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Blake Lively, RR & It Ends With Us drama

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notallbloom · 16/08/2024 14:04

Have NC because I freely admit that I have (limited) skin in this game, I am not entirely neutral.

This tells the story of the rift better than I could video here more about JB here JB info

Have worked for Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds in the UK, they are ...erm not my favourite slebs to work with. BL can be nasty to staff, her I'm all for women thing would be great, if she wasn't awful to them in reality. RR sometimes apologetically, always sides with BL, as his wife.
However, she does have 4 young DCs, so has spent much of the last decade pregnant, or post partum, which is enough to make anyone tired and therefore appear 'difficult'.

As I am senior in my role, stars have to treat me with some decency. Even so, the mask slips, I do everything I can to make their time in the UK as comfortable as possible, whilst placating the staff they upset, I will not work with them if I can avoid it.

Justin Baldoni directed It Ends With Us, I do not know JB.

Anti JB side (note there isn't much information about what JB has done wrong):
• He was difficult on set.
• He was acting and directing, diluting his ability to do both.
• He has hired a the firm of PR crisis manager who helped to improve Johnny Depp's image during the Amber Heard trial.
• JB has a pro 'good' men podcast called Man Enough, largely it is positive. Unfortunately he had Drake Bell on the podcast and did not question his accountability for previous SA.

Anti BL side:
• BL is trying to give the film a Barbie moment, encouraging audiences, for a film about DV, to wear florals.
• BL has objected to two things; she says JB fat-shamed her on set and, in one scene kissed her for too long (no suggestion that the kiss itself was inappropriate e.g. tongue).
• BL & RR made a cut of the film, which emphasises the rom-com of the story, rather than the DV.
• BL has corralled the author, Colleen Hoover and the cast to 'unfollow' JB on social media.
• RR rewrote a scene for the film without being asked by the director in doing so, RR broke the writer's strike.
• The cast have not been doing any press or standing on the red carpet at the premieres with JB.
• BL is using the film promo to also promote her new hair brand.

It may be that JB was a massive a-hole, or it may be that BL was a 'mean girl' and used her considerable power to influence the rest of the cast to be unpleasant to JB.
The truth could lie somewhere in the middle.

This is everything I know, I did not work on the film, or the promotion of it, so far.
I am able to agree that I have direct experience of seeing what BL and RR are like IRL, whereas I do not have the same experience of JB.
I'm prepared to accept that JB is the villain here.
I do not have any further information about this situation, if any comes my way I will, without breaking my contractual obligations, write about it here.

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AngeloMysterioso · 21/08/2024 14:19

Catnope · 16/08/2024 15:46

I can’t with this becoming a “she’s only good looking because of plastic surgery” narrative. That’s deeply misogynistic and irrelevant.

She’s been clumsy on the press tour and her interview from 2016 was bad. But this has been blown up way more than it “should” have been, and it feels surprising.

I agree, it’s getting into witch hunt territory now, and I’m struggling to see what she’s done that is so terrible.

TheCryingTheBitchAndTheFloordrobe · 21/08/2024 15:01

Twistybranch · 21/08/2024 07:34

Just seen the name of the cocktail is ‘Ryle you wait’

Made using her Betty Booze products at the premiere of the movie.

Im actually lost for words

Yeah I was eye rolling at the "he said, she said" stuff but this is jaw-droppingly bad.

How could she be so tone deaf? Who on earth is advising this woman?

WhereDoWeGoFromHereBill · 21/08/2024 15:16

Who on earth is advising this woman? I think it is pretty clear that she advises herself. Her husband appears to be slightly scared of her so I doubt he dares to say anything. Plus, it takes humility to ask/listen to advice. Not a quality I think she is blessed with.

BehindTheSequinsandStilettos · 21/08/2024 15:18

AngeloMysterioso · 21/08/2024 14:19

I agree, it’s getting into witch hunt territory now, and I’m struggling to see what she’s done that is so terrible.

I have defended her to a degree on this thread but naming an alcoholic drink after an abusive character "I'll have two Ryles please" is pants. Someone's signed off on that.

I'd only ever let off Inside no 9 as they were Easter eggs for the fans! Wink Grin
(Riddle of the Aperol Spritz/A Diddle Diddle Daquiri/Last night of the Pimms/A bloody merrily-merrily/Mother's ruin martini/Whisky Sourskevidekatriaphobia )
they missed out Cold Southern Comfort

Covetthee · 21/08/2024 16:11

AngeloMysterioso · 21/08/2024 14:19

I agree, it’s getting into witch hunt territory now, and I’m struggling to see what she’s done that is so terrible.

  1. promoting her own business ventures and incorporating that into the film promo- she wanted this to be her Barbie moment but it was not

  2. Not even discussing the topic of the film when questioned and making light of the situation

  3. being bitchy to a reporter doing her job who was being nice and congratulating her on her pregnancy that she had announced anyways so not like the reporter was guessing and then being a sarcastic madam congratulating the reporter on HER bump ( who has since said this was very hurtful as she is infertile)

  4. using her husband in the promo to pretend to be a funny ‘controlling’ husband in an interview with her in screen live interest- which is SO tone deaf

TheCryingTheBitchAndTheFloordrobe · 21/08/2024 18:10

WhereDoWeGoFromHereBill · 21/08/2024 15:16

Who on earth is advising this woman? I think it is pretty clear that she advises herself. Her husband appears to be slightly scared of her so I doubt he dares to say anything. Plus, it takes humility to ask/listen to advice. Not a quality I think she is blessed with.

