Revenge - what’s your experience?

[Getitgirl]

I’m a great believer that living well is the best revenge. But I wonder sometimes how it would feel to carry out an act of pure revenge - would it make you feel better about the person who wronged you? Did it bring any temporary relief and was there regret?

I’d love to hear of anyone’s experience of doing this - from the petty to the properly vengeful!

for context, a man who ghosted me two years ago keeps cropping up on the apps and ‘liking’ my profile. I ignore every time - even the fact he’s lying about his age every time every time he appears. Whilst tempting to let rip, I sense the relief would be short-lived.

over to you

why would letting rip at a man from two years ago be “revenge”?

Exaclty - why not block him etc

Wierd thread IMO

Ah the fun police are out in force this morning!

any other (lighter) replies?

I find it’s better to sit back and wait for karma to do the revenge for you

I quite enjoyed my revenge tbh. I think sometimes we can feel a bit battered if we keep letting it go.

Mine was quite public and embarrassed him publicly and professionally 😂😂😂

I still dont regret it - my ex husband

@Hugosmaid tell me more!

I like to plot intricate long term revenge for trivial slights...but never follow through. So if someone talks over me in a meeting I may spend 5 mins day dreaming about how I'm going to wait until he puts his house up for sale and pretend to buy it, mess him about for 6 months and ruin his sale chances all under the guise of a 'wealthy investor' and hope he then ends up in negative equity eating beans out of a tin. Talk over me at your peril!

My revenge fantasies are pretty mundane 😄

@Withswitch this is brilliant 😀I won’t be talking over you in any meeting 😂

No I think the best revenge is ignoring/indifference.
My ex in-laws were complete cunts when their son screwed me over.
Withdrew all offers of help and refused to babysit or do anything at all to help their grandchildren.
Now they sit old, ill and alone. Their son has stopped speaking to them and none of their grandchildren visit- they have lots of grandchildren but treated all their dils like dirt.
You reap what you sow.

A very long ago ex who treated me appallingly but who I haven’t thought of in years is running for parliament - I did a double take when looking through a list of selected candidates! I spent a very entertaining couple of minutes coming up with a tell all story for the tabloids complete with sad face pictures, but of course I would never do anything, and indeed there isn’t much to tell apart from he was a real cad at 20. I’ve come a long way from then, and hopefully so has he.

I'm actually stewing on this right now.

I could take revenge on an employer who treated me like utter shit by deleting their social channels. They stupidly haven't revoked my access despite me asking about 30 times.

But...living well, right?

RIGHT?!? 😁

20 odd years ago, the bloke who claimed to love me ran off with my mate. In hindsight I was well shot of him. However, at the time I found out what pub they'd be in on a Friday and I bought a pink of guiness and threw it over him.

I'm still quite proud of this (sorry God), well more that i had the balls. I don't think I would at 40 😂

When my first hub ran off with someone I blanked him and lived my best life. Never chased, never cried at him/them, never spoke to him again. That was way more mature but I was 32 not 19 😂

I don't really do revenge even in my thoughts as I suffer from anxiety and consider even thinking about it might bring bad things to me.

But I left an awful toxic workplace about 4 years ago where I was treated appallingly by my line manager (who was racist among other things and also would go into my online timesheets and delete entries so it looked like I was not working- senior management knew this and did nothing). Nowadays I deliberately drive to my lovely new job past my old one and stick my middle finger up and shout at them. 'Fuck you, I won, arseholes!!!!!'.

Been doing that every working day for 4 years which makes me petty but I love it.

indeed there isn’t much to tell apart from he was a real cad at 20.

The press would be disappointed, isn't it a prerequisite of being an MP?

They would only be interested if you had a photo of, oh I don't know, him with a pineapple up his arse.

How's your photoshop skills?

Oh now there’s a thought!

