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I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

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DeclansAFeckingDream · 03/08/2024 22:12

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

OP posts:
IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 04/08/2024 21:49

Well if its a choice between cellulite or being an utter b*tch I know which I would choose!

Wahine24 · 04/08/2024 21:49

@WearyAuldWumman many years of customer facing jobs :) It makes me smile because it seems so neutral but you know what it means

TheFormidableMrsC · 04/08/2024 21:50

To add to my previous post, I was out with my son last week, a really hot day. We went to paddle in a local river that is popular on warm days. I saw a woman wearing a really gorgeous shorts jumpsuit, she was really tall and very slim, beautiful figure. I really admired her look. Later on she got up and turned round and she had quite severe cellulite. I was a bit taken aback if I'm honest. However, my first thought wasn't "let me tell her something she already probably knows and make her feel shit", it was me wondering how I've avoided it with my additional podge. My point is you can be very slim and still get it, it's nothing to do with your weight and is often just genetic.

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WearyAuldWumman · 04/08/2024 22:01

Wahine24 · 04/08/2024 21:49

@WearyAuldWumman many years of customer facing jobs :) It makes me smile because it seems so neutral but you know what it means

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JMSA · 04/08/2024 22:04

Fucking bitch!
I absolutely want to smack her one.
I'm so sorry this happened, OP, but PLEASE don't let this arsehole put you off.
And well-done on your weight loss. You are an actual inspiration.

Nanny1965 · 04/08/2024 22:05

This made me so mad. How awful... have a word with the staff there. Next time you see her say "oi, big mouth" you speak to me like that again and I'll knock you into next week.

LackOfSleepCBA · 04/08/2024 22:32

I'd feel like saying back at her 'I don't mean to be rude, but your face does nothing for you because you can see your nasty rude bitchiness shining through, you might be better with personality transplant'.

Tittyfilarious · 04/08/2024 22:34

What an absolute bitch, take absolutely no notice op she said purely to be horrible

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 04/08/2024 22:35

DeclansAFeckingDream · 03/08/2024 22:12

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

Because she’s a cunt and an ugly one at that.
Sorry you had a shit experience.
Well done on your health journey. Don’t let her get in your head x

NoisyDenimShaker · 04/08/2024 22:56

Just had a thought: I wonder if it's a power and control thing, as in, she would get off on you not wearing the same leggings anymore. Because in her sicko mind, she'd been able to control you in some small way, which would make her happy.

Keep wearing those exact same leggings!!

Moll2020 · 04/08/2024 23:06

Because she’s a bitch.

restingbitchface30 · 04/08/2024 23:08

She’s a bitch. A horrible person. Do not let this put you off. You keep doing your thing. You are 57 and sound in great shape as a size 12, you should be proud of yourself.

OhcantthInkofaname · 04/08/2024 23:29

The only thing I can say is treat yourself some smaller leggings. If they can see cellulite then you need more compression. You keeping at it at the gym will compress that cellulite.

If she happens to say something again or you see her tell her to NOT look. Body shaming is bullying.

JSMill · 04/08/2024 23:42

Fernticket · 04/08/2024 21:35

OP, she has probably been watching you over the months getting slimmer and fitter and sees you as a threat. If she has time to notice what you are wearing, she obviously isn't working out hard enough herself, that and the fact that she hasn't got a life. It might be worth pointing that out to her if she gives you any more grief.
You have done brilliantly losing all that weight and getting yourself fit. Keep going - and keep wearing your leggings. It will really piss her off seeing that you took no notice of her.

I totally agree with that. It's amazing and weird how some people can be jealous of seeing other people doing well.

hobbcat · 05/08/2024 00:31

Massive congratulations on your achievements! You sound inspirational and you have the budget for sweaty betty leggings which look so comfy and fab. As for little miss bully - she’s an arch bitch and a nobody. Make sure you have a great come back ready should you see her again.

CocoDolphin · 05/08/2024 00:41

Jeez op, what an absolute cow bag. Well done for reporting her.
Just try and take heart that one day age may not be kind to her. Up until a couple of years ago I was effortlessly toned and skinny with not an ounce of cellulite yet overnight my body seems to have transformed itself to having a proper belly and cellulite all over my legs. I’m finding it really hard to get rid of too. Menopause is great innit.

KnitFastDieWarm · 05/08/2024 00:43

Well done for finding your anger @DeclansAFeckingDream!

Buy yourself some brighter, tighter leggings. Ditch the long t shirt - get yourself a gorgeous fitted gym top. Watch the poor sad cow’s face next time she sees you 😀

Pop your headphones in, enjoy your workout, and if she comes anywhere near you smile brightly but absently at her and say ‘i’m sorry, have we met?’

MayNov · 05/08/2024 01:11

What a sociopath

PoppyTries · 05/08/2024 01:45

DeclansAFeckingDream · 04/08/2024 19:29

Well I went to the gym earlier (closes at 4 on a Sunday) and I spoke to one of the managers. He was absolutely lovely and pretty appalled when I told them what this woman said to me. What was especially interesting is that he didn't seem any way surprised when I told him who it was, which made me feel like the playground snitch and I felt very uncomfortable. But I got the feeling from his comments that this is not her first rodeo in this department. I'm hoping if that's the case, that they take action.

Many gyms have zero-tolerance policies and her membership should be suspended or, since it sounds like she has form for this kind of bad behavior, canceled.

MissMoan · 05/08/2024 02:16

@DeclansAFeckingDream you should be proud of yourself.
That woman should be ashamed.
Please keep doing what you are doing and ignore that misguided idiot.
Sending hugs

Justmeee22 · 05/08/2024 04:14

Ignore the bitch, she's probably full of plastic and botox anyway

But, if she says anything like that to you again, you could say something out loud to her along the lines of, " And I'm not being funny, but you are one stuck up, rude ignorant, arrogant bitch, no offence!" and stare her down, see how the bitch likes that!

Hawkinsresident · 05/08/2024 05:05

OP, lovely messages here for you. Hope you’re feeling bit better.

Next time please go in hot pants or shorts… walk up to her and say ..” I don’t mean to be rude but that mouth of yours is not doing anything to hide your ugly personality “

and give her the biggest smile possible.

Fernticket · 05/08/2024 07:27

Hawkinsresident · 05/08/2024 05:05

OP, lovely messages here for you. Hope you’re feeling bit better.

Next time please go in hot pants or shorts… walk up to her and say ..” I don’t mean to be rude but that mouth of yours is not doing anything to hide your ugly personality “

and give her the biggest smile possible.

Love this.

greengreyblue · 05/08/2024 07:42

Oh well done op. So glad you went back and well done for speaking out to the managers. 💪🏻

TheGoddessFreyja · 05/08/2024 07:58

Firstly absolutely well done for losing that amount of weight! I bet you feel fantastic 👏

Onto her comment. When someone says something which is rude or takes you aback, I've found it helps getting them to repeat what they have said. Even if you heard the whole thing you need to say "Sorry I didn't catch that, can you say it again?"

This puts the person on the spot and gives them time to realise what they've just said. I love doing it and have done it plenty of times and it usually ends up with them fumbling over what's coming out of their mouth and knocks their confidence.

What a odd thing to say to someone that you don't know in a gym. As that come dine with me episode says... "What a sad little life Jane" 🤣🤣

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