We shouldn’t write them off as “thick, racist and lazy”. They might be those things, but we need to understand why they have ended up that way.
It’s so complex. We read threads on here about mothers who are seen telling toddlers in a buggy to “Shut the fuck up” if they make a noise. Those parents will no doubt have been parented the same way, and don’t know any different. Our hearts go out to these kids, but we lose all sympathy the second they become adults and expect them to miraculously undo the damage and become functioning members of society.
These men often won’t just have grown up in poverty, they’ll often have had no love or parental support or encouragement. They’ll be ‘lazy’ because they’ve never seen anything different. When everyone around them is long-term unemployed, that’s just ‘normal’ to them. How can you have aspirations unless you see something to aspire to? Of course they’ll know that people can get good jobs and live in nice houses, but they’re not people like them. They’re for the “others”.
They’ll have attended shit schools where staff don’t have any expectations of them, and they’d be shunned by their peers (or beaten up) if they worked hard.
By the time they’re adults they’re still psychologically like children. They’ve never been given the tools to grow. And I’ll get flamed but I’ll say it anyway - most of them couldn’t get a job, not just because the jobs don’t exist, but because they’re frankly unemployable.
They’re truly at the bottom of society’s pile. They don’t want to be, so they’ll look around for someone they can deem to be ‘lower’ than them. Often that’s ethnic minorities, and they’ll focus their anger on those people because they don’t understand who it is that’s really keeping them down.
Prisons are full of adult males with MH problems, substance abuse issues and attachment disorders who don’t know how to behave. It started with their parents telling them to shut the fuck up.
This is what we need to tackle if things are ever going to change.