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Human remains found in search for Jay Slater

385 replies

davegrohll · 15/07/2024 13:12

No more in information as of yet. His poor family

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BowlOfNoodles · 15/07/2024 21:07

davegrohll · 15/07/2024 20:52

@BowlOfNoodles Yes very true. Now I wasn't innocent in my younger years, went to countless raves and sessions at peoples houses afterwards so that didn't seem unusual really especially if these guys had more drugs! But I do wonder wtf he had been taking to become so paranoid or if something was said to him that sent him on a bad one

I'd guess mushrooms or ecstasy. My brother has had issues with substance abuse and became unhinged and paranoid he even use to put he's wallet in a safe everyday even if it contained £20 lol. Thankfully he's clean and in hes 30s now

Iloveyoubut · 15/07/2024 22:03

itistooeasy · 15/07/2024 13:14

and you want to “chat” about it

I didn’t want to ‘chat’ about it as you put it… but what is wrong with people wanting to talk about a story that’s dominated the news for weeks. It’s news. It’s been important enough to have been extensively reported on so whilst I understand that it’s distasteful to ghoulishly enjoy the developments, it’s perfectly understandable to wish to discuss them.

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 15:56

His mum is asking for more money.
I am sorry for her loss but asking for more when she has 60k (?) is just wrong.

SallyWD · 18/07/2024 16:04

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 15:56

His mum is asking for more money.
I am sorry for her loss but asking for more when she has 60k (?) is just wrong.

I think a lot of it is owed to the Dutch search team they flew out this week. Who knows how much they have left over once that bill is paid.

WetherspoonsSnob · 18/07/2024 16:05

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 15:56

His mum is asking for more money.
I am sorry for her loss but asking for more when she has 60k (?) is just wrong.

https://x.com/_DIGB/status/1813939274309591265

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TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 16:23

SallyWD · 18/07/2024 16:04

I think a lot of it is owed to the Dutch search team they flew out this week. Who knows how much they have left over once that bill is paid.

Do you think it will honestly be more than 60k plus any donations from now onwards?

oakleaffy · 18/07/2024 16:31

BowlOfNoodles · 15/07/2024 21:07

I'd guess mushrooms or ecstasy. My brother has had issues with substance abuse and became unhinged and paranoid he even use to put he's wallet in a safe everyday even if it contained £20 lol. Thankfully he's clean and in hes 30s now

My brother used to keep his sweets and chocolate in Dad's Dudley Safe - zero paranoia, just I was always pinching a sweet if he left them lying about! {as kids}

WetherspoonsSnob · 18/07/2024 16:38

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 16:23

Do you think it will honestly be more than 60k plus any donations from now onwards?

Well, the repatriation will only cost a few thousand pounds and the Dutch search & rescue group is a non-profit that accepts donations.

Regarding the Go Fund Me, I can't see her thinking oh I just need a few extra grand on the top, that'll will do and that'll call it a day (£63k for example)

I can see her ambitiously thinking, let's see how far this money can possibly go (£70, 75k for example)

namechanging21 · 18/07/2024 17:55

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 15:56

His mum is asking for more money.
I am sorry for her loss but asking for more when she has 60k (?) is just wrong.

Is she really? That's outrageous.

rallyup · 18/07/2024 17:55

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 15:56

His mum is asking for more money.
I am sorry for her loss but asking for more when she has 60k (?) is just wrong.

It is wrong. It should be closed down.

More fool the people that continue to donate.

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 18/07/2024 18:06

BowlOfNoodles · 15/07/2024 21:07

I'd guess mushrooms or ecstasy. My brother has had issues with substance abuse and became unhinged and paranoid he even use to put he's wallet in a safe everyday even if it contained £20 lol. Thankfully he's clean and in hes 30s now

I'm no drug expert but I don't think young people go to Tenerife to take mushrooms, it's way harder stuff nowadays, ketamine etc

CoffeandTiaMaria · 18/07/2024 18:12

So Now the mother intends to exploit the generosity of the public so she’ll get more money because her son has died?
That’s so utterly disgusting I can’t even begin to understand her mentality.
I hope she doesn’t get a single penny.

