xd feel if anything happened to OH.

It was actually me, the poster, who had the unclassy sex in the train toilet 😂

Meaning the venue was unsexy, I know sex doesn’t have to be ‘polite’.

Me too. I wouldn’t mind someone for the companionship but I don’t want the sex. I’m not bothered though, I don’t miss having a man in my life at all.

Ahh, I see. 😃

I forgot put, for context, I’m 59 and my wife is 64 next month.

Please don't assume a lack of sex drive happens to all couples because of what you're reading here. There is nothing wrong with couples who feel they have had their fill & are no longer interested. I can assure you I know couples in their 60s & 70s who have frequent sex & that's without HRT or viagra so don't worry. To be fair though they are physically fit which helps.

So can I ask a question: did your wife explain why she lost her drive and do you still find her as attractive as an older woman? I think a lot of women get less interested when they feel they have passed society’s benchmark for body type .

Edited to add it’s heartening to see a man placing other aspects of the relationship above just sex.