Would you find this rude/be hurt by this? (Halloween party)

[itsahalloweenone]

A halloween party with over 20 people invited.

Couple are hosting it but they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends.

The reason given is that the couple want to be with people their own age (between 25 and 28 years old). Their parents are relatively young (both just turned 50 years old) and tend to mingle with their son's friends fine.

Would you find this rude? Why or why not? How would you address it on both sides?

Thank you

What have I just read?! 🙈

NO. You cannot turn up to the party.

It would be so weird and awkward to have a parent turn up when you're a 20 something throwing a party. How do you not get this?!?!

The sons Mom, who hasn't been invited....

Not rude at all. I would find it weird if the parents got offended. Surely they must understand that the young ones want to party with people their age

You're bringing out the big guns now. Nobody would get turned away with a cheese & pineapple hedgehog.

This has to be a wind up or a reverse thread surely?!

If not: you are being VERY dense.

I'd suggest throwing your own Halloween party for your own friends of your own age range. And maybe getting some hobbies. Do NOT hitch a ride and turn up when you have not been invited.

I’m getting strong Everybody Loves Raymond vibes from this thread. Is that you, Marie?

Stop it. You’re not jumping in with anyone. Give over. They don’t need your help to make sandwiches and you’re not invited. Quite rightly.

have you not mates or shame for that matter? No empathy?

Am assuming you’re one of the parents?

Time to step back and let your children live their lives. Parents don’t have a right to be included in everything their adult children do, even if they live next door. It’s actually a bit sad to want to shoehorn yourself in. I love my PiL, and invited them to kids-orientated parties - but to adult parties we were having? No. It’s lovely that your kids/cousins enjoy each other’s company, so be pleased and let them do their thing. Without you spoiling it by trying to guilt them into including you.

Tell you what OP - there's bound to be a posse of local tweenagers trick or treating locally to you.

Why don't you just tag along with them? 👻

I’m cringing already 😬

It could have been. We lived next door to an off licence, (with a Chinese takeaway the other side), I don’t think we were sober for a year.

Then back RIGHT off op

It's not a family party, it's a friends party which includes other family members of a similar age. They do not want their parents there.

The parents should not turn up uninvited, that would be incredibly rude.

When one family member has an event, they do not always have to invite the entire family, they should be allowed to invite one generation at a time.

I can’t believe people are suggesting things on sticks. It’s like you want someone to be injured.

There’s no circumstances where it’s not rude to turn up to a party you haven’t been invited to.

As pp said, plan a nice social event for yourself.

So what do we need for our 90s/00s house party shopping list

Hooch, Bacardi breezer
Nameless banana liqueur
Poor quality solid hash
Rizlas
White lightning
Glens vodka/whatever is the cheapest plastic bottle spirit from the offy
Asda smart price frozen pizza
CDs and mini speakers or a boom box style player that skips.

Maybe cordial to make snake bites?

The horrible red Aftershock that when spewed was exactly the same colour as when you drank it?

Is there a back story no part of this can seem acceptable to you. Just as they are your kids doesn’t mean you get to barge in like this. It’s so toe curling.

im sorry if you’ve no friends, but this is so far from acceptable.

What about the jelly and ice cream? Daughter in law probably isn't capable of making such delicacies without assistance....

Not rude. I'm mid 50s and if I had children I couldn't think of anything worse than a Halloween party of 20 somethings. Well I could but that's for different threads.

Irrelevant.

They don’t want you there. Whether they’re drinking/doing drugs or not.

Im not a huge drinker and I could have friends over/go out for dinner with friends and siblings, and still not want my parents there.

I can have a nice time with my parents, a nice time with my boyfriends parents, friends parents etc etc, at appropriate events, but it doesn’t mean I want my parents at my parties. Just because there’s “no awkwardness” and you have a good relationship, still doesn’t mean they want you at their social events.

Yes the great grown up cocktail stick accident looming 😂

Take quiche and trifle too plus some rice crispie cakes .....oh and little sausages on sticks

Tbh I'd love that!

But really Op-there's no need to go.

If you're worried about food just make some & hand it over when the car arrives to pick up your son.

Yes! And pink blancmange 😃

This cannot be real! Someone is bored at the end of their school holiday

This cannot be a real thread? How can you find it so difficult to grasp that you are not invited, and it is totally acceptable to not want to have your parents at social events?