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I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

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DeclansAFeckingDream · 03/08/2024 22:12

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

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Jezabelle85 · 04/08/2024 11:37

DeclansAFeckingDream · 03/08/2024 22:12

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

A simple ‘I’M not being rude, but can you fuck off and keep your rude comments to yourself…’ should suffice

dutysuite · 04/08/2024 11:39

Personally I would have told her to F off. Keep wearing the leggings and show her you don’t give two fs about her opinion.

Marsh212 · 04/08/2024 11:40

Well this just just horrendous, completely unnecessary! What a fantastic change you have made and sounds as though you are absolutely bossing it ! You are better than this and better than her , don't rise to up and keep your head high! You're winning and she is losing if she thinks that's how to treat other people ! Keep smashing it girl !!!

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cinnamonda · 04/08/2024 11:40

First of all sorry to hear this has happened to you, it is really very childish of that woman.

Have you heard of that saying: “It is none of your business what others think of you.” 🙂

Forget about her, you carry on your good work, well done for loosing weight and becoming healthier. Your journey is absolutely amazing.
stay strong and keep smiling

FuckingFreezing · 04/08/2024 11:41

What an absolute cunt!! File a complaint against her, hope they ban the bitch

LoobyDoop2 · 04/08/2024 11:42

So even though you say she looks great, she needs to put other women down to feel good about herself. What a pathetic, miserable existence she must lead. Don’t give her another thought.

lanadelgrey · 04/08/2024 11:42

I’d also ask the gym’s policy about filming. It’s narcissistic bs and quite a lot of gyms have a no filming policy as it isn’t something the other users consent to as they may be filmed either intentionally or not

Globetrote · 04/08/2024 11:45

What an absolute bitch. Like others have said, she is probably full of insecurities about herself despite her supposed stunning looks. She is ugly on the inside but that’s not your problem. Definitely report her although of course be prepared that she’ll deny ever having spoken to you at all.

I’ve been overweight and I’ve been very slim at gyms and I’ve never had a comment directed at me that I’ve ever heard, or heard of anyone saying this to someone else, because most people just aren’t plain nasty and are there to do their stuff and don’t care about what others look like.

Runki · 04/08/2024 11:47

I am so sorry that she said this to you. What a first class, high grade, high priestess of twatism she is. Ugly inside and has to bring other people down to make herself feel better.....coward and bully. You have as much right to be there as her and her pathetic friend. My Dad always used to say to me if I told him someone had picked on me at school..."Take up space". I hope you will go back and shake your legging clad bottom right in her stupid face. Disgusted on your behalf. It is her who should be mortified, and you should hold your head up high and be proud of what you have achieved. As you can probably guess from this rant, I am disgusted on your behalf!!!!

Shufflebumnessie · 04/08/2024 11:50

Get back in your leggings, go back to the gym and keep doing the amazing work you've been putting in to keeping yourself healthy.
That woman is a nasty piece of work. The moment she approached you, and opened her mouth, he true nature shone through! She might look perfect now but one day her looks will fade but she'll still be a nasty, insecure, bullying piece of work , but without the pretty facade she currently hiding behind!

If she says anything else to you, report her to the gym manager for bullying and harassment.

ilovesooty · 04/08/2024 11:50

Polarnight · 03/08/2024 22:32

I'd report her to gym staff. I really would. That's very nasty. I'd tell them you don't feel comfortable coming back. They may well deal with them. I doubt they'd want members harassing other members.

Congratulations on your weight loss.

I agree. Behaviour like that wouldn't be tolerated at my gym.

Epicaricacy · 04/08/2024 11:50

5 times in the gym at your age is intense. You don't need it.

you do realise that we should be moving/ exercising every single day, we are not designed to seat down doing nothing all day 🙄

We are not talking about doing an ironman every day, but 4-5 times a week at the gym is normal and good for you.

Epicaricacy · 04/08/2024 11:53

*DeclansAFeckingDream
you think she looks stunning, that's your opinion, bet it won't be share by many 😂

You have to wonder WHY? Why could she possibly have told you that? I don't believe your cellulite is as bad as you think in these leggings... but it's not even like you overheard a bitchy comment, or heard what she might be thinking, WHY would she come to tell you to your face?

She is the problem. Happy people are drama-free and quite chilled.

Stripeygreen · 04/08/2024 11:55

I hope the gym speak to her, what an awful person she is

greengreyblue · 04/08/2024 11:58

I know who I’d rather have lunch with OP and that’s you!

WillLiveLife · 04/08/2024 12:03

She sounds like a first class bitch and you should not take a scrap of notice of her.

Why do women do this, unwanted interference in areas it is not asked for or needed?

Well done on your weight loss it is a darn sight harder in your 50’s as I know only too well.

Jurassicpark1234 · 04/08/2024 12:06

Next time you see her say “I can buy new leggings but unfortunately there is no gym for your personality”

Calliopespa · 04/08/2024 12:08

greengreyblue · 04/08/2024 11:58

I know who I’d rather have lunch with OP and that’s you!

The High Priestess of Bitchery probably doesn’t have lunch. I’m guessing she was hangry! 😂

billybear · 04/08/2024 12:08

if you are wearing size 12 , and you have lost that m,uch weight, well done, what a total cow, you should of said i can tone up but you will always be a nasty cow clear off.please go back to the gym hold you heard up high practice your death stare and try not to throw something at her

Bananagirl23 · 04/08/2024 12:17

I think you should report her to the gym OP. It’s hard enough for us mere mortals to put gym gear on and get exercising without bitches like her putting people down. And I bet she’s made comments to others too. It says way more about her than you. Easier said than done but try not to take it personally. Well done on the weight loss - I bet you look great!

Thebaguette · 04/08/2024 12:18

DeclansAFeckingDream · 03/08/2024 22:12

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

Why didn't you tell her to mind her own business.
Next time you see her, tell her that you dont want to be rude but you think she is a bully. Do not stop going to the gym becaue of 2 mean girls. They can't be stunning if they are so mean.

GertrudeCB · 04/08/2024 12:19

BellesAndGraces · 03/08/2024 22:17

Most gyms have a code of conduct that require members to be respectful and courteous to other members. Next time you see her, I would point her out to a member of staff and ask them to speak to her about harassing other members.

Exactly this.
Ive just started working with a super fit woman, who has been giving me advice on exercises to do to strengthen my core because Ive got a bad back, but only because I ASKED.

RedditFinder · 04/08/2024 12:19

BellesAndGraces · 03/08/2024 22:17

Most gyms have a code of conduct that require members to be respectful and courteous to other members. Next time you see her, I would point her out to a member of staff and ask them to speak to her about harassing other members.

Absolutely do this.

Apolloneuro · 04/08/2024 12:20

She’s jealous @DeclansAFeckingDream

I think when people behave like that they are actually holding up a mirror to something they feel about themselves.

It might be because she’s got cellulite, but I think it’s more likely that she lacks confidence and an older, badass, powerful woman (like you are) threatens her.

Whatever it is, it’s definitely not how you look in a pair leggings. Someone can offer you a glass of offence, but remember you don’t have to take it.

Cranarc · 04/08/2024 12:21

What an absolute baggage. Please don't let her stop you going to the gym. The whole point of gym attire is to wear what you feel comfortable in that enables you to move freely. I feel better in tight leggings and always wear them. Some pairs I own show my cellulite. I'd rather they didn't but they were not cheap and I could not be bothered to send them back, so I wear them and just get on with my exercise. There's a couple of very annoying dolly birds who prance around my gym trying to draw attention to themselves but they would never say anything like that.