Revenge - what’s your experience?

[Getitgirl]

I’m a great believer that living well is the best revenge. But I wonder sometimes how it would feel to carry out an act of pure revenge - would it make you feel better about the person who wronged you? Did it bring any temporary relief and was there regret?

I’d love to hear of anyone’s experience of doing this - from the petty to the properly vengeful!

for context, a man who ghosted me two years ago keeps cropping up on the apps and ‘liking’ my profile. I ignore every time - even the fact he’s lying about his age every time every time he appears. Whilst tempting to let rip, I sense the relief would be short-lived.

over to you

I can’t it’s really outing. But he was RAGING and came and booted my front door. I called the police and he was told to leave or would be arrested. I watched from my kitchen window 😂🙈

I do not regret it though. That was the moment I started getting my self worth back as I’d taken more than enough up until that point

I got accidental revenge on my ex (I didn’t even know) and he still fumes well over a decade later and is convinced it was deliberate.

I bought a house. I was looking for a house. I saw one in the estate agent window. I went to look at it, was told someone else was interested and made my offer. The couple selling accepted my offer as they liked the idea of it being a family home (I had to take my two girls with me for the viewing as ex had fucked off and didn’t turn up for contact).

The first time he came to collect the girls for contact after we’d moved he and his new wife both turned up ranting and raving. They were the other interested people. They’d offered and been turned down and were turned down again when they tried to offer higher after mine had been accepted. He didn’t see the girls for almost a year over it.

Apparently he still rants about it if I come up in conversation 😂

When I was young me and my brother didn't get on. My mum asked me to make her a cup of tea and my smarmy brother piped up all goodie goodie 'oh yes I'd LOVE frumple to make me one too' whilst pulling faces behind my mums back.. so I put salt in my brothers tea and he took a big ol' gulp and then sprayed it out over the carpet.. I laughed and felt pure joy for about 20 seconds before my mum clipped me round the ear and grounded me.

It wasn't worth it.

@ARichtGoodDram now that's quality!!!

@GenerousGardener love it! 👏🏻

My ex of 11 years cheated for the second time with someone at work so I phoned his boss and told her all the things he'd done that would amount to misconduct. He got investigated eventually and quit before they found him guilty of all of it. Some were fairly serious considering he worked in a patient facing role in a hospital. Don't feel bad about it at all to be honest.

Remembered another revenge story.

Had a stalker age 19. He’d taken to stealing my mail. I was living in an apartment block but other people continually let him in when he buzzed on.

Quite the norm to return and find my letters opened and scattered around.

So, I went out and bought a rat trap. Not a humane one, but one of those old school traps made of wood with a large spike and metal spring and set it up.

Came back to blood on the letterbox as fortunately no post that day.

Pleased to report that nobody has done me wrong to that extent since my 20s so have led a peaceful life for the last 20yrs.

Saw it done to my line manager in one of my early jobs.

He was a very unpopular twat and one of my colleagues found a hand written letter on his desk from "the other woman".

We were working late, as we were installing a new computer system and nobody else was in the office. Colleague photocopied the letter and stuck it on the general noticeboard in the main office.

John, you will for ever be a legend for that one.

Ok, so..
A decade ago I went out with a nasty, abusive guy who was clearly cheating on me with his 'friend' from work.
Even though she was single, I blamed them both equally.
He'd been to her house all night until 7am and lied to me about it for 2 weeks.
Then he invited her to ours at 3 in the morning whilst I was in bed and I heard them kissing.

2 days after we finally broke up, they were in a relationship.
Anyway whilst still living with him I went to see my family as I was upset, he took that weekend to invite her over and shag her in the bed we slept in.

I just knew it, so I had a good root when I got back home (he was at work) and of course I found used condoms in the bin.
I sent him a long expletive-laden text message telling him exactly what I thought of him and how I was far too good him and I had put up with his abuse for years but no more.

She'd kindly left a pair of her dirty knickers on the floor, and her toothbrush in our bathroom. The toothbrush made an excellent toilet cleaner.
The knickers said 'genuine' on them. I took a marker pen and wrote 'slut', so that it read 'genuine slut'. Then put them back where I found them.
I was 23, maybe I didn't handle it in the best way but I have no regrets.

My MIL is a toxic piece of work. Queen of opinions no one asked for, including that my eldest DC is not neurodivergent (they have an asd diagnosis). That all my martial issues are my fault, that I should do all the childcare and my function should be to be a supporting role for DH (I work full time), it goes on and on. Snide messages, nasty comments, having temper tantrums, you name it.

I can’t say more as it would be outing, but I’ve chosen to go no contact for my mental health. So guess who won’t be lifting a finger when they’re elderly.

I don't know if it falls under the category of revenge but some 40 years ago I worked for a restaurant manager who seemed determined to get me to resign. One Friday night, at the start of service, he told me that no one could go home that night until all the stock had been checked (nowt to do with the waiting staff). This could have had us all cooling our heels until 3am.

I'd had enough. Waited until all my tables were full, took the orders and them gave them and my apron to the manager and went home. Normally walking out during service was an immediate sacking offence however the GM of the hotel called me in a couple of days later, heard my side of the story and let me off with a written warning. The look on the managers face when I turned up the next day was priceless and he resigned within the week.

