Revenge - what’s your experience?

[Getitgirl]

I’m a great believer that living well is the best revenge. But I wonder sometimes how it would feel to carry out an act of pure revenge - would it make you feel better about the person who wronged you? Did it bring any temporary relief and was there regret?

I’d love to hear of anyone’s experience of doing this - from the petty to the properly vengeful!

for context, a man who ghosted me two years ago keeps cropping up on the apps and ‘liking’ my profile. I ignore every time - even the fact he’s lying about his age every time every time he appears. Whilst tempting to let rip, I sense the relief would be short-lived.

over to you

In my early twenties I went out with a pretty horrible man, he messed me about, was unfaithful etc. He’d left some of his clothes at my flat. I dumped his clothes on his doorstep and hung his y-fronts to his front door handle, after smearing them with Marmite.

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not revenge really, but something coming full circle. A guy I really, really liked strung me along for a while and was generally very confusing. Then he ghosted me after we'd had sex a few times and he moved on to someone younger.

its a shame you didn't reply, "Great! Beyonce's at the Arena, I'll get tickets and you book XYZ Fancy Hotel!" Then block him on everything. Wasted time and money on flights and hotel..

@crayfishyum
er... yes. I said it isn't karma. 🙄

A girl who bullied me relentlessly in high school contacted me and apologised saying she had no idea why she’d been so nasty to me.

I just said I didn’t remember who she was
at all.

Agreed. Op, grow up.

No thanks. I’m happy as I am!

I went out with a guy for a few months before discovering he was married.

I broke up with him.

A few weeks later I let him know I had an STD and told him to get checked.

Anyone who knows how men are checked for STDs will know how sweet this revenge was.

The illness or death of someone close to the person i wanted revenge on is not something that i would “enjoy”. Would you @SirQuintusAurelius ?

@WhamBamThankU this sounds serious. Why didn’t you report before he dumped you?

This thread has made me want to send poo in a letter to my ex's workplace address.

Same ex dumped me so I slept with his colleague, apparently he was raging.

I used to be keen on getting revenge but honestly as the years go by, some people I know who have done awful things (not necessarily directly with me) are suffering in health ways, so that’s enough for me. And I wouldn’t usually wish anything bad on anyone.

Hi all, my story of revenge involves an ex. I've - unintentionally - had revenge on him twice.
We met when I was a young woman of 20 and he 25.
As he was slightly older, at that age I was slightly in awe of him.
He was arrogant but sexy. When it came to our end, he said awful things about trading me in for one of the hot young girls on his course. I was only early 20's and he made me feel ancient! In other words, he was a real bastard about it. Did shitty things too. Broke my heart.
We were both at the same the same university (he as a mature student, me doing a professional training course).

After a few years, I'd heard through the grapevine that he'd dropped out, was living on benefits and at home with mum with bad debt.
He'd also lost his driving licence.
Later I'd discovered that while I was now earning decent money, he'd moved in with (cocklodging, I'd later discovered) a single mother (not to knock HER but she was as far removed from a hot 18-year-old blonde as could be) who was now pregnant.
They were all on benefits living in a rented flat.

This WAS revenge I suppose but I just felt his life was now shit and mine wasn't so didn't gloat.

I also met him by chance 20 years later. His life was now a complete shitshow.

His partner had chucked him out, he'd never had a job and in really shitty rented accommodation.
His kid didn't talk to him.

I was curious to see what had happened to Mr Arrogant Mega Stud, so we went out for coffee a few times during which time his shitty treatment of me became a bugbear for me again.
One day his ex-who he said had been jealous - saw us in a cafe together.

She then proceeded to make his life even more hellish. I place no judgement on this, she probably got treated badly too.

Again, unintentional revenge on my part.

I'm OK. Good job, nice house.
He's fucked.

The best revenge is not living well as such but living better than those who fucked you over.

And you know what? Had he just shown decency in how he treated me when things ended, I wouldn't find any pleasure at all in his downfall but he was a c* so I delight in it.

This was one unpleasant bastard who didn't get away with it.

He's grossly overweight with nicotine stained teeth too!

I was curious to see what had happened to Mr Arrogant Mega Stud, so we went out for coffee a few times during which time his shitty treatment of me became a bugbear for me again.

huh? Sounds like you were wanting to get back with him but it went pear shaped again

Oh god no. He's no longer physically attractive at all.
Too lazy to live a healthy lifestyle and at his age it's all caught up with him.

He wanted to get back with me though!

and yet you met up with him for coffee a few times and he ended up treating you badly again?

No actually he didn't treat me badly at all.
Far from it. Was perfectly nice.
I just toyed with him. Making him think we had a chance of reuniting when there was no chance of it.

His PREVIOUS shitty treatment became a bugbear again.

Ex boyfriend - had many affairs when we were together (I wasn’t aware at the time - left him when I found out), and was also incredibly jealous. Bumped into him many years later, when he was married, and a father. Chatted a bit, and asked how his boys were. “Handsome like their father.” he replied. “Oh!” I said, in a tone of great surprise, “I always thought you were the father.” He was not amused 😒

so we went out for coffee a few times during which time his shitty treatment of me became a bugbear for me again.

well here you said he began to treat you badly again

why would you waste your precious time actually meeting up with him for a few coffees? talk about cutting your nose off to spite your face!

My dh got shafted by an ex employer, they owed him money, it went to court but they got off via a loop hole. Even the judge said morally it's wrong, but legally he couldn't do anything about it.

It's a transport company, so whenever my dh sees one of their lorry's he notes down the reg and checks its got tax, mot etc (there is a website you can check on). He knows eventually he'll find one that isn't (it's a shit show of a company), and he'll report them and they'll end up with a magoosive fine.

It was a few coffee dates that's all. On the third, I told him to get lost.

and he managed to treat you shittily in three dates?

I blocked an old enemy from being shortlisted for a prestigious job. It was a moment of pure satisfaction.

My earliest revenge, age 9.

Every Sunday afternoon we used to visit Grandma and I picked up a local friend.

One day she took me down a passageway and there at the end of it was a girl that I’d vaguely met before. Realised it was a trap.

There was a bit of her telling me off and then she said something along the lines of “I’m going to beat you up”. I stepped back into a huge dog dirt and they started laughing. Remember feeling very embarrassed.

Without even thinking about it, I walked up to the bully and wiped my shoe down her bare leg. Off she went screaming 🤣

In my own experiences, I like to think of it as ‘someone getting their comeuppance’ or ‘receiving their just desserts’ or ‘righting a wrong’, ‘putting a stop to what someone else started’.

No. He treated me well during our coffees.
His PREVIOUS treatment of me came to the fore front of my mind again.