I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

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I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

She's a shallow idiot. I think you're fantastic. Do not let it knock your confidence. Easy said I know but you're doing this for you. Not some Instagram vacuous look at me bullshit that I'm betting she's into.

How dare she!

Perfectly put! Every day of the week OP.

She might be super fit and stunning but her ugly really showed there.

Op to be honest that sounds like she has massive issues of her own. Firstly, you can be very slim and have cellulite- it's very normal. Secondly, who is going to the gym like its a fashion show? You're there to work out not peacock.

And thirdly go you, you've worked very hard and you absolutely deserve to feel great and own your space. No matter what size anyone should be able to walk through life without others trying to drag them down. My guess is she has really unhealthy attitudes to food and weight and probably has a disordered approach to weight/ health. Noone balanced with a reasonable mindset would ever think that was OK to say.

FFS, that's awful OP, I'm so sorry. Unfortunately some people never grow out of the playground mentality.

Please don't let it stop you going to the gym, you are doing something good for yourself.

What a dick.

Amazing she managed to say so many words with her head up her arse.

I hate gyms - this is why I exercise at home.

For the social side pick a sport. IME people who play sport are actually doing the thing people who only train in gyms forget about…doing the actual thing you’re meant to be training for. It isn’t aesthetics, it’s health and self improvement.

Fuck her.

Wow, that's shocking.
I'd have a think about your OP too, and in your head, stop saying this woman was "stunning" "fit" etc.
She's an ugly person through and through.
You are doing amazingly, well done on your determination and achievements you deserve to be congratulated!

Bloody hell she is utterly vile. Hope you are ok op, you sound lovely and have done fantastic for your health.

I know it's easier said than done but please don't let her get to you. She's not worth it.

What an absolute cow. While she's not worth a second of your time, I am not sure I could keep quiet if I saw her again.

I'm not sure what i'd say, but she's an outright bully and needs to be called out.

OP you're the better person, 100% .

I had someone tell me similar (less awfully) about a pair of Nike leggings in electric blue that I had “worked up” to wearing

basically it was along the lines of “you prob know can totally see your knickers through the leggings but I love that you are doing full squats and giving zero fucks”
I was like 😳🫣😵‍💫🤯

many many many women’s leggings are basically see through it’s totally annoying.
Being charitable she might have meant it this way.

please do go back to the gym… ignore her and do not let her steal your health and happiness.

It was a mean pointless thing to do…
i personally wish her luck, no health and no happiness on your behalf…

Unbelievable that a stranger would come to you and say that. Unbelievable

I assume she is deeply insecure and is trying to make others feel as badly as she does (but no doubt tries to hide with an OTT display of self confidence).

Misery loves company and,like a fucking leech, she's trying yo suck your hoy away. She can fuck right off. Don't let her stop your progress. Keep going to the gym and wear your leggings with pride!

I’m sorry you encountered a cunt.

That is insane! I’m so sorry she said that to you. I would take this up with the gym manager and ask them what they’re going to do about her membership to avoid you escalating your complaint. Don’t let her deter you. She may be stunning but she’s ugly where it actually matters, on the inside

Speak to the gym team it will be on camera , so they can deal with her.
The gym should be an inclusive space and she sound like a nasty piece of work .
Complain sooner rather than later so the video isn't recorded over.
Remember options are like arseholes everyone has one but it doesn't need to be shared x

If it were me I’d put the leggings on and have a really good look from the back. Just because it’s a decent brand I’d want to make sure they weren’t worn to the point of being see through when I bent over. She might not be being a complete bitch abd might actually be trying to help. Some women’s leggings really are rather see through and noone tells them.

well she's a bit of nasty fucker isn't she! Ought to be spending her time and money on therapy, not the gym, and certainly not on shitting all over others' hard work and achievements.

Don't be mortified her comments say more about her than you. Head held high deep breath and ignore. You are doing brilliantly ❤️

This I would email the gym and explain your post and provide a description - they may have cctv and can identify her.

You are a beautiful person inside and out. She may be beautiful on the outside but is vile on the inside.

Be so proud of yourself and please report to the gym.

I do have cellulite, loads of it. I definitely didn't think that it was visible in my very boring leggings. I'm annoyed with myself because I just left and didn't do my workout, so I let her win really.

I see her quite a lot and always think how lovely she looks and she's so focussed she really knows what she's doing. I kind of fumble my way around the gym I guess, but so many other people have been so nice and helped me use the equipment properly, so I suppose I should focus on that really. Thank you all for being so nice.

Grrrrrr! if you see her again.............. "I dont mean to be rude but you are a rude and nasty person. Hope that helps"
Well done on your fabulous weight loss and gym adventure. Complain to the staff and dont horrors like her put you off. x

Completely agree with this.
It's her own lack
of self esteem talking, nothing to do with you really

People who are happy in themselves don't notice or focus on others or try to cut them down
Sorry for her that she's so nasty
Go back, wear what you like head up

Well done on your weight loss, don't let other people control what you do

Ought to be spending her time and money on therapy, not the gym

This would be a great comeback if you’re unfortunate enough to encounter her again.

Don’t stop going to the gym. Ignore the bitch and her friend. If she approaches you again tell her to foxtrot oscar as you don’t care for her opinion as you haven’t asked for it.

I'm not doubting you OP but struggling to get my head round it - WTF! Honestly, I would ask for a meeting with the club manager/ membership manager and make a complaint about abusive behaviour from another member. I do think this person should be identified and at the very least given a warning. Please look at the membership/behaviour policy and take it with you. This is more than bad manners. This woman is counting on the fact she'll have shamed you enough to keep quiet. The shame is entirely hers - report her please and hold your head high for all your achievements.

OP, you should make a complaint about this bitch. Alert the manager to the fact you’ve been upset and bullied by this person. Be vocal about naming and shaming the company if they don’t deal with bullying.