Still makes me smile 😊

Yeh, I don't want to be lectured about what I did as I should have just sailed forward and lived my best life, et cetera, but you can't under estimate the release of throwing a few sand bags over board. I was hurting so much. I was so humiliated. In so much pain. Obviously I did work my way through all that but it takes time. And in the immediate aftermath, I got some relief from the harmless (not illegal) actions I took (covertly)

Cycling to work and as I got near to work had a close pass and the car then turned left immediately in front of me into the car park. I followed them in and pointed out their error. Was told to go away. I came back and hour later, removed their front number plate, put the screws back and threw ithe plate n the bin. That car was now not legal and the owner would have to buy a new number plate. Had they just said sorry I would have let them off.

Everyone says no, but I wonder. I have a few people, supposed professionals who behaved very badly many years ago. One did many bad things over many years and then lied and tried to hide all her evidence. My mum eventually spotted it. My solicitor was horrified. I have very occasional dream, twice over the years, of hurting 1 of them. It gives me the shivers when I wake up. But if I could, and not go to jail, I would!

My DH didn’t buy me a Christmas present this year because he ‘ran out of time’.

As you can imagine I’d planned all the meals, the decorations, the gifts for the children, the trip to the pantomime etc. And his gift + stocking + gifts from kids.

I had nothing to open on Christmas Day!

I ‘forgot’ his birthday. I will also be forgetting Father’s Day. I plan on forgetting Christmas 2025 too.

Not proper revenge but I sent a woman who attacked me a poo through the post on her birthday ( theres an official website, sendshit.co.uk ) Shes very into social media too so made a big fuss online about receiving a present from abroad.... and she gathered her children round to watch her open it 😂😂😂

Has anyone had revenge taken on them? How did you feel?

@Getitgirl not revenge really, but something coming full circle. A guy I really, really liked strung me along for a while and was generally very confusing. Then he ghosted me after we'd had sex a few times and he moved on to someone younger. I was in a mess about it for a long time. After a good few years of zero contact he started occasionally liking old posts of mine, weird but I ignored it. We're in different timezones so I think it was probably down to him drinking late at night. Eventually he messaged me trying to arrange a meet up when I was in his country and turning on the charm. I declined, heard nothing for a few months and then he got in contact again. I replied a few times and then ghosted him because I didn't know how to say "leave me alone". It was exactly how he'd treated me. I'll never do it to anyone else, but I can't feel bad about doing it to him. If someone had sat me down when I was in a mess about it, and said he'll come back to you and you'll reject him, I think I would have felt a million times better! Childish but human

Mine was inadvertent revenge. My exH cheated with a 25 year old (employee of the firm he was a director of) we were both 46 (and our eldest was 21 at the time). He left and about 6 months later I went out with my friends to a nightclub near where one friend lives. Met a hot young guy (30) who was a professional footballer and had a ONS. My friend had taken a photo of me with him in the club and posted it on FB. My ex was beside himself went to our house where my mum was looking after our youngest while I was away and said he needed to get something off my laptop. He went on and got into my messengers messages. Saw a conversation between me and my friend. I'd woken up with the guy asleep next to me, and since I'd been with my ex since I was 17 had no idea how to get rid of him, so I'd messaged asking what I should do and she'd put something to the effect that as he was a blonde 6'2" 30 year old professional footballer it was the best revenge shag ever! And my ExH read it all! He actually had the effrontery to challenge me about it afterwards after all he'd done too! Twat.

WTF didn’t you report him before?

And you remained with him despite knowing this? @WhamBamThankU

Not revenge as such, more karma. Years ago I was involved with a man who had a really horrible family. We were out in a pub and his sister attacked me from behind. Bouncers saw this and kicked her out. She drove home drunk, her car was stopped by the police and she got a conviction for drink driving.

Cornered in the lift by a highly toxic boss during the 1980s who groped me, terrified me, and was a disgusting pig of a man.

I was young and one of the few staff who knew how to operate a computer.

I snuck into an office and wiped the entire system. Erased everything. And I mean EVERYTHING.

Next day was chaos. I handed in my resignation (which was barely noticed because of the company-wide panic).

No regrets.

Not very petty but cycling up our narrow hilly road with cars parked either side, nowhere to stop and let anything go by. Van from local car workshop located at the end of our road beeping at me to to stop, move or make a bionic woman went past anyway and nearly knocked me off. I was quite shaken.

A few days later, am cycling up the same but of hill, van starts beeping, shouting 'get a move on, hurry up you silly bitch'. I look behind and recognize the van. I move into the middle of the road and carry on slowly up the hill with him beeping all the while. I did not let him past and there was no way he was squeezing past me either.

This has happened more than once. I am not moving across for him.

I know someone who got totally shafted at work.
They were the one who set up all the works computer programmes and emails. For a long time afterwards they had access to all the top bosses emails, including the ones stating how glad they were to have done the dirty on my friend.
My friend too these emails to a solicitor. The company paid them in an out if court settlement.
My friend also made sure their entire system was corrupted over time. Time enough so that it would not be obvious how it had happened.

@Blackcats7 Blackcats7 · Today 11:13
There is no such thing as karma. It’s just something people say to try and make themselves feel better. If you want anything to happen it is up to you to do something.

It's true there is no such thing as karma but the law of averages dictates that if you wait long enough something shit will happen to the object of your revenge and allow you to be smuggly and joyfully knocking back the schadenfreude by the gallon.

It's probably where the concept of revenge is a dish best eaten cold comes from. If you rush you have to do it yourself. If you wait, time will do it for you because most people at some point in their lives will experience shit -

ends of relationships
illness and death themselves
illness and death of friends, parents, lovers, relatives, children
#metoo complaints
losing a job

then you can enjoy their misfortune and feel it was karma. It wasn't karma but who cares, they are a c*nt and deserve it don't they?