I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

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I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

What a cow! I have no idea why people behave like that but she’s obviously unhappy if she can only feel good by putting down other people.

Can you report her for bullying. You should be proud of your weightless and lots of women have cellulite including myself.

Your post has made me so angry. What an absolute nasty bitch! Her comments reveal far more about her than they do about you. Agree to tell gym staff that she made unacceptable comments about your body.

Please don't let her put you off the amazing progress you are making. You have inspired me, currently signing up to rejoin my gym after mat leave. Will be rocking up with cellulite and all tomorrow!

OP I can see why that was a major knock to your confidence. I think you’re killing it going on the rower! Something about this likely triggered something she feels bad about in herself, and attacked you in an attempt to try to make herself feel better.

Firstly my hat's off to you for your incredible weight loss! I desperately need to lose weight so I have a huge amount of respect for you.
Secondly I would carry on wearing the leggings. Maybe get some earpods so you can listen to music and not hear other people. If she makes another similar comment make a show of removing the earpods and say loudly "sorry? I didn't hear you can you repeat that?" If she's actually stupid enough to say it again maybe give a big smile and say 'well I'd rather have a bit of cellulite than a shitty personality!' Earpods back in and carry on.
You sound amazing. She sounds like a pathetic bitch bag.

OP, maybe this woman has seen your transformation and is jealous? Especially if other people have noticed as well and have commented positively about it.

Op she's a total bitch. Please don't let it put you off. I remember years ago I went to a gym where there was a clique of women who did the same classes as me. One day they came up to me and the ring leader made a comment to me about all my gym stuff coming from Next!! Her mates stood and smirked. I am not the most confident or secure person but there was no way I was going to let bitches that dictate my life. You are doing great. Keep it up!

Your great and she isn't worth thinking about at all. What a cow she is
Keep on doing what you're doing op
Well done on the weight loss

What an utterly bizarre comment. But also the whole checking each other out to see what brand people are wearing - is it just me that thinks you go to the gym to do a workout as quickly as possible and leave, if I paid attention to people around me I'd lose focus and probably fall off the treadmill.

What an absolute bitch! You keep wearing ur leggings and I'm sure ur looking great, maybe so great theirs some jealousy coming out in others!

I bet she too has cellulite. Most women do, I even had it in my early 20's and was a size 6-8.

If you see her again def report her to staff for saying inappropriate and downright bloody mean comments.

Definitely speak to the gym manager and point out. What a bitch

She’s a cunt and deserves a swift resistance band to the flaps. Well done you, fuck her, she’s an arsehole.

What a horrible person. I'd much rather have cellulite on the outside than be that ugly on the inside.

Meh, people like that I’d give the once over head to toe scan pause for effect and go “Im old enough to be your Nan/mother, what’s your excuse?”

She obvs was having a good look at you maybe she is jealous as she has watched your progress in getting to where you are now. Pay no attention go next time with the leggings and a smaller tshirt do your thing. And smile at the nasty women. Well done for achieving your new body through hard work. ❤️

I bet she is really jealous of you and what you have achieved - I know I'm very envious and if you have any tips would love to hear them! I don't understand women who can't celebrate other women- what a sad bitter person she must be. Please don't let it dent your achievement in becoming stronger and healthier.

Well done you👏👏👏👏 she’s probably very insecure, maybe knows you have lost weight if you have been going to the gym for a while- jealous is what I would call her- keep up the great work!

Show the woman these comments. Maybe that’ll make her realise how horrible it was.
You’re amazing, I’m really pleased you’re going to carry on and not letting it get to you.

Yes I would absolutely do this. She is so horrible. That’s so mean xx

How nasty! Karma will be bitch when it bites her on the bum!
Well done for what you've achieved, just keep going and give her death stares when you see her!

I can’t quite believe someone would do this, it’s actually broken my heart a bit. We’ve all been beginners at one time or another and it’s a really hard job to build confidence and feel like you ‘belong’ in an environment full of beautiful bodies. It sounds like you’ve worked so hard, both physically and mentally, to get to the place you are, you should feel SO proud of yourself. Please try not to let one horrible person undo that good work. I promise you she is in a vast minority. Treat yourself to some new gym fits (not because there’s anything wrong with your other stuff, but because I always find i feel amazing working out in a new outfit!!), focus on the positive energy you get from the gym (but perhaps have something up your sleeve in case you ever happen to see her again!)
I hope you walk in there with your head held high next time you go

Is this the general atmosphere of the gym or just these people? I had a great gym but switched when there started being more traffic and it took me longer to get to my first one. It all seemed the same but the people were different and there was just a weird atmosphere of people looking at you and judging you, so eventually I switched back even though it was a hassle. I felt so relieved the first time I went back. So if it’s a one off thing I’d obviously say ignore them they are idiots but if it’s a judgy atmosphere in general try out other places locally and see if there’s one where you feel more comfortable.

Wow…I can’t believe she thought that was in any way helpful so she clearly meant to be cruel and nasty so she clearly has some insecurities. I would be so tempted to say to her next time. “Thank you for your comment the other day, it really reminded me how people that look lovely on the outside can be absolutely rotten on the inside”

Well done on the weight loss and fitness. You really should be proud of yourself and ignore the ignorant idiot at the gym 👏😘

The woman was an absolute cow. Schoolgirl behaviour; I'm embarrassed for her. Don't let it change the way you dress or how you are at the gym at all. If you feel anything towards her, let it be pity.

FFS - I hope they ban her from the gym! Ot isn’t a singles club or a fashion show, you should be able to wear whatever you’re comfortable in for exercise. I wear SB leggings or cycling shorts on my chunky legs because the tight fit feels supportive and moves better. Joggers would be horrible - too much material and worried about them getting caught in equipment!