How am I supposed to stay in the same room as the baby for all naps?!

[Luertiak]

Just that really. I understand I am meant to be in the same room as my newborn for all daytime sleeps (obviously they are in the same room as us at night). But if he falls asleep in his moses in the living room am I then seriously not allowed to go for a wee or get a cup of tea or answer the front door to the postman? He sleeps for 2-3 hours solid sometimes. If you have a second DC then how do people work it then - surely you need to move around the house during the day?

I know people will say "the sling" but I can't believe that absolutely everyone with a newborn has them nap in a sling.

@luertiak trust your own instincts on this.

The chico Air 4-in-1 was a game changer. Meant I could wheel the baby about whilst he slept to be in the same room as me

No I don't, thanks very much. I've tried four different types, all with the help of my sling library. My baby does not like the sling.

As long as you’re checking in, I don’t see why you need to sit there constantly watching baby. Topped with sleep deprivation that’s going to drive anyone insane. I used to clean up while mine were asleep and just keep popping in to check on them. I have a happy healthy 6 year old and 2 year old. As someone previously said, you are asleep during the night when baby is x

I wasn't even suggesting that - I was literally talking about being away 2 minutes to make a cup of tea and then bring it back in!

Your HV and MW are just being arse-covering jobsworths. Ignore them.

Or maybe babies are different to each other and some will tolerate a sling and some not…

Or maybe I know my own baby and you know yours. You sound like a really pleasant and empathetic person anyway.

Blimey you’re insufferable.

The strong recommendation is that you do - for the first six months.

The point of Moses baskets is that they are portable. If you go to make and eat lunch in the kitchen, take baby with you. If you go for a shower, take baby with you.

You need to start trusting yourself, of course you can leave the room just keep checking and if you want to go to another room to do a longer task then take the basket with you . You know it's ok. You are asleep for hours (if you are lucky) so a wee or a shower or putting a wash on is fine.

I was also told never to carry the moses basket with the baby inside it 🤯

Thank god this advice did not exist when my 4 were babies. Most of Europe must think we are bonkers. Imagibe thinking carrying a baby around in a Moses basket while carrying a boiling cup of tea is safer than nipping out of the room and making a cup of tea. Insanity.

Also have Scandi family and yes babies nap outside all the time. Just use some common sense and don't nip out to the shops. Advice like this changes every few years.

Because it’s not about you hearing the baby. It’s about the baby hearing you, so they don’t fall into too deep of a sleep.

I wouldn’t do this as I had the handles snap on one of mine (baby wasn’t in it, I was moving it empty) x

This would surely be impossible if you have a baby and a toddler. Are you all supposed to stay imprisoned in one room? If the toddler runs to another room and gets into trouble do you have to do an immediate Sophie's choice?

Please do not ‘ignore it.’ The recommendations are there for an important reason - to prevent baby deaths.

Of course you can go and pee, make your self food and drink and answer the door. It's absurd to consider otherwise.

Babies have survived for centuries being left whilst parents got on with whatever they need to do. Very sadly babies do die from SIDs but they are the exception not the norm.

Good god, no wonder so many women end up with pnd.

when mine was younger they had all naps in their moses basket. Upstairs. And I switched on the baby monitor and did all the things I didn’t get to do while they were awake.

Oh so you have not only be in the room but making sufficient noise so the baby doesn’t sleep well but not so much noise that it wakes up?
listen to yourself. Insane.

How is my trying four different slings and seeking out a sling library to check the fit and make recommendations not trying and making excuses?