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I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

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DeclansAFeckingDream · 03/08/2024 22:12

I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

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BelleoftheBall5 · 04/08/2024 09:53

This is very sad to read because it sounds as though you really admired her before. I would keep going to the gym as normal. I wouldn't speak to the staff about it personally because I wouldn't want her to think she’d upset me. But if I ever found myself near her again, I would tell her how much I had admired her until she approached me with that comment.

There is a lot of bitterness and ego in a person who approaches a stranger with such a cruel comment. You have achieved something amazing, be proud of that and hold your head high.

OldTinHat · 04/08/2024 09:54

She's probably been watching you transform and is jealous. She clearly has her own insecurities to be so bitchy. She wants you to feel as insecure as she does.

So, head up. Be proud of your achievements and keep going! Don't let a rather pathetic individual spoil what you're doing. You're amazing!

mrstrickland · 04/08/2024 09:55

She sounds utterly vile and absolutely report her. Most gyms will not tolerate that behaviour. You are doing amazing!

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DeclansAFeckingDream · 04/08/2024 09:55

MattSmithsBowTie · 04/08/2024 07:06

She’s probably jealous, Sweaty Betty leggings are expensive, maybe she wants some and can’t afford them. Anyway I bet they look great, they usually do and at size 12 you’re not overweight, so what if you can see a bit of cellulite, real women have cellulite, it’s very rare not to.

Do speak to the staff though, this wouldn’t be allowed in my gym.

I don't think it's that, she's head to toe in Lululemon and expensive trainers. Always tanned and gorgeous. I actually felt quite envious of her over the last few months but I don't now, she may look amazing and I'm very ordinary, but I would never be deliberately unkind to anyone. I'm embarrassed to say that I didn't even respond to her at the time, I was just so taken back.

I thought maybe I would change the times that I go to avoid her but why the hell should I, so I'm going at the same time.

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user1471556818 · 04/08/2024 09:56

bergamotorange · 03/08/2024 22:15

Please stop and think about what must be going wrong inside that woman to behave in that way.

Having some cellulite can never be as bad as being a person who would say something like that.

You look absolutely fine and, more importantly, you're not an unkind person with unresolved emotional problems.

Absolutely this .please don't let her put you off .What a nasty nasty thing to say I actually wish quite unpleasant things upon her and her friend.

Beautiful3 · 04/08/2024 09:56

You wont be the first person shes said that to. I bet she's hurt lots of womens feelings at that gym. Ask other ladies if theyve had a run in with her too and enourage them to report her to the manager. I'd actually speak to the manager about her behaviour personally. Tell them how it's knocked your confidence and you're considering cancelling your membership. I urge you to keep going, because you've achieve so much and it's keeping you on track.

GingerPirate · 04/08/2024 09:57

😂
Stunning, was she, did you say?
Probably massively insecure and scared inside.
You have done very well, it's not easy at certain age to keep fit!
Think about yourself, not that poor b*h.

ThisKookyBlueSnake · 04/08/2024 09:58

Report this nasty bitch to the gym manager, and don't stop wearing your leggings.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/08/2024 09:59

bergamotorange · 03/08/2024 22:15

Please stop and think about what must be going wrong inside that woman to behave in that way.

Having some cellulite can never be as bad as being a person who would say something like that.

You look absolutely fine and, more importantly, you're not an unkind person with unresolved emotional problems.

Why should anything be ‘going wrong inside’ her? She’s just a nasty mean bitch - sadly some women just are. Why do some MNers always have to find excuses for horrible people?

OP, please don’t let this apology for a human being put you off the gym. And please, don’t let her see that she’s upset you - don’t give her that satisfaction.

Dandeliontea123 · 04/08/2024 10:00

I like your attitude OP. Hang in there!

Choochoo21 · 04/08/2024 10:00

I can’t believe people like this actually exist, especially attractive ones.

She is obviously very insecure in herself.

Did she see that you lost weight?
Perhaps she believes she is much larger than she is and is really jealous that you lost weight.

You have every right to be there as she does.
I would tell the staff but I would also confront her.

Tell her that you didn’t appreciate the nasty comment and childish giggling and that you know you have cellulite but don’t care because you’ve worked hard to lose the weight and you’re not going to feel ashamed of trying to improve yourself.

If people hear you then good.
I can guarantee if people knew what happened, they would 100% be on your side.

