I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

[DeclansAFeckingDream]

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

one young girl who told me off for walking in front of her camera while she was filming herself

Dear God, I don't think I could be polite to someone like that. Hilarious.

That's disgusting what horrible people . That's absolutely amazing what you have achieved

She's a c.u.next.tuesday. Tempted to advise you to run her over in the car park.

What a hideous human being. Keep going you sound like you’ve done incredibly well

How incredibly rude, and nasty. Don’t take any notice of such a spiteful bitchy person. My Trini friend always says”what goes around comes back around”. Maybe it’ll come back and bite her in the bum!
Be proud about what you’ve achieved and don’t let this nasty bitch put you down.

Next time you see her go and use a machine after her and ask loudly if she can wipe the butt sweat off the seat. Get your own back!

..or take the high road

She may look beautiful and slim on the outside but she’s made up of smelly poo on the inside! Awful human!

I’d rather be an inspirational, ambitious woman who’s lost 4 stone than a skinny bitch like her!

What a vile thing to say, and sadly we can't always predict when people are going to say something so outlandish and cruel. A good go to response is to keep saying "pardon?" And asking her to speak up. Repeat until she looks an even bigger twat. Or state "I know, fabulous aren't they"

Ideally I'd channel my inner Karen Walker and look her up and down and comment "oh sweetie, what's all this, what's going on, what are you wearing?"

I hope her next turd is a pinecone.

Firstly, huge congratulations on your fitness journey so far! You’re amazing, and you should be so proud of what you’ve achieved.

Secondly, cellulite is so incredibly normal, no matter what size or shape you are. I still have cellulite when I’m at my leanest, even when stepping on stage for a bodybuilding competition!

And thirdly, I am SO SORRY you had to experience that. People who feel like behaviour like that is acceptable have their own deep rooted issues and it’s very much a her problem, not a you problem, but these experiences can be incredible hurtful.

I would strongly consider reporting it to the gym manager if you feel able to, as this sort of behaviour is often not tolerated in these gyms and she doesn’t deserve to take up space in a gym environment is she’s going to act like that.

What a horrible bitch. I can’t imagine anyone in my gym (full of all shapes and sizes) ever saying anything like this. I’d have a word to them if I overheard it too!

Keep your head up OP. You’ve done amazingly well and your health is far too precious a thing to let this woman distract you.

Do NOT change your kit.

If you see her next time, tell her, her figure is great, but she's a complete c*nt, and no amount of exercise can change that!

Well done for putting in the effort OP, it takes alot 👏 don't let some idiot bring you down x

Well I went to the gym earlier (closes at 4 on a Sunday) and I spoke to one of the managers. He was absolutely lovely and pretty appalled when I told them what this woman said to me. What was especially interesting is that he didn't seem any way surprised when I told him who it was, which made me feel like the playground snitch and I felt very uncomfortable. But I got the feeling from his comments that this is not her first rodeo in this department. I'm hoping if that's the case, that they take action.

Wear some short shorts so she gets a really good look.

I’d mention this to a manager, it’s totally out of order and potentially damaging to their business. Gyms are for all.

Well done for going back OP. Don’t let this person put you off

Well done!

I wouldn't be surprised to learn that she's done this kind of thing before.

Ignore her if she's there again, no point giving her head space, but if she does approach you a "polite" response is ..
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Said with a smile, it's outwardly polite but you've just called her a......😁

Good for you, I hope you feel a little better having reported it. Well done for going back. Keep going sounds like you're doing a fab job!

I hope they suspend her or something like that !

What an awful person. She must be really insecure in herself to want to make a stranger at the gym feel bad. Well done for going back and reporting her.

What an absolute b£tch!

honestly, they sound like they have no friends and questionable humour.

I bet you look stunning and better than those two bags of poo. You bloody wear what you want and to hell with them, I bet they’re gutted you look and exercise better than they do, that’s why they’ve been mean.

Go back in tomorrow and wear hot pants, and if they say anymore tell them in no uncertain terms “to mind their own f’ing business and don’t be so bloody unkind”. Say it loud and proud.

never give people like this any headspace, congratulations for all your dogged hard work!

people like this get my flipping goat, and I hardly ever swear!

She sounds like an absolute dick.
Keep going and don't let her get you down at all. I'm sure you looked great in your leggings.

Aw OP I'm sorry. I've been on your journey and it isn't easy. The best comeback I have ever heard (and really want the opportunity to say it 🤣) was when a young, larger woman joined the gym. Very self conscious and shy. A woman about her age commented on her clothes and how she should cover up as her rolls were showing. Quick as a flash, another woman told her "I think you need a paper bag, your ugly is showing"

All of the above! Don’t let such a thoroughly revolting person spoil what you have achieved..keep going and hold your head up high!

The phrase you need in such a scenario OP is “it’s a good job I don’t give a shit what you think then isn’t it”. Pay no mind. You are awesome! ❤️

I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

Why? Because she is a wagon and her giggling friend along with it.