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I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

633 replies

DeclansAFeckingDream · 03/08/2024 22:12

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

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tempname1234 · 05/08/2024 09:12

Please, please ignore this person Do not let them make you feel bad. Something is wrong with them. They have the problem.

I would go to management and tell them what happened, how it made you want to quit. They should know there is a bitchy clique doing this to their patrons. You can be sure you’re not the only one this b*h has done this to. She needs to be called out in her bitchiness.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 05/08/2024 09:33

Don't you feel embarrassed! Hold your head up high and get back out there. She’s the embarrassment not you. Giggling and whispering with her mate how old is she? 15. She’s probably gone on merrily for a long time putting people down and mocking them and never being called out but it’ll happen. She’s also not as confident as she’s acting. If she believed she was so perfect why does she have to try to belittle others. Confident people never put others down they don’t “need” to.

Investinmyself · 05/08/2024 09:37

Good on you saying something to manager.

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Madamum18 · 05/08/2024 10:26

Next time if there ever is one have a reply ready "Oh well if you find my cellulite do offensive I suggest you dont come to this gym!" Then just ignore her

shehasglasses48 · 05/08/2024 11:59

Well done on losing the weight! Please don’t let that person’s comment detract from your achievement and feeling good about yourself. She might be perfecting her body in the gym, but her personality is a lost cause x

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 05/08/2024 12:27

I laughed (in a good way!) at your comment about people who say "I don't mean to be rude..." and how they often very much do...

If she comes up again and starts "I don't mean to be rude...! You already have the perfect reply up your sleeve.
"Yes actually, I think you do. Please do not speak to me again!" and grey rock from there.
Glad to hear this hasn't put you off going and doing something that you enjoy and which benefits you. Three cheers for you! xx

pollymere · 05/08/2024 13:05

"Joggers might improve my visual appearance - it's a pity you can't do anything about your personality".

She might have just been trying to be helpful rather than rude. Certainly don't let her put you off going to the gym.

GrannyWeatherwaxsBroomstick · 05/08/2024 14:37

Some people are not beautiful, they only look as though they are. Can’t remember who said it, but I always remember it.

Hecatoncheires · 05/08/2024 14:50

Wahine24 · 04/08/2024 19:34

Ignore her if she's there again, no point giving her head space, but if she does approach you a "polite" response is ..
Can
U
Not
Thanks
Said with a smile, it's outwardly polite but you've just called her a......😁

Edited

Another fun one:

"There
We
Are
Then"

Big smile at surreptitiously calling them a twat.

OP, good for you going back to the gym. 4 stone weight loss is a fantastic achievement, you should be so proud of yourself. Keep on rocking those leggings!

Hecatoncheires · 05/08/2024 14:52

pollymere · 05/08/2024 13:05

"Joggers might improve my visual appearance - it's a pity you can't do anything about your personality".

She might have just been trying to be helpful rather than rude. Certainly don't let her put you off going to the gym.

In what way could the person's comments be described as being helpful?

I saw an FB reel recently for little kids wrt commenting on another person's appearance - the message of which was 'if the person can't fix it in 30 seconds then don't mention it'. Pretty sensible rule of thumb.

Clingfilm · 05/08/2024 15:02

Wow! Was she 14? Nasty woman, let's hope karma gets her.

Please don't be put off, you've done amazingly, keep at it, and if you see her at the gym again kiss your finger, touch your backside and do a sizzle noise 😉

If she says anything again you'd be well within your rights to say 'fuck off you rude bitch'.

NoDought · 05/08/2024 15:25

Ahh what a spiteful woman, anyone who precedes a sentence with ‘I don’t mean to be rude’ knows they are being rude. You describe her as a stunning woman but she in fact sounds really ugly. No one can take away the fact she has said that but don’t let her win, continue to wear the leggings and work on building some courage to think of some come backs the next time you see her, to really put her in her place.

Ek1234 · 05/08/2024 15:44

Congratulations on your amazing weight loss. Don't let this nasty woman upset you. Keep going to the gym, holding your head high and be proud of your achievement.

Fernticket · 05/08/2024 16:25

Hecatoncheires · 05/08/2024 14:50

Another fun one:

"There
We
Are
Then"

Big smile at surreptitiously calling them a twat.

