What are markers that identify stangers or acquaintances as posh? Lighthearted!

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For me, it's a combination of accent, subtle, expensive haircut & highlights or that perfect shade of blonde..

🤣 but if you know you know 😉

Is thread so you can get pointers on how to pretend to be posh?
Most people on here will not know who or what is posh as most likely will never have encountered them.

The couple of Google box are they posh? Maybe

People in Made In Chelsea? Not so sure

David Cameron - yes

Most on here are Hyacinth Bouquet types and it's rather sad - nothing worse than trying to be something you're not.
Shouldn't be ashamed of your roots.
Nothing wrong with if your grandad was a miner and your dad a factory worker and now you're a £60k per annum salary worker in some office job - don't need to pretend to be posh - need to be earning a lot more than that to mingle with them, that goes for the broke ones with large run down homes too.

I think the confidence thing is very much a product of independent/public schools. All those kids are being groomed for uni, its not a case of ''I hope I get a (any) job after a school" its more of a "I will get into a good uni and study law/engineering/medicine" Throw in all those extra curricular activities (Duke of Edinburgh, sailing, theatre productions, debating club, ski trips etc) that your local comp can only dream of providing to the mix that add to a child's development in soft social skills it's hardly surprising that 18 year old girl/boy is brimming with confidence by the time they leave school.

I think most people judge on accent. My cousin is firmly middle class but has a cut glass accent (sounds like Joanna Lumley). I don't know where it's come from she's always had it! Anyway people assume she's posh.
A friend of mine similarly talked 'posh' and she really sealed the deal by appearing in the 'engaged' page in Country Life wearing pearls! She was there because her fiancé worked on the magazine, not because she was second cousin to the Queen. Once her work colleagues saw that she could not overcome it, despite the fact she went to a bog standard state school and her Dad was an accountant.
Truly posh people I know (actual royal connections) do have nice accents and a certain air of knowing their place in the pecking order, so to speak (and it's above you and me). And some certainly don't feel the need to impress with good grooming or smart clothes, though some do indeed have great grooming and fabulous clothes!
Some posh people have lineage and no money. They still have that air about them though.

A friend of mine similarly talked 'posh' and she really sealed the deal by appearing in the 'engaged' page in Country Life wearing pearls! She was there because her fiancé worked on the magazine, not because she was second cousin to the Queen. Once her work colleagues saw that she could not overcome it, despite the fact she went to a bog standard state school and her Dad was an accountant.

Yes, quite hard to convince anyone you're not actually posh after that, I'd imagine 😆

How is Kate unposh? She went to the best schools in the UK & lived in a beautiful red brick house growing up! Her parents also appear very well to do as do her siblings.

I think it is a case amongst her critics that she is not 'royal posh'. Yes she went to a top public school and enjoyed all the trappings of middle class wealth but the perceived blot on her copy book is that her mum went to a comp, worked as a flight attendant and later set up a mail order company. While to most people she would be seen as a success story to the aristocratic class she is a ruthless social climber lacking all the pedigree and qualities that are required to join the royal classes.

Diana was posh. Kate is middle class. Diana came from generations of old money. She was a lot less polished than Kate when they got engaged.

She's upper middle-class. What most people on here are describing is upper middle class.

The truly upper class look down on the likes of Kate Middleton and her family whilst lacking the manners (they were rude about her and her family) and morals (just look at the amount of affairs and mistresses in the royal family) because they don't need them because money and social status will get you out of it (Andrew and Epstein is a good example)

One of the things Diana (and Anne with Peter and Zara) did right was bring those children up with a sense of normality, she took them to Thorpe Park and McDonald's, took them to school etc. In doing so she made sure they weren't completely cocooned in the upper/aristocratic circle, which is why they have both married women who aren't from that circle, and Zara married a rather normal middle class Yorkshire man who just happened to be a good rugby player!

I don't know if this link will work but this is what I was thinking off. Basically, very wealthy women on holiday in the med. Probably staying at friend's massive houses / chateaux for free, with maid service to iron the beige linen clothes, simple gold jewellery as well.

www.pinterest.fr/pin/how-to-dress-old-money-17-musthave-fashion-essentials-in-2024--341358846772948787/

I disagree that being concerned about your appearance and the cleanliness of your home, etc, is necessarily "middle class". That implies working class people are not concerned about those things, which (as a person from a working class background) is not my experience.

Slobs occur in any class, of course 😄

That's very true about the money. We all aren't posh though!

The Middletons are well to do, but it's new money and it shows. You can see the effort they put into it all.

A five-acre voice. My neighbour has downsized to a three-bedroom semi with a tiny garden but still speaks like she's calling the dogs home across the estate.

But anyone with enough money to pay the fees can go to Marlborough. It’s not any indication of social class. Ditto anyone with sufficient money can buy a beautiful house. Those things are indicators of comparative wealth, not class status.

Tiara for her monocle for him.

…. Jokes aside, the few posh people I’ve known have been confident, calm and kind.

If they greet you with "What ho, old bean!" it's probably a giveaway 😄

Yes, I have read a lot of PG Wodehouse.

Really posh people hide behind a shield of politeness and manners. You are never sure who the real person is

My poshest friends are messy, messy houses, dogs everywhere, very old but very expensive clothes and mucky cars full of dogs....

But to be able to fit into aristocratic circles like herself & Pippa did surely meant they were very comfortable with themselves & had a very privileged background themselves.

Based on posh people I know:

Refers to parents (as an adult) as Mummy and Daddy or Mother and Father

Impeccable manners

Good at making conversation and would see this as a social obligation

Inherits rather than buys jewellery, art, houses, land, furniture

Loves animals but also happy to shoot them!

Holidays in their second home which is either in the U.K. or France

Chaps will have a gold signet ring. Ladies, particularly horsey ones, seem to have very slim legs which I am incredibly jealous of. I have legs like a shire horse 😑 I'll never be smart - too northern, darling! I still say bath not baaarth.
Those I have known who went to good private schools are terribly good with people and can chat to anyone and put them at ease. Is this taught, then?
Jilly Cooper's 'Class' is a brilliant book - quite dated now as it was written in the 70s but it's amazing how many of the characteristics still ring true now.

Interesting 😄

I have good legs (for my age...) but that's probably cancelled out in the poshness stakes by my northern accent.

Chaps will have a gold signet ring.

Does that make most professional darts players posh then?

Signet ring cancelled out by the darts-playing 😉