Would you find this rude/be hurt by this? (Halloween party)

[itsahalloweenone]

A halloween party with over 20 people invited.

Couple are hosting it but they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends.

The reason given is that the couple want to be with people their own age (between 25 and 28 years old). Their parents are relatively young (both just turned 50 years old) and tend to mingle with their son's friends fine.

Would you find this rude? Why or why not? How would you address it on both sides?

Thank you

What I'm finding hilarious is the fact the OP believes that over 20 young adults are having a Halloween party and not a single one of them drinks or take drugs.

What does she think they're going to do all night?? Bob for apples?

The only people who have Halloween parties are kids, teens, students and anyone wanting a piss up.

There is no way on this planet that a bunch of tee-totallers would be organising a Halloween party. Especially not months in advance 😂

OP please don’t stop! You can carry on up to 1000 posts for everyone’s entertainment.

What haha ridiculous

I'm assuming you are the parent...

To answer this Q I'd be mortified to show up to a party that I literally wasn't invited to. I think it would (rightly) come across as disrespectful, rude and domineering. They don't want help with food and hosting. They just want to be able to throw a gathering and choose who to invite... Hardly unreasonable!

I guarantee if the parents (you?) show up uninvited it will not do good things for the relationship going forward.

Awww you have just made me nostalgic for proper 90s parties. Can we please throw in some Mad Dog 20:20 induced vomiting? 🤮

So I am just here for the comments really 😂

OP I am 51 and am dying inside for you. Please please don't do this. You are massively disrespecting their boundaries.

I hope this isn't real.

Could anyone really be so desperate to go to their kid's party that they are not invited to?

Or be so clueless that they are thinking of just going anyway & informing the hosts of this?

This is fucking wild

Of course it isn't rude.

If grandparents, aunts and uncles were invited then it might be rude not to invite parents. Siblings and parents are not on the same invite circle.

Wilder than the party, according to mum

I am thinking of DS 1 and DS2 having to turn up, in full Halloween costume, with their DM... it would be like the school run on book day.

OP. Its not rude. Its not that you are "unwanted" - they just need to do their own socialising full stop.

You will be invited to family occasions and that is as it should be. But you sound very full on and the fact that you don't seem to accept that its not ok, is going to cause you heartache.

It's genuinely one of the best threads I've ever accidentally clicked on 😂

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That you're aware of anyway. You have no idea what they do when they are with their friends.

As someone else up thread posted, whether these invited guests are friends of your son or friends of his wife, they are THEIR friends, not yours. They will be polite to you and chat with you, but you are the PARENT of their friend here. They wouldn't phone you up and say "Hey @itsahalloweenone, wanna head to the pub for a swift half after work???" because you're not their friend.

Time to cut those apron strings and let your adult children be adults in their own right.

ALLLLLLL of this! OP, if you really think they will all just be chatting about literature and philosophy all night while eating tuna sandwiches, you are not cool enough for any Halloween party for anyone over the age of seven!

Why, why would you even think you should go when you haven't been invited?
Why do you need to jump in the care with your child. I honestly dont get it, leave them be.
I love socialising with my parents but not all the time, not every party etc.
Your replies don't even sound right, you don't sound like you're really getting it.

Er no I don’t think it’s unreasonable to not invite your parents to the party

STOP TRYING TO GATE CRASH YOUR KIDS FUCKING PARTY. That is all.

@itsahalloweenone you're fucking bonkers.

Do not show up OP, you are not invited

Not as wild as the wife's friends' group chat will be the day after if Mum turns up

No it's not rude, it's not a family occasion it's a party for young people their own age, it's fair enough not wanting their parents around!

Also, why would you even want to hijack a Halloween party with no booze??? Of all the parties to try and get an invite to!

I would class my lack of invite as a lucky escape, not be trying to sneak my way in for a bottle of J20 and a sausage roll 😂

You will not have to jump in the car with either DS1 or DS2 because YOU ARE NOT INVITED.

Is this a reverse? There is no way I would crash my 20 year olds party. Ever.

No, you can't just show up to your adult child's party!!

You've not been invited.

Why are you so upset by not being invited? Or do you need the validation that you're still "fun"?

And you don't need to go on the car with your other two children either