DH disappeared from campsite

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My DH went to the shop to get some bits for tea (shop 10 minute drive away) about an hour and a half ago. He isn’t answering his phone. We are on a camp site in the middle of nowhere. How long do I give it before I start stressing? And what do I do? Something about being so far from home is making me panic more than I normally would.

I don't mean to get off-topic, but do you all truly have husbands who will stop off while doing other tasks to randomly consume alcohol, before driving on? It's just incomprehensible to me.

I am pleased your dad recovered, your poor mum, she must have been distraught.

I am also really pleased you waited until the OP had heard that he was on his way back, I think that story would have sent her over the edge!

I found those responses really strange too. If I sent DH off to get food for me and some hungry kids, I'd expect him to go and get food and come straight back?! Who just wanders off for a pint when your family are expecting you to return. Especially if you're driving?!

Phew!

I think a quite large proportion of men would stop off for a quick pint, especially if they were camping in this weather 😆

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back now i hope op

If my DH did that I would really be shocked and think he was completely unreasonable. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't though. He refuses to drink drive, and he would feel guilty sitting relaxing in the warmth while his small children were hungry and waiting for dinner.

Glad he’s texted OP hope he’s back now, or soon.

Mine will sometimes stop for a cuppa on a camping holiday shopping trip, catch up on emails etc. I know he will always be a couple of hours!

But not late afternoon, if food was needed for dinner.

Glad he's on the way back! Posting on mumsnet is the equivalent of cancelling your taxi after an hour wait to see it then pull into your street 😂

My friends and family and I went camping and one of the blokes went the shop and got a flat tyre so was ages. Because I'm a horrible friend I kept reminding the others that the BTK serial killer went off from a campsite to commit a murder and we should all be treating poor flat tyre Sean with the utmost suspicion.
Luckily for Sean, nothing dodgy happened within travelling distance during his disappearance or I'd have built a full case on his guilt 😁

Lol me too.
And I am work hard, party hard type of girl.

But yeah, would not dream going to buy a loaf of bread and getting into a pub.
Not to mention if my partner was stuck in the middle of nowhere with DCs!

some sort of car trouble perhaps

I know literally no men who would even consider doing this? I have even asked my husband and he says the only explaination for that behaviour would be alcoholism, and he is someone who drinks regularly. It would just never cross his mind that he should leave his wife and children waiting for food so he could drink alcohol and then drive, putting his life and the lives of others at risk. Maybe a higher proportion of mumsnet users are married to bottom-of-the barrel degenerates lol

Shamelessly waiting to hear what happened...

Or they could just adult up, buy dinner and drinks and have a lovely family evening?
Or night with a wife and a bottle chilling while kids sleep?

I would tell off my teen son for sneaking up to a pub on his own on a family holiday.
Why are you not expecting adult men to behave like ones?

… same here…

So glad he's ok. But very curious as to what the drama was

We all need to know what he got up to

Glad he seems to be on his way back.

Many years ago my folks had a party, then were in their 30s at the time, dad was worse for wear and decides that the best place to have a wee was at the top of the garden. So off he goes. We lived way out in the country and beyond our garden was countryside for about 25 miles. Mum wasn’t really paying attention, enjoying the party. People start leaving and mum noticed that dad wasn’t there. It had been an hour or so since he’d gone for a wee. She went to the top of the garden, no sign of him. An hour or so later, still no sign. Most people left but a few people hung on. So of the men went off to check the fields behind the house. Nothing. After he had been missing about 4 hours the police were called. They checked as much as they could. Nothing.

5 hours later he strolled in, with the dog. He had no idea where he had been. As far as he was concerned he went to the end of the garden with the dog, had a wee and came back.

Since when is one pint in the afternoon bordering on alcoholism and putting his life, and the life of others, at risk? As a family who have always camped with small kids, I wouldn't blame anyone who sneaked off for a cheeky one whilst doing the shopping. I've just told my DH that according to Mumsnet he's a bottom of the barrel degenerate as he once sneaked off for a pint when taking the dog to the toilet! He raised his eyebrows at me and went back to his stamp collection....

Don't leave us hanging op

It's not having a pint in the afternoon that's an issue. Buying some beers to bring back to the camp site to have with dinner is not at all anything to raise an eyebrow at. Going out to get food for your family, knowing that they are waiting on you to be able to eat after their journey and unpacking, and choosing to stop off to consume alcohol, keeping everyone waiting, knowing you then have to drive on, would be suggestive that you need alcohol to function, yes. Because those who don't need it to function wouldn't even have the idea to do that cross their minds.

Also, clearly stopping off for a beer while out for a walk without people waiting for you to return so they can eat is clearly not the same thing as leaving your wife and young kids waiting up well into the night so they can have dinner while you're out drinking and driving because you couldn't wait half an hour for alcohol.

Drinking and driving is putting other people's lives at risk. Anyone who would consider it in anything but the direst emergency is a bottom-of-the-barrel degenerate, yes. This is only controversial to those with deeply warped morals.

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Glad he’s safe, but don’t let us down OP. We don’t want another lost ironing board in the flat type scenario 😁.

Whatever can have happened to be that long? Hope all is ok