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What's the point of bloody sex scenes? Is there a single film that's genuinely needed one?

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IncompleteSenten · 08/07/2024 17:25

They're everywhere. I'm just waiting for the next bloody Harry Potter film to be Harry Potter And The Beast With Two Backs.

What's the point of them? I've never watched a film in my life where I've gone ahh, well, i was a bit confused but now i saw that bit of sweaty nudity and theatrical groaning I totally get the characters and the plot.

It's ridiculous. I'm watching a film and all of a sudden I've got two naked professional fakers writhing around on screen for no discernable reason.

This is in chat not aibu because I'm not. I bet none of you can name a film that badly needed us to see the characters fucking.

Porn films are obviously excluded. I accept that without the sex, we simply won't understand why the pizza delivery guy was happy not getting £18.95 for the cheese crust large ham and pineapple.

I was going to make a joke about stuffed crust but I'm a better person than that.

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BruceAndNosh · 08/07/2024 17:32

Oppenheimer. Florence Pugh has a very nice pair of boobs but seeing them did not add anything to the story.
And the scene where (during a committee hearing) Mrs Oppenheimer imagines Mr O bonking the aforementioned Ms Pughs character was just weird.

Heretoscroll · 08/07/2024 17:35

Sometimes it can show passion between two characters that’s important to the story (for example a couple having a passionate affair). Realistically, you could probably say lot of scenes in films aren’t needed, for example violent scenes could just be cut and a statement on screen saying what had happened or just showing the aftermath but not how it got to that point. However, people watch films to be immersed in the story and to experience what has happened and the emotions etc of the scene, so I think cutting stuff like that can take away from the story.

Crinkle77 · 08/07/2024 17:35

Fifty Shades of Grey perhaps?

IncompleteSenten · 08/07/2024 17:36

Crinkle77 · 08/07/2024 17:35

Fifty Shades of Grey perhaps?

That's porn isn't it?

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Crinkle77 · 08/07/2024 17:38

IncompleteSenten · 08/07/2024 17:36

That's porn isn't it?

Well it wasn't a porn film. It was a mainstream film. Although I've never seen bug I'm just guessing it wouldn't have worked if you hadn't seen the sex scenes.

EdgyCat · 08/07/2024 17:39

I agree it's so cringe. I would rather see things like the stares, and body language unravel and develop as the actors fall in love or lust maybe stretching to a kiss but I don't want to see them naked and grunting. I couldn't watch Game of Thrones because of all the gross sex. Bridgerton revolts me for all the sex scenes, too and how they are talked about allover social media as this amazing empowering thing. I am trying to think of a sex scene that added something to the story, maybe The 40 years old virgin?

XelaM · 08/07/2024 17:39

Totally with you OP. They're completely pointless and not in the least appealing

LauderSyme · 08/07/2024 17:40

What's that film where Emma Thompson and Jeff Goldblum have mad passionate sex in the kitchen? That scene did quite a bit of heavy lifting explaining their relationship* *dynamics.

mitogoshi · 08/07/2024 17:41

I agree and why do the women leave their bras on??? Dp remarks every time.

WeakAsIAm · 08/07/2024 17:41

Was it John Lennon who said 'we make love privately whilst we fight publicly' and I think I agree with him.
I'd rather watch sex every 2 mins in a film than watch fighting every 10 mins. Each to their own but I think the obsession with fighting and war is much more disturbing than a natural act for humans.

GigiAnnna · 08/07/2024 17:41

If it's part of the storyline I don't mind but if it's something else entirely and then there's a random pair of boobs or an arse just for titillation, I hate that.

ChessieFL · 08/07/2024 17:41

Basic Instinct? Not sure that would work without the sex scenes.

I do agree that in a lot of films they’re not necessary.

IncompleteSenten · 08/07/2024 17:41

Maybe I'm just a prude. I prefer the whole lean in for a kiss, fade to black approach rather than some bloke's dimply arse ramming back and forth.

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EdgyCat · 08/07/2024 17:42

I just tend to fast forward the sex scenes which looks very funny otherwise i would look mute the tv and at my phone or make a cup of tea and come back. When I was a sex curious teen I would have definitely watched by now I'm in my 30s it's just ugh.

Gugel · 08/07/2024 17:46

The Reader.

I first saw a version that had had all the sex scenes cut out, on a ME airline (can't remember which), and, not having read the Bernhard Schlink novel, was totally puzzled by the boy's relationship with Kate Winslet's character, which appeared to go from her taking him home with her because he felt sick on her tram to weirdly intense scenes where he read to her.

One scene, where the boy is sitting having dinner with his stolid, respectable family while looking flushed and disturbed was particularly baffling. It was only when I caught an uncensored version on TV years later that I realised that that family dinner table scene is intercut with flashbacks from the boy's POV of the sex he's just had with Kate Winslet's tram conductor character, which is why he looks so flushed and strange.

I can't remember anything about the sex scenes, only that the film without them was rather odd.

AlisonDonut · 08/07/2024 17:46

Personally I think they put it in as an excuse to get young actresses to take their clothes off in 'auditions'.

Gugel · 08/07/2024 17:47

LauderSyme · 08/07/2024 17:40

What's that film where Emma Thompson and Jeff Goldblum have mad passionate sex in the kitchen? That scene did quite a bit of heavy lifting explaining their relationship* *dynamics.

The Tall Guy?

LauderSyme · 08/07/2024 17:48

Gugel · 08/07/2024 17:47

The Tall Guy?

Yes, thank you 🙂

Brefugee · 08/07/2024 17:49

LauderSyme · 08/07/2024 17:40

What's that film where Emma Thompson and Jeff Goldblum have mad passionate sex in the kitchen? That scene did quite a bit of heavy lifting explaining their relationship* *dynamics.

The Tall Guy? is that when Jeff Goldblum gets a piece of toast stuck to his bottom?

Isthisrealomgwow · 08/07/2024 17:53

Preaching to the Perverted would be much shorter without the sex scenes.

IncompleteSenten · 08/07/2024 17:55

Isthisrealomgwow · 08/07/2024 17:53

Preaching to the Perverted would be much shorter without the sex scenes.

If I Google that am I going to regret it?

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AmelieTaylor · 08/07/2024 17:57

@Gugel I think if they were made without sex scenes they'd have to work harder at the rest & it would make more sense, than when they just cut the scenes.

sex is a normal, natural thing. Why should they stop including sex scenes to pander to people who are uncomfortable with something so natural??

I'm baffled when they're wearing pants when they get out of bed.

TheShellBeach · 08/07/2024 17:58

Don't Look Now has the most erotic sex scene ever.

It's the only one I can think of which enhances the fillum.

Isthisrealomgwow · 08/07/2024 17:59

@IncompleteSenten yes I think you may regret it! I was a young 20 something when this was playing at a house party, certainly enlightened me to what's outside of vanilla!!

YourMommaWasASnowblower · 08/07/2024 18:03

I think sometimes it’s in films/tv for the sake of it.
All I think is how horrible it must be to film for the actors, all the crew around them, all that faking. They must feel bloody stupid filming it. It must also feel weird given a lot of them will be in relationships etc. I know they aren’t really having sex, but the kissing is often real. It’s like contractual cheating! I’m not sure I could be in a relationship with someone who has to do scenes like that, and I definitely wouldn’t be able to watch them!