Would you find this rude/be hurt by this? (Halloween party)

[itsahalloweenone]

A halloween party with over 20 people invited.

Couple are hosting it but they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends.

The reason given is that the couple want to be with people their own age (between 25 and 28 years old). Their parents are relatively young (both just turned 50 years old) and tend to mingle with their son's friends fine.

Would you find this rude? Why or why not? How would you address it on both sides?

Thank you

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Oh for the love of all that is holy, please do not do this.

Broken milk bottle for hot knives.

With respect, my mum would have said almost exactly the same thing about me at that age. And she couldn't have been more wrong.

Not remotely rude. We get on with our young adult kids’ mates, and might have a quick drink with them at times if they’re at our house. But there’s no way we’d expect an invitation to a party they were hosting. I think it completely changes the dynamic for the young folk, no matter how cool we might think we are.

Well there you go.
They don't want a smoker who turns up with a plate of unwanted sandwiches in their midst.

I was thinking Mr Blobby. That way she could just say "Blobbity blobbity!" when someone eventually asks who she is.

Then the other parent stays at home alone and leaves their grown up children to it.

Also, people in their 20's might not appreciate help with hosting or food. Their parties are likely having drinks and talking to their friends without having to filter everything for the ears and eyes of their parents.

OP, I'm curious, why are you so upset about this? It's also ages away, is there a deeper issue at hand? Why can't they just have one evening with people of their own generation and it not be a big deal. Sorry, I mean this gently, but you are being too much here.

Neither would I.
They might discover that I drink and take drugs.

This wins it. This is truly the most batshit thread on here 😂😂😂😂

what are you dressing up as OP?

They wanted their own age there - not their parents! You should realise that! They have their own friends and can invite their own crowd which does not include parents!!

Oh thats beautiful. You are a genius.

No, I wouldn't find it rude. If my daughter was holding a party and inviting twenty friends, I wouldn't expect to be invited. Different generations!

Are your grown up kids not allowed to do stuff without you? Why on earth would you ‘just jump in’ when your other ds gets picked up? Wtaf? Why do you think you should be invited?

But they've already thought of that, and decided they don't want that help. You seem to think they just haven't thought of this and that, they have, they've thought about exactly what kind of party they want to have and they've decided not to invite you.
A parent being there does change the vibe no matter how well you get on with them.
If you invite yourself it's not respecting their choices.

I would think it extremely rude of the parents to show up uninvited. It is the adult children's party and they clearly want to spend time with their own friends and family of their own age, without the parents there. It's not a family occasion.

Not rude, perfectly normal.

Has anyone else seen Bad Moms Christmas - where the mum sits in the bedroom to watch her daughter sleep and puts her daughter’s face on her pjs 😂

This thread has those vibes 😂😂

Imagine being so codependent and/or entitled you physically can’t comprehend why your adult child wouldn’t want you to party with his mates.

I would be baffled if I turned up at Dave and Emma’s halloween party to find Dave’s mum standing in the corner, holding a cheese, pineapple and pickled onion ‘hedgehog’.

If it was all people in their 20's and then just the parents I understand it.

If it's people from all ages and just excluding the parents it seems unfair - but in this case it doesn't seem so?

We did family Halloween parties (for the kids as I have never heard of adults doing one for adults!) and all generations came.

They don’t want you there. Whilst I think some people are being a bit mean, it must be a bit shit to realise you are not wanted, it’s also a bit of a wake up call I suppose.
Thinking back to the parties I went to in my 20s, the parties we went to where there were parents (big event parties) were a lot different to parties with friends and people our own age. Yes there were drugs, and our parents had NO idea. Things were always polite with the parents, no one really relaxed though, and they could be boring. People in their 20s often want to go a bit wild, and they can’t do that if a mother turns up with a platter. Sorry OP, you need to sit it out.

Don't diss the cheese and pineapple hedgehog.

Those are the highlight of my parties (in the 80/90's) 😂😂😂😂

Please don't put them in the position where they have to ask you not to come. You've been told by hundreds of people now not to do this. Why aren't you listening? Do you often bypass the unanimous advice of others?

I'm in my 30s and I love my in laws but still wouldn't want them at a party. And you have NO idea what they get up to re drink or drugs. I know people still doing this at parties in their 30s and I doubt I'm alone.

Just don't do it!

Oh, the hedgehog would be most welcome!

My discomfort would be solely caused by the uninvited woman holding it 😂