Would you find this rude/be hurt by this? (Halloween party)

[itsahalloweenone]

A halloween party with over 20 people invited.

Couple are hosting it but they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends.

The reason given is that the couple want to be with people their own age (between 25 and 28 years old). Their parents are relatively young (both just turned 50 years old) and tend to mingle with their son's friends fine.

Would you find this rude? Why or why not? How would you address it on both sides?

Thank you

Wow, this is insane. I’m in my 50’s and I wouldn’t dream of turning up to my adult kids houses when I know they’re hosting a party. That’s shockingly rude form.

OP, you need to spend time making proper friends and not relying on your kids for company. They’re being kind to you by tolerating your batshittery.

If you’re lonely, ring a pal and arrange to go to the pub/for a meal/to the pictures. Stop imposing on your long suffering children.

Good god.. please don't crash your offsprings party!

It isn't even about the age - I have a bunch of friends who would enjoy a loud, silly halloween party.

I also have a bunch of friends who would die at the thought and rather sit around discussing ancient Mesapotamia.

I would not invite some of one group to a party for the other group, as it guarantees some of the attendees will not have a good time.

If you really WERE a cool, fun parent who fit the general vibe of this party, you'd have been invited. As you were not invited, it is pretty fucking clear you'll be as welcome as a fart in a space suit.

If they wanted you there they would have invited you.

They did not invite you, they do not want you there.

Please let this go and NEVER EVER mention it to them.

Are you the mum?
Are you offended you are not invited?

I am crying at some of these comments 😂

Absolutely brilliant thread!!!

OP, just because you get on with your children’s friends, does not make them YOUR friends. You are NOT invited, they cannot have been clearer. My arse do a bunch of 20 somethings not smoke, drink or so drugs at a party, either! I do and I am 51! if you do not want to spend the evening on your own, got out with your own friends or find something to do.

Wow… really appreciating this thread! I’ve not seen one person agree with op yet op is still saying “yes but what about x”. STAY HOME OP!!!

Dear Lord I thought this was a reverse!

Are you serious @itsahalloweenone ?

YABVVVVU. I wouldn’t dream of inviting myself to my adult DC parties.

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If this is trolling, it's absolutely top notch. 10/10. More of this please 😂

Ahh house parties of the 2000s.

I might throw a retro house party. Bottles of hooch and reef, horrible solid hash bars that dropped rocks and burned holes in your clothes, and bongs made of 2l sprite bottles and a carrier bag.

Chuck on some Tori Amos and someone pulling a whitey in the garden and losing the ability to walk, I'd feel like a 20 year old again.

We didn't even have Uber eats in those days to soak up the booze, someone would put a frozen pizza in the oven and then forget about it, and a smoke alarm would go off at 5am.

don't give her ideas 🤣🤣

No I don't think it's rude at all. I wouldn't expect to be invited either, it's perfectly ok for them to want to have party with people their own age as they have said. Your children are allowed to have a social life with their siblings and friends without inviting their parents every time, it's ridiculous to think otherwise.

100%

Push off! I have a bridge to sell her at a knock down price 😂x

I won't repeat the excellent advice already repeated many times....
I think parents can find it tricky to grasp that siblings can have a relationship outside of them. Whenever my brother and I meet up with the kids my mum gets offended that she wasn't invited. It's not that we actively don't want her there but we're going having a day with the kids. We text and talk. She doesn't need to be involved in every part of our relationship. Maybe there is a small element of this going on. Be glad your sons get on and are socialising together but you don't need to be involved.

I find it odd parents want to be invited when it's not their peers 😅

Let's see if this helps.

1. The parents are not invited
2. It's time to cut those apron strings and allow your adult children have parties in their own homes with whomever they want to invite and more importantly not invite.

Does that help clear up why they shouldn't show up??

Yes. Rude and controlling as they haven’t been invited

Yes. This would be horrendously rude if they hadn't been invited.

This is the sort of boundary trampling behaviour that causes people to go no contact with family members who will then claim to all and sundry that they have absolutely no idea why our Bill no longer talks to them and it must be the evil wife what caused it.

Please do go. Your kids deserve the chance to clearly see they need to put some distance in place.

Yes, because they were specifically NOT invited.

It would be WAYYYYYYY overstepping a boundary that the adult children are trying to establish

Anyone else getting Bitty vibes from mummy dearest?

That's really not your call to make.

It's certainly one of the most cringy hilarious threads I've read in ages 🤣🤣🤣