Thread 14 - TalkLair: “What The Hell Are We Supposed To Use, Man? Harsh Language?”

[Kucinghitam]

(Previous thread 13).

Summer should be well under way, but the chilly wind, grey clouds and pouring rain beg to differ. Looks like 2024 continues to be a washout - on the bright side, the Tories got washed out too! In the TalkLair, we remain hunkered down keeping cosy and warm. The hearth is glowing, the walls covered in dubious artwork, books by non-approved authors line the shelves, rugs are down on the floors (and assorted pets curled up on them).

We just won’t mention the gnawed bones of our prey over there in the corner of the cave…

I’m still on my lightest summer duvet (1 tog!) but have had a throw on top for a few nights so it’s time to switch. I switch my mum’s duvet yesterday but only to what used to count as her summer duvet (inexplicably as it’s pretty snuggly). The heating has been coming on more the last few days.

Wheat bag? Is that like a hot water bottle but you put it in the microwave?

Exactly that, yes. Much less of a problem than a hot water bottle if it springs a leak.

Juice? I hope you mean cider!

That's possibly the most disappointing log cabin I've ever seen.

There is no cider without there first being juice.

Cider may have to wait for next year's apples, when the house has had more sorting out. I have nowhere to put it at the moment.

Semi-detached castle, anyone?

https://www.propertypal.com/bastian-gate-gosford-castle-markethill/955745

Just don't go into the East Wing!

That is mental.

I don't understand that building at all. The first kitchen is horrid but why is there another? The bedrooms are also horrid and then I get more confused.

I've had the same light duvet all year or I've possibly changed it because I have two very low tog duvets. I expected chemo and extreme weight loss to make me feel the cold more but apart from icier feet which will get cross if covered up I've not felt the cold in bed at all. The opposite. If I keep the duvet on all night I sweat like a bastard and I generally wake up having thrown it off completely. I'm guessing that will change as it gets colder. I hope so.

Hopeless room layouts and proportions, and really only 2 bedrooms, but I love the little door guards.

It's been an awful few days for DBro and particularly for SiL, but it is done They haven't decided whether to hold a funeral for their little boy. I think they just want to hide away from the world for a bit.

So sad for you all, Kuc. It's a situation no-one wants to happen for themselves or anyone else. I hope they've been treated with kindness through it all.

Very sad @Kucinghitam - I have no adequate words but you’re all in my thoughts.

Oh Kuc, that is so sad. I hope that they have good support networks around them, and that they will be able to process this unbearable thing that's happened. Thinking of you, and them, and your little nephew.

Hiding away for a while strikes me as probably the best course of action for them. Sympathies.

I don't know if there's anything similar where they are, but this charity helped a friend of mine enormously in very traumatic circumstances: www.sands.org.uk/

I’m so sorry Kuc, that’s heartbreaking.

Thank you all

I couldn't find any information about support groups where they are (there don't seem to be any), but I'll send them the SANDS link. SiL's parents are only about an hour's drive away, although she's said she just wants to be alone with DBro for now.

They gave him a beautiful name 😭😭😭

I think I'd want to hide too and they have each other. I can't begin to imagine how painful it all is and neither do I have words other than I'm so very sorry.

Re being cold from yesterday. Last night I slept covered up - except for my feet most of the time - all night and didn't wake covered in sweat. It's colder!

Kuc, Sands might know if there's an equivalent organisation where they are. IME, charities that do the same thing in different places often know each other.

There's also Tommy's, which has some online support. https://www.tommys.org/baby-loss-support

So sorry to hear your sad news, Kuc. I hope your brother and his wife can find the support they need.