@Getitgirl , you need to change your user name to Getoveritgirl

@ssd oooh someone has had their weetabix this morning 😂

There is no such thing as karma. It’s just something people say to try and make themselves feel better. If you want anything to happen it is up to you to do something.
I think what I did to my ex husband was consequences rather than revenge. Revenge implies an act purely for punishment whereas my action was mainly intended to help other women but it would have caused him great embarrassment and undoubtedly made him pretty angry which was a bonus. He had a long history of financial abuse of women (and his parents) and had treated me abominably. I just made it public to limit his pool of future victims.
That said, I think pure punishment would be fine too if warranted as long as it is nothing illegal.

I’m so happy that you got out of that awful situation! You certainly won

Toxic Manager - she was hopeless at her job, and still cannot function or do anything without her sidekick. She tried to manage me out saying that I wasn't Manager material; my current team, and previous team members would disagree.

I'm now in a very senior position within the organisation, and working on projects which directly impact her service. I could totally screw her over, but I'd rather do my job well and continue to do the best I possibly can for the organisation. My reputation within the organisation is as a result of the quality of the work I produce, and being asked to work on cross service projects is the best revenge.

I think revenge, if ever, is onlt ever worth the effort for the ewrst of life's experiences. Don't sweat the small stuff.

says you! 😆

Worked for a man who was an utter arsehole. He owned and ran his own business. He’d shout at his secretary, engineering manager, well just about everyone. Me and two other girls did all the donkey work which produced the end result.

Every day he would tell us what orders we needed to produce and we would write it down and follow what he’d told us. One day he came down shouting at us that we’d produced the wrong thing. We got our notes out and I read out to him exactly what he’d said to us proving he was wrong and we were right. He was incandescent with rage and sacked me on the spot immediately. I got my coat and left. I was pretty shaken.

By the next week I’d got a new job in a different company that were still hiring people. I told both the girls that I’d worked with previously and got them both interviews. They both got the job. Instead of handing in their notice at the arseholes place they just didn’t turn up for work and didn’t take his or his secretary’s frantic calls. So he was left without anyone to do the donkey work until he could hire new people to shout at.

This was years ago but it still gives me a warm fuzzy feeling inside.

A few years ago, we went on holiday and asked our neighbour to put our bin in our garage. When we got back, no bin and he said it hadn't been there when he got theirs. I had to pay £20 for a replacement, so I wasn't happy.

Next bin day, I saw some from the flats across the back lane and noticed that they all had blue gloss paint patches, which I suspected was to cover painted numbers on the sides and lids. I scratched a few and found one with white paint underneath and sure enough, it was ours.

After the bin men had been, I rushed it into our garage and kept it for a few weeks and I was thinking that it didn't need to be taking up space. I decided to cut most of the bottom away with a tank cutter (see picture) and left a few cm holding one corner, before sneaking it over to their yard.

It didn't survive the next emtpying. Petty, I know.

I was working late one night and my soon-to-be Manager came over to my prime office spot and told me to move before she got in, in the morning.

Nowadays, I’d tell her to GFY but then I was quite timid but with a touch of the evils about me 😁

All night long I raged and raged to the extend I didn’t sleep. The next morning I went in work early. Not to clear my desk but to speak to HR and the Senior Partner.

Result: I never ended up moving desks and she was forced to apologise to me. She was toxic to be afterwards though.

Left the firm and moved on in the same industry. Six months later she attempted to get a job at my new firm, but I saw her whilst she was getting the tour. Cue a warning sent to HR ‘Do Not Employ!’

I moved on from there…. as I changed jobs frequently to get pay rises. Everywhere I went I’d badmouth her… people would ask “you used to work at this firm what was Jackie like….?” She shared a surname with a disgraced politician so once heard, never forgotten.

Years on she was still stuck at my old firm. Colleagues said PLEASE stop as we want rid of her 🤣

Another work one….

Prevented from getting a job that should have been mine. Tied in with a particular depressing time of my life.

During my walk around saw a former Manager who’d left under a black cloud (mistakenly believed she misplaced some signed legal documents but hadn’t in fact. Then went on to forge the signatures and client called her out). Joanna was a real brown nosing creep to the Senior Partner so they let her go quietly with a reference.

When I didn’t get the job, I sent an anonymous email to the firm advising them of what she’d done. She was still under probation at the time.

Both these women were god awful people so I don’t feel bad about it.

Fortunately, I am now self - employed 😅