Would you find this rude/be hurt by this? (Halloween party)

[itsahalloweenone]

A halloween party with over 20 people invited.

Couple are hosting it but they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends.

The reason given is that the couple want to be with people their own age (between 25 and 28 years old). Their parents are relatively young (both just turned 50 years old) and tend to mingle with their son's friends fine.

Would you find this rude? Why or why not? How would you address it on both sides?

Thank you

Blancmange bunny? 🐇

Sweet Jesus do not do this. I don't think it's rude at all not to invite the parents

BECAUSE YOU WERENT INVITED, THATS WHY!

I have been to dozens of parties over the years where siblings are there along with friends but not the parents and hosted several myself. Having parents there completely changes the dynamic as I always feel I have to do my bit and have a polite chat with them. Of course it's not rude if you don't invite the parents

Oooh oooh, those vanilla and raspberry ripple mousses in the clear round plastic tub that no one ever let defrost and ate like ice cream!!!

I don’t think it’s rude ! It’s not a given that parents get invited !
my daughter does invite us as parents but we don’t want to intrude to much so we go up enjoy a drink say helloooo then leave them to party with the friends !
I would not b offended if I wasn’t invited thou x

Can't her husband prepare the food? Why has it got to be the women FFS.

No I absolutely wouldn't be bothered or have expected to be invited.

Jesus Christ. 😳 OP, have you lost your actual mind?

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I'm sure if you turn up with pass the parcel and some party bags for the end you'll be welcomed with open arms.

If this is real it is absolutely fucking tragic.

Not rude at all. Sometimes people want to hang out with people their own age.

And sometimes people want to chat and let loose without their parents around listening/weighing in/judging.

I also honestly think it's weird that parents would be offended by this.

Good grief, this is desperate stuff.

Its great to get on well with your adult DCs and multi-generational parties can be great. However, this doesn't mean you want your parents at every party you throw, and it's not rude not to invite them.

Fuck me. If ever there was a thread that needed a laughing emoji thanks button.

I still want to do all these things and I'm 50 😂.

I think the fact that you think it might be ok to turn up when you weren’t invited might be why you weren’t invited. I also think you shouldn’t worry too much about not being invited- it doesn’t make your overall relationship less good.

Having said that, your use of the term “the wife” does suggest your relationship might not be that great.

A wifi glitch meant the full thread hadn't loaded when I responded just now. You're the parent and you're actually asking this and thinking that this would be a good thing. Just no! If they wanted to invite you, they would have done. They haven't.
You may think that they don't drink or smoke, you may thjnk that they are your son's friends more than her's and that he'll do all the chatting but has it occurred to you that maybe it's different when you're not around

It doesn't matter who organised it or who the guests are you are imposing yourself

Nope🤷‍♀️

You could always wear an elaborate costume and sneak in.

And you know absolutely all the guests, do you?

And you absolutely know for sure that none of them drink or take drugs.

Right.

Purple and silver push up basque top, knickers and fishnets with a bat mask. You'll be the sexiest thing there

Just in case you aren't joking:
It doesn't matter what age the parents are
It doesn't matter what the relationship is like
It doesn't matter who else is invited
It doesn't matter about lifts or cars or food or cocaine
THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS IS THAT YOU ARE NOT INVITED.

Holy shit OP. You cannot turn up to something you are not invited to. That is so beyond rude most people reading this probably don't even have the words to express just how rude it is. And don't fucking "innocently" pop in if that was your next "but what if..."

No way would I invite my parents to a Halloween party!!