I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

[DeclansAFeckingDream]

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

First of all, well done you for all the hard work to lose weight and get fitter - it's a massive achievement! Please don't let this woman put you off, she's just a nasty bitch who gets off on putting people down. It really says a lot more about her than you. I would speak to a member of staff at the gym - I'm sure they have rules about how to conduct yourself and her unsolicited comment amounts to harassment and abuse. It's totally unacceptable and I hope they ban her from the gym, the evil little cow!

Bitch. Really gyms need to be more inclusive. She is damaging their business. Can imagine easily that you are not the only one

Being a fat woman who likes to gym I'd be greeting her heartily every time and asking brightly if there is anything she would like to comment on today.

Don't let her push you out of your space. When you take up space you represent all women.

Yeah she sounded really helpful and friendly, giggling to her mate about it afterwards 🙄

She’s a cunt. Report her to the management for harassment because that’s exactly what it was. She deserves to lose her membership.

Why? Because she's a nasty little bitch. Just think how pathetic and sad she must be inside (ignore the 'stunning' facade) to deliberately try to upset you. Happy, content people don't behave like this.

Personally I'd now wear those leggings every time I go to the gym and just stare her down.

In response to OP:

I would say this absolute piece of work has issues within herself and you should take absolutely no notice. What a sad case she is. Trying to make you feel bad in a bid to build herself up. Tragic.

What a complete arse

Even Olympians have cellulite

She is not nice. Why does it matter if you have cellulite ffs. You don't need to be a super model to go to the gym. What a horrible horrible person. Try to forget about it. It really doesn't matter. She is not an adult.

Fuck her. It's people like this that keep too many others away from the gym.

Keep going, you've done fantastically well and shouldn't feel bad based on one spiteful person's opinion.

Maybe she is jealous of you. Wear the leggings and give no fucks.

And mention it to the staff at the gym if you have the chance.

This, 100%.

I'm so sorry that happened to you, OP.

If it helps, I was once helping out at a coffee morning, and a guest was extremely rude to one of the other helpers, who was a very classy lady. She blanched for a second and then said to the rude guest "oh, I DO hope you find some happiness in your life", smiled at her and walked off.....rude guest went bright red and left soon after.

Well she might look good on the outside but is rotten on the inside. Still stuck in school bully mode too. Who knows what she will look like at 57?

Good for you for sticking at it OP and all your progress so far. When you see her next think of that bad apple that’s all shiny and juicy looking but full of maggots on the inside 🍎 🐍

You have done amazing and it is fantastic that you love going to the gym 4/5 times a week. What she said is very much a reflection of the type of person she is and nothing to do with you. I feel sorry for her. I am so sorry this happened. Please try not to let this silly excuse of a "woman" dull your sparkle - you have achieved what many of us could only dream to do.

The gym at our local leisure centre has staff who you can book a few sessions with and they will talk to you about goals and design a programme for you to follow. Would you be able to do that at your gym? It might make you feel more confident if you had a few sessions with one of their trainers ☺️

Her comment is a reflection on her and how miserable her life must be to go around saying such nasty things to an absolute stranger. Doesn’t matter how great she may look, much better to be you than be so horrible and twisted like her

Absolutely I would do this,how dare she?! I've recently done the same OP, I seem to be stuck at 3.5 stone off though and haven't ventured into the gym yet so you're doing tons better than I am!

I'd report her to gym staff. I really would. That's very nasty. I'd tell them you don't feel comfortable coming back. They may well deal with them. I doubt they'd want members harassing other members.

Congratulations on your weight loss.

I will pass on what the lovely PT at my gym said at my induction.

”people actually here to exercise don’t give one shit what you’re wearing or what you look like, they only care about their own routine and results. Everyone has to start somewhere.’

She sounds like a right cunt and I would have looked at her as if she was a right stupid cow and told her that I don't give a shit what she thinks and if she is around next time she might see me in something see through

She's a bitch . Carry on enjoying the gym and ignore her . Who in their right mind would say such a horrible thing

‘I don't mean to be rude, but your projected insecurities about your own body image aren’t my problem. Body-shaming is so early 2000s. Now fuck off.’ 😁

OP, please don’t give this person another second of your time and energy. I’m a size 18 woman who loves my body, teaches yoga, climbs hills, can deadlift like a boss. These things mean I’ve met people (male and female) for whom it appears to be deeply upsetting to realise that actually, no, not everyone on the planet is as obsessed with looking like a walking instagram filter as they are AND that plenty of people who aren’t ‘perfect’ are fit and healthy and love themselves. It must be very unsettling for them, poor dears.

Seriously, imagine being THIS insecure and nasty. Be glad you’re not her and if she ever opens her mouth near you again, complain to the gym manager that she’s harassing you with personal comments and get her sad ass kicked out.

I'm betting she's envious of your confidence and trying to bring you down. Bullies like to build themselves up this way.

Screw her. She’s just a bitch.

You, on the other hand @DeclansAFeckingDream , are an inspiration! I’m 55 and could do with losing several stone and taking up proper exercise - you are a fabulous example.

She's a cunt. That is all.