What are markers that identify stangers or acquaintances as posh? Lighthearted!

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For me, it's a combination of accent, subtle, expensive haircut & highlights or that perfect shade of blonde..

Can eat an apple with a knife and fork.

Doesn't have dessert or use serviettes.

Say they’re ‘Counting the pennies’ instead of saying they’re skint (I’ve noticed this with some friends)

Ah but the Middleton sisters do & Meghan plus all the royal girlfriends throughout the years.. Chelsea, Cressida, Florence...

Posh people never have cockapoo dogs. They have spaniels or labs. Some have Dalmatians.

A Mercedes, swimming pool and room for a pony ...

#Hyacinth

Yes a subtle glow!

This.

Plus they don't pay very much attention to what they wear and aren't interested in designer labels.

accent definitely.

I disagree with ironed and stain free clothes. I don't think posh people worry about crumpled clothes or the odd stain. They don't worry about outward appearances very much, and don't concern themselves with dressing to impress anyone.

My experience is that being particular about clean and ironed clothes, new shoes, neat hair etc. is very middle class.

Being concerned about your appearance, and about how clean and tidy your home and garden are is also very middle class.

I thought Hyacinth was firmly middle class. As is the concept of keeping up appearances and having any kind of chip on your shoulder.

Posh people don't worry what other people think of them or feel the need to keep up appearances.

The area I'm in, proper posh people wear crumpled linen/natural fibres looks at the moment, with effective looking sandals. They tend to walk fast and always seem busy and en route somewhere probably posh. The hair is usually blonde or light, maybe going grey, no highlights, and just thoroughly brushed with a mason Pearson. Looks like little effort goes into being proper posh if you were born most successfully.

I suppose it depends on how you define truly posh, really? Aristocratic old money is a different thing from someone who isn't really nouveau riche but whose money doesn't go back to the point where the silver is Georgian. I've met people who have enough money that they don't care at all what people think anymore, or their money is so old everyone expects them to be eccentric, and then people who still work for a living and consequently have to keep up with a different standard in terms of appearance. I would say that there comes a point where you are secure enough about your money that you don't feel the need to show it off all the time, but nonetheless, when you do buy things they won't be cheap tat. I would also say that posh people don't feel the need to show off labels or flash. You might recognise clothes, handbags, etc as being a certain brand if you are familiar with it but not because it's got massive logos all over it. Clothes are properly made with good materials; if you know how clothes are made you can spot the difference.

Things like personal grooming, I would say either you have so much money you don't need to give a toss and everything is very natural, or it's a lot of money spent to look like you naturally look amazing. When you're comfortable with your money you don't want to look like a try-hard.

Courtesy, self-confidence and accent.

Doesn't nip into the sea to have a pee 😐

Good shoes and a good watch, everything else is shabby.

Knowing where people should be seated according to their 'rank' at a formal dinner.

If female possibly own a tiara and have a maid, even if they have lost their money and are living in a cheap B and B.

Oh and are members of a club.

During Brexit....there was one particular period where it was all going quite badly. All the MPs had been trapped in a stuffy debating chamber, well into the night, for bloody weeks. The remainers were hopelessly cycling through all the parliamentary procedure they knew, in the hope this would make it better (It didn't). We were nowhere near a deal.
I don't remember what the debate was now, but there was one especially frustrating one that went on for ages noone really got what they wanted. Afterwards a number of MPs were interviewed in the lobby.

The ones from normal backgrounds were openly expressing anger and frustration. Nothing anti social (they're still professionals!) but slightly raised voice, gesticulating, strident language. You could see they were upset.

Posh MPs were completely contained. But with a rouge vein bulging on the forehead. Or violent twitching of a single muscle by the eye.

Lots of these sound like the next door neighbour in Ghosts 😂

Red trousers

I agree with ruthless behind close doors... There is one family at the dc's school who I would consider old money types, their dc have to be the best..

Easy if you use the horse disciplines.

Lower WC: flogging horses in traps on local roads, showing
WC: showing + show jumping
MC: eventing up to 1*, dressage
UP: eventing at 3* and above + polo + driving (at elite level) + possibly racing

New money: showjumping + dressage
Rich WC: racing

I'm LMC and do showing + dressage

Holidays are interesting.. Usually somewhere in the UK but not a center parcs type place.. France or Italy for summer hols or winter ski.

Mn skews aspirational lower-middle-class. As shown by how many posters think ‘poshness’ is a matter of golf, manners and ironing your clothes. (And anyone who has ever encountered the Buller or a number of other Oxford dining clubs would quickly be disillusion of the idea that the UC are inherently courteous.)

Agree that Kate Middleton/the PoW is visibly ‘unposh’.

Accent, and a certain sense of entitlement, often.

I met people who'd been to private schools for the first time when I went to university, and was struck by their general level of confidence and self-assuredness. Confidence is a good thing, of course, but I didn't have it back then and nor did most of my state school friends.

Not sure if that's poshness though or just money and private education.

You can be skint and posh and rich and not posh.
Most the half the royal family have grown up in a single parent household and they aren't screaming working class to me.
Posh traits: Very (over) confident in their abilities. Lots of name dropping of culture and art and genuine surprise that someone hasn't heard / seen the latest show.
Asking which school you/your kids go to...when they don't live in your city and yet weirdly they have never heard of Scunthorpe Comp.

My head hurts reading that😂