I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

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I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

This. 👏🏻

What disgusting behaviour, I can’t imagine why any reasonable person would ever think to behave like this.

Please keep going to the gym and enjoying it, and your amazing progress and investment in yourself and your wellbeing.

i’ve come here to say fuck her and fuck that.

People are awful - throw her comments right out of your brain. fuck that.

hard no.

Keep your leggings.

Buy a book on manners and give it to her next time you see her. Say "I don't mean to be rude, but you might find this useful for getting through life in a positive way as I'd hate to think of people mouthing "what a bitch!" at you behind your back. I hope it's of some help".

I was 60 this year. I have started to feel really invisible. I would have been delighted that she actually noticed me and made time to comment on my appearance. I’d probably have thanked her for noticing me.
I’m about to start on my journey back to some form of fitness. After breast cancer treatment I’ve piled on 2 stone.
If you see her again make a point of thanking her for reminding you just how far you’ve come. Because if a bit of cellulite is all you need to worry about you are definitely doing well. However she may need to work a little harder on her manners which are in need of drastic improvement.

1. Don't let others who obviously lack something spoil your happiness; 2)don't let them rent space in your head; 3) consider the source of a comment; 3) someone looking beautiful on the outside isn't always beautiful on the inside. What she said to you tells you volumes about her.

What an absolute bitch! I’d tell her that, given age comes for all of us, cellulite will get her too one day and she won’t even have the benefit of a nice personality to compensate 👊

Congratulations on your incredible weight loss and please try not to waste another minute’s headspace on this vile serpent of a woman.

Well done for losing the weight and sticking to it. I'm at the start of that exact journey and really hope I can come on here saying I've lost 4st one day.

You have cellulite. No biggie. Most people do - even skinny models, but they airbrush it out. That's not the issue.

The issue is the woman who felt she had the right to say that to you. I don't like swearing on here very much - but what a bitch! Don't let her stop you from going to gym, and don't stop wearing those leggings!

WTAF. Are you seriously considering that this woman’s comments were ok in the first place?

What a delightful person she sounds! Just ignore her and keep going in whatever you feel comfortable in. Well done on the weightloss, 4st is amazing 🤩 👏

100% this.

Gyms are for everyone.

They will not be wanting customers put off.

Word gets round if a gym is 'bitchy' - very bad for business.

Mine too. And agree with this school bully comment.
You keep doing you and well done that's a bloody huge amount of weight!

Unbelievable really but whatever you do, keep wearing the same leggings at least for the next few weeks as you don't want her thinking her comment has influenced you.

There's actually something wrong with that woman. Such ugly behaviour.

If I’m being charitable I’d say she has terrible issues and you should feel sorry for her.

But I’m not being charitable so let’s call her what she’s is - an absolute cunt. You can bet your bottom dollar she was “that” girl at school and she’s never grown out of it.

Do not let this woman get to you, she’s jealous of what you’ve achieved and wants to put you “back in your box”. Rock up to the gym wearing whatever the hell you want and if she ventures an opinion again, smile sweetly, tilt your head to one side and, with a patronisingly tinkly laugh, say “Thank you so much, I’ll bear that in mind”.

Then carry on being your fabulous self.

Well done for all your hard work!!

Don't you dare not go back!

Wear wtf you like!!

The gym is not a fashion parade. We all look a sticky sweaty mess by the time we are done. Caring what you look like like her would just he exhausting.

Don't let one arsehole spoil it for you. Trust me 99.9 percent of us are all just doing our own thing and the only thing we look at anyone else for is if they are giving ideas as to different exercises/uses of equipment.

Anything else says far more about them than it does about you.

Some people are sadly rotten to the core. Don’t let anyone dampen your spirit! You’ve done amazing. Kindness costs nothing. I would hate to be someone like her.

Besides which, you're at the gym to get fit and for that you need to be comfortable. Personally I find leggings more comfortable than joggers for exercising and don't give a stuff what my arse looks like in them.

She is incredibly rude and nasty.
Please take no notice of her and keep going to the gym, I’m sure you look great and feel great.

Cellulite is natural - it has been demonised by womens magazines as a way of propping up the diet industry for decades. She's ridiculous and deserves to be reported to the manager for her behaviour. Imagine making it to adulthood and still acting like a teenage bully - how embarrassing for her!

No need to spend more than half a second concerning yourself about what some idiot thinks.
For future reference:
”I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers.”
“Well you are rude, very rude and unpleasant, and I don’t give a feckity feck whether you can see my cellulite. I can see your ugly personality and I’d rather have cellulite. Bye.”

Nope. It's really not normal to comment on a stranger's clothes. OP you've done really well. Is there a chance that she's seen your improvement and is envious? She may be stunning but could also be insecure about her body. What she said sounds designed to bring you down. Don't give her the satisfaction!

You can choose to be the weight you want to be. She will always be a bitch.

Horrible woman!! I’m so sorry this happened to you. Keep going back, wearing exactly the same thing. Most women have cellulite, it’s completely normal and even if it wasn’t- what a nasty piece of work she is.

Definitely report her. How dare she....I'm sure you aren't the only one who has recieved such vitriol.

I bet you look amazing and shes jealous. What you have achieved takes real focus. I admire your restraint.

Could you possibly manage to think that she's done you a favour with a style tip and not give her a moment more of your time? What you've achieved in the gym is worth a thousand times more than this stupid remark. I bet a lot of people there are impressed by your progress.