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 18/07/2024 18:17

CoffeandTiaMaria · 18/07/2024 18:12

So Now the mother intends to exploit the generosity of the public so she’ll get more money because her son has died?
That’s so utterly disgusting I can’t even begin to understand her mentality.
I hope she doesn’t get a single penny.

She can't make anyone donate so anyone who does will be happy to do so I guess

davegrohll · 18/07/2024 20:06

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 15:56

His mum is asking for more money.
I am sorry for her loss but asking for more when she has 60k (?) is just wrong.

Yeah asking for more is cheeky. I'm shocked she has to be honest !

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Thevelvelletes · 18/07/2024 20:25

Here's a Scottish turn of phrase for this scenario.
A fucking mink.!!!

5128gap · 18/07/2024 20:28

To give her the benefit of the doubt, she probably feels she is asking 'for Jay'. I'd imagine she's going to put on the biggest most extravagant funeral she can pay for, because that's all she has left now. There may be some comfort in splashing out on 'what he would have wanted' and I don't begrudge her that. I doubt she will get rich from it. There is no great love for her or her family who have been judged as a 'type' from the get go.

Thevelvelletes · 18/07/2024 21:07

5128gap · 18/07/2024 20:28

To give her the benefit of the doubt, she probably feels she is asking 'for Jay'. I'd imagine she's going to put on the biggest most extravagant funeral she can pay for, because that's all she has left now. There may be some comfort in splashing out on 'what he would have wanted' and I don't begrudge her that. I doubt she will get rich from it. There is no great love for her or her family who have been judged as a 'type' from the get go.

60 grand almost.what funeral costs that...100%mink behaviour.
Balloons , lantern release it will be full on mink.

Jimblebells · 18/07/2024 21:50

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 15:56

His mum is asking for more money.
I am sorry for her loss but asking for more when she has 60k (?) is just wrong.

There may be a few hooded gentlemen knocking at the family door with their hands out for some unpaid "bills"...
Oh sorry, that may come across as cynical and I'm not that sort of person

SallyWD · 18/07/2024 21:54

5128gap · 18/07/2024 20:28

To give her the benefit of the doubt, she probably feels she is asking 'for Jay'. I'd imagine she's going to put on the biggest most extravagant funeral she can pay for, because that's all she has left now. There may be some comfort in splashing out on 'what he would have wanted' and I don't begrudge her that. I doubt she will get rich from it. There is no great love for her or her family who have been judged as a 'type' from the get go.

It's nice to see someone be charitable towards her. I can't believe she's really that bothered about the money - she's lost her beloved son. I'm sure a lot of the £60000 has been accounted for. Nothing has actually been withdrawn yet but they've said it was being used for flights, accommodation, search parties etc so I'm assuming it will be withdrawn for these things soon.
I agree with you that she probably wants to hold a very lavish funeral for Jay because it's the only way she can express her love for him now.

MrsSunshine2b · 18/07/2024 22:04

Thevelvelletes · 18/07/2024 21:07

60 grand almost.what funeral costs that...100%mink behaviour.
Balloons , lantern release it will be full on mink.

I was cringing a bit at the balloon release- all that plastic and danger to wildlife isn't bringing him back.

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 22:10

She's just lost her son. This thread is fucking disgusting, this place gets more like Tattle every day.

mum2jakie · 18/07/2024 22:11

Very tasteless to be asking for even more donations at this point. More fool anyone who chooses to donate!

Thevelvelletes · 18/07/2024 22:13

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 22:10

She's just lost her son. This thread is fucking disgusting, this place gets more like Tattle every day.

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My dw lost her son ...she wasn't touring for 60grand.
Once a mink aye a mink

Thevelvelletes · 18/07/2024 22:13

Touting.

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 22:24

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 22:10

She's just lost her son. This thread is fucking disgusting, this place gets more like Tattle every day.

Edited

Everyone has sympathy for his death and for her loss. No one should bury their child.
We can feel sorry for her and feel the crimes he committed were terrible and that some of her actions are wrong.