Would you find this rude/be hurt by this? (Halloween party)

[itsahalloweenone]

A halloween party with over 20 people invited.

Couple are hosting it but they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends.

The reason given is that the couple want to be with people their own age (between 25 and 28 years old). Their parents are relatively young (both just turned 50 years old) and tend to mingle with their son's friends fine.

Would you find this rude? Why or why not? How would you address it on both sides?

Thank you

Absolutely do not turn up! You say you have a close relationship, but you are quite happy to ignore their wishes? They are adults and want to spend time with their friends. They also don't need someone to make sandwiches! Plus, why do you assume that would help 'take the load' off the wife? Does your son not do anything?

You sound very overbearing and I would imagine that within the 20 guests not all of them are teetotal, it's a party for young people. Not busybody parents who don't respect their right to make their own decisions!

I have a step daughter in her 20s and a daughter just turned 21, I would not expect an invite to any of their parties unless it was a family gathering with others who were around my age, ie my sister, their partners mothers. If they invited my daughter and not me I wouldn’t mind in the slightest.

So definitely not rude.

This has to be my all time favourite thread EVER 😂😂😂
Thanks ladies, please keep ot coming 🙏
I may even save it for a rainy day (before it is deleted)

But you are 50, not 27, so.....
They do not want you at their party. You were not invited. Go and visit them some other time. You may feel young but you are not in your late 20s, did you party with your parents?

I think it would be rude to gate crash anyone's party and show the parents to be very overbearing. I think the parents should stay away and retain their dignity and humility.

This is ridiculous. Of course 25 year olds want to just party and get drunk without their parents.

if parents turn up they’d be nuts and risk alienating their children 🙄

I’d say they were trying to muscle in.

I think I get on pretty well with all of my adult children (30, 28, 27 and 20) but no way would I do this!! It's a great way to never get invited to anything ever again and look like a real nutter!

I do hope this is a real thread because it's hilarious!

I don't think it would be rude, but I can see why the parents would feel hurt.

In my family it would be weird not to invite parents if one of us was holding a big party, we'd also invite uncles and aunts, but I don't think that's normal in the wider world! If it's your party you can invite who you like, and the presence of your parents might be inhibiting to your friends even if they get on.

God no way would I invite "oldies " to that type of party.

As one of the oldies myself I'd decline the invite , if I'd been invited.

Also what with the parents mixing with the young friends?

I think a previous poster may have been correct that this may be a cultural thing and OP doesn't understand the definition of "party"...

Have you heard if parents being estranged? If you carry on you will probably be joining their ranks. What is wrong with you???

You are being really, really daft. There are all sorts of parties and social occasions some of them are for families and parents and aunts and uncles etc, some might be for kids, some might be for friends and peer group, some might be everyone. It is perfectly okay to have all of these things. What is not okay is to be huffy because you haven't been invited or gatecrash. It sounds as though it is a casual party for your son's and his friends. They don't need help with formal catering - or maybe the wife actually really wants to host, either way they haven't asked for your help. I remember when I was 28 hosting a get together for my now husband and his friends. It would have been utterly bizarre for my mum to turn up. I have also hosted a wider party as a housewarming with a real mix of ages and family/friends/colleagues etc. Stop being petty.

I'd find it outrageous

OP so you're a Parent ???

Get your own friends and life.

I highly doubt that there is a group of 20 young adults in which nobody drinks. Or takes drugs. Or smokes. Or vapes.

Op you sound very naive.

Definitely have a nice night in with your girlfriends 🌺

Why do you have to jump in the car ?
This is getting more unbelievable as it goes on

No, no, no, no, no, NO!! You cannot jump in the car when your son is picked up for the party, you are NOT invited.

I also don't believe that nobody at the party drinks or smokes. Unless it's some kind of AA celebration of sobriety as well as Halloween?

Also, it's only 27th August. Why are they planning their Halloween party so far in advance? Irrelevant to the thread, I know.

Organise your own Halloween party and invite your own friends.

Normal to have parties with only your own generation at them

I have no words. MN hall of fame is coming for you (for the wrong reasons)

I’ve read all your posts OP and my god this is such a huge overthink. Do you have to be with your children at all times? It’s a party. With their friends. Why does it matter so much? It’s not Christmas Day or a christening. It’s just a Halloween party for them and their mates. It’s honestly quite strange you’re so obsessed with this.

YES!!!!!

Perhaps they are Muslim or very strict Christians?

A cocaine lifestyle is way more affordable at 27 than at 19….

It isn't rude not to invite parents to the party.

Turning up when not invited would be completely out of order.