I think you're right. It must be so odd to go through life with zero self-awareness

WhatdoIdoooooo · 22/08/2024 00:38

Watched a few more interviews and just find her really odd…can’t work out if she’s trying to be funny, she seems to put people in an awkward situation, but it doesn’t come across as her being funny, it has a mean undertone to it and bitchy..very odd

HollyKnight · 22/08/2024 01:04

I feel like she tries to copy RR's sarcastic wittiness, but it doesn't come as naturally to her. It just ends up sounding a bit fake and mean.

GruffaloChildCrimbo · 31/12/2024 23:05

Wow! This thread makes interesting reading given what came out last week re JB.
(Sorry. Bored as fireworks cancelled and ironically, am about to bring in 2015 with Deadpool and Wolverine!).
I do wonder if any of the posters on here were disingenuous. That said, even one of my posts has aged badly (JB deferring to BL in the direction) and I was sticking up for her in the main.
I hope she gets paid $$$$$.
Kate Beckinsale's post on Insta today was eye-opening too.

PotatoPie111 · 31/12/2024 23:51

HollyKnight · 22/08/2024 01:04

I feel like she tries to copy RR's sarcastic wittiness, but it doesn't come as naturally to her. It just ends up sounding a bit fake and mean.

This is how I see them.

I like RR but I have read people say he’s actually not the same in real life, quiet and super controlling. Which makes sense with all the different business things he has going on.

notallbloom · 01/01/2025 01:02

Given recent events I had considered posting on here again.

Yes, I absolutely think that JB behaved abysmally on set.

Also there is potentially a USA PR war going on, this video explains it better than I can:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=thm9udTK5gI

Both things can be true at the same time: that JB was awful during filming and a Hollywood PR power play is going on.

As my OP said; I have worked with BL and RR while they are in the UK, way before It Ends With Us was filmed. They were both and I am being polite tricky. So much so that people plural working with them were brought to tears and wanted to resign.
Frustratingly BL and RR were pleasant to me and other experienced members of staff.

I'm lucky, I have done my time and I am moving to a different industry soon and Amen to that!

2024 was an eye opener for many.
In 2025 it is my hope that the USA entertainment industry and, to a lesser extent, the same industry in Europe, finally becomes a place where people can work safely, in every respect of the word.

Happy New Year everyone.

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Mirabai · 01/01/2025 15:03

notallbloom · 01/01/2025 01:02

Given recent events I had considered posting on here again.

Yes, I absolutely think that JB behaved abysmally on set.

Also there is potentially a USA PR war going on, this video explains it better than I can:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=thm9udTK5gI

Both things can be true at the same time: that JB was awful during filming and a Hollywood PR power play is going on.

As my OP said; I have worked with BL and RR while they are in the UK, way before It Ends With Us was filmed. They were both and I am being polite tricky. So much so that people plural working with them were brought to tears and wanted to resign.
Frustratingly BL and RR were pleasant to me and other experienced members of staff.

I'm lucky, I have done my time and I am moving to a different industry soon and Amen to that!

2024 was an eye opener for many.
In 2025 it is my hope that the USA entertainment industry and, to a lesser extent, the same industry in Europe, finally becomes a place where people can work safely, in every respect of the word.

Happy New Year everyone.

The linked YT video is a misogynist take on the whole saga. Brushing sexual harassment under the rug and focussing on BL’s response as equally bad. It’s the kind of guff one would expect from a YT loudmouth.

Taylorontour · 19/02/2025 15:10

What on earth is happening??

TurquoiseDress · 20/02/2025 17:57

...BL will have no career left after all the facts come out

And people are starting to realise the true colours of RR...well both of them in fact

GruffaloChildCrimbo · 20/02/2025 21:25

What facts would these be?

notallbloom · 26/02/2025 05:07

@Mirabai @Taylorontour @TurquoiseDress @GruffaloChildCrimbo

At this point the story is very, very long and is in litigation.
If you want information from the start I would suggest: Pop Apologists on YouTube they have 6 episodes specifically about this. Warning: the episodes are all over an hour.

The hosts of Pop Apologists, two women, start the same way that the majority of us would: Blake Lively was sexually harassed and they believe Blake.

Things take a turn as the story unfolds.

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Mirabai · 26/02/2025 09:08

I can’t speak for anyone else but I don’t watch that kind of nonsense on YT.

crockofshite · 26/02/2025 11:11

Mirabai · 26/02/2025 09:08

I can’t speak for anyone else but I don’t watch that kind of nonsense on YT.

You don't need to speak for me thanks.

I've just listened to the first ep on Spotify.

TurquoiseDress · 26/02/2025 11:44

Yes the Pop Apologists on Instagram, they have dozens of short videos focusing on specific aspects/questions

They did start very much supporting BL however as they went through the details their feeling very much swung the other

And yes, before anyone starts frothing at the mouth, I do realise there are many other sources of information out there for this case!

The JB website certainly makes for interesting reading...

TurquoiseDress · 26/02/2025 11:46

At the end of the day, we're all entitled to our own opinion/to draw our own conclusions

The only one which will matter in the end, is the judgement made in a court of law (unless there are some massive payouts made in the meantime)

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