NeedthatFridayfeeling · 04/08/2024 10:04

She's an absolute bitch and no matter how stunning she might be on the outside she's bloody ugly and rotten on the inside.
You've done amazing! Keep it up and don't let pathetic people like her deter you. Fuck em!

CaptainCrieff · 04/08/2024 10:05

Please speak to staff OP.

If it’s a good gym, the staff will be qualified personal trainers passionate about the benefits of sport for both body and mind and will be furious about this and probably take action.

I understand you not wanting to confront her in person but you are presumably paying a lot and you deserve to feel great at the gym. It is really hard to find the confidence to work out in public and it can be shot so quickly.

I am furious on your behalf. What an ugly ugly person she is. Who does that?!

Birdahoy · 04/08/2024 10:07

OP, only insecure and unhappy people feel the need to bring others down. Clearly she is not a happy person if she feels the need to point out other peoples’ supposed flaws.

Keep going, same routine, same gym wear, same amazing approach you’ve had so far.

And yes, absolutely mention it to the gym staff.

CoraPirbright · 04/08/2024 10:08

Firstly, may I say that I am absolutely in awe of your brilliant achievement! 4 stone lost and back in the gym and a size 12. And at 57!! Bloody genius!

I am so sorry that you had such an awful encounter. I concur with all the pp’s - what an ugly woman she is. And her bitchy giggling friend. I sincerely hope that the gym takes this very seriously and takes her to task (I wish she would be banned, really). When you talk to them, emphasise what you have said here that you have found everyone else to be lovely, kind and supportive but that this encounter really floored you. What an awful awful person to say such things.

Colette · 04/08/2024 10:10

I think you should wear shorts today !
Enjoy your workout, you’ve accomplished a lot.

Conniebygaslight · 04/08/2024 10:11

DeclansAFeckingDream · 04/08/2024 09:55

I don't think it's that, she's head to toe in Lululemon and expensive trainers. Always tanned and gorgeous. I actually felt quite envious of her over the last few months but I don't now, she may look amazing and I'm very ordinary, but I would never be deliberately unkind to anyone. I'm embarrassed to say that I didn't even respond to her at the time, I was just so taken back.

I thought maybe I would change the times that I go to avoid her but why the hell should I, so I'm going at the same time.

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Good for you OP…

outdamnedspots · 04/08/2024 10:12

She's a complete cunt. Ignore her. You sound fab, and your weight loss achievement is inspiring. Keep going!

There is no good reason she would ever have said that. What a bitch.

outdamnedspots · 04/08/2024 10:12

CaptainCrieff · 04/08/2024 10:05

Please speak to staff OP.

If it’s a good gym, the staff will be qualified personal trainers passionate about the benefits of sport for both body and mind and will be furious about this and probably take action.

I understand you not wanting to confront her in person but you are presumably paying a lot and you deserve to feel great at the gym. It is really hard to find the confidence to work out in public and it can be shot so quickly.

I am furious on your behalf. What an ugly ugly person she is. Who does that?!

This!

KittyWindbag · 04/08/2024 10:13

I’ll never really understand that type of person who is so genetically blessed and yet they still feel the need to be spiteful and belittling to others, but I suppose it must come from deep insecurity in themselves. She’s a full on bitch, a bad person. Thank god you were raised to be a better than that. One day she will be old and her looks will have gone and all she will have left is her rancid personality.

Nottodaythankyou123 · 04/08/2024 10:14

Make sure you wear shorts next time!

Anewuser · 04/08/2024 10:15

You need to work on your response to a bitch. Something like, “I’d give you a nasty look but you’ve already got one.”

LoneHydrangea · 04/08/2024 10:16

What a bitch! No reason for her to make that nasty comment.

There’s absolutely nothing you can do but put it in a box and forget about it. And give her your filthiest look if you see her again.

AlleycatMarie · 04/08/2024 10:17

If someone feels the need to say a comment like this then they are clearly very unhappy. Just pity her! You are fantastic. (Also, you can be a size 6 and still have cellulite; it’s normal!).

Roadtrippingroundgreece · 04/08/2024 10:18

What a horrible, horrible woman. Please report her to gym staff. As other posters have said, most gyms have a code of conduct and won’t accept bullying in the gym. I’ve seen people on social media have their memberships revoked. Also, most people have cellulite, it’s completely normal. Fuck her!

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