Revenge - what’s your experience?

[Getitgirl]

I’m a great believer that living well is the best revenge. But I wonder sometimes how it would feel to carry out an act of pure revenge - would it make you feel better about the person who wronged you? Did it bring any temporary relief and was there regret?

I’d love to hear of anyone’s experience of doing this - from the petty to the properly vengeful!

for context, a man who ghosted me two years ago keeps cropping up on the apps and ‘liking’ my profile. I ignore every time - even the fact he’s lying about his age every time every time he appears. Whilst tempting to let rip, I sense the relief would be short-lived.

over to you

@GenerousGardener

By the next week I’d got a new job in a different company that were still hiring people. I told both the girls that I’d worked with previously and got them both interviews. They both got the job. Instead of handing in their notice at the arseholes place they just didn’t turn up for work and didn’t take his or his secretary’s frantic calls. So he was left without anyone to do the donkey work until he could hire new people to shout at.

I hope the secretary had the good sense to quickly also find another job where she'd be better appreciated. 🌹

Good for