OP, good for you going back to the gym. 4 stone weight loss is a fantastic achievement, you should be so proud of yourself. Keep on rocking those leggings!

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dottiehens · 05/08/2024 17:14

Imagine how wonderful you look that the bitches are coming to bully you. This is their issue not yours. Karma will catch up with her. Well done for your path to health and wellness!!!

TrtseHkpr · 05/08/2024 17:24

What a repellent human being. I'd make a formal complaint to the gym about her behaviour. Well done for all your hard work, if she tries anything again tell her where to go.

AmIEnough · 06/08/2024 07:42

Oh my goodness! I cannot believe she actually said that to you! What a unkind and thoughtless thing to say! You crack on and enjoy yourself at the gym and bloody well done for taking control of your life and reaping the rewards of your new slim body! Nobody has the right to make you feel like that so just ignore her and take her for the shallow person that she clearly is.

CameltoeParkerBowles · 06/08/2024 11:28

DeclansAFeckingDream · 03/08/2024 22:12

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

"Thank you for your unsolicited opinion, random woman" [eyeroll]
Apologies if a hundred people have already suggested this - I haven't RTFT.
What a first class dick that woman was.

unhappywskid · 06/08/2024 12:40

First of all, congratulations on your weight loss and discipline to go to the gym and focus on taking good care of your body. Now, this woman, how old is she? 14? Is she in one of those teenage school movies or something? I know it can be very discouraging to hear something like that when you're so invested in making this happen. Some years ago I was in the middle of a weight loss program, I was really proud of myself and happy about having the discipline to change. Out of the blue, a "friend" called me - she literally rang me - to say she was worried about me because I was losing weight and she feared I was going to get ugly. I was so determined to change that I said to her: I appreciate your worrying about me, but this is my life project and it is going to happen, regardless of what everybody thinks.
It all boils down to the fact that this stunning lady doesn't want any competition, as she's probably noticed how motivated you are to achieve your goals. You made a deal with yourself that you were going to change, and you owe it only to yourself. Whoever tries to get in the way of that is barking up the wrong tree. Stay positive!

CoraPirbright · 06/08/2024 18:46

You rock OP!! Let us know if you see the bitch again (and the snickering friend) or if, please 🙏 god, they have been banned!!

Beth216 · 06/08/2024 18:50

Fucking hell what a bitch.

Beth216 · 06/08/2024 18:52

DeclansAFeckingDream · 04/08/2024 19:29

Well I went to the gym earlier (closes at 4 on a Sunday) and I spoke to one of the managers. He was absolutely lovely and pretty appalled when I told them what this woman said to me. What was especially interesting is that he didn't seem any way surprised when I told him who it was, which made me feel like the playground snitch and I felt very uncomfortable. But I got the feeling from his comments that this is not her first rodeo in this department. I'm hoping if that's the case, that they take action.

Wow that really brave of you OP! Well done for standing up for yourself and every other person she's thought she was entitled to insult.

Primrose97 · 06/08/2024 18:53

If she says anything else you could respond “Well I’m working on my cellulite and it will improve but you’ll always be a bitch!” 💐

Yalta · 07/08/2024 04:25

I would ask how long it took her to realise that your cellulite could be seen through your leggings. It could well have been the pattern or shape of the legging or you had something on underneath so she must have been really looking at your legs for some time to be certain it was cellulite and not anything else as a passing glance wouldn’t have sufficed and then she spent time coming over to you to say what she did

Bit creepy. Why is she eyeing up women who are just working out.

VeryHappyBunny · 07/08/2024 11:15

The more I think about this, the more I am convinced that you should not engage with her at all. She sounds the sort of person who wants to wind you up, don't let her. You have told the management and it is up to them to deal with her. If she comes over to you and makes another sarky comment, say nothing, look her up and down, shrug your shoulders and turn away and carry on with what you were doing. This will annoy the hell out of her much more than saying anything. You don't want it to descend into a slanging match. You need to keep the moral high ground. It is so tempting to reply and even more tempting to smack her in the mouth, but honestly, resist the urge. You don't sound like the sort of person who would do that anyway. If she does say anything in the future then go to the management again and just tell them. It is their job to manage and that means making the gym a pleasant and happy place for all. You can point out to them that you are probably not the only one she has done this to. They are the ones who need to take action, not you. You just keep on doing what you have been doing because from her reaction to you it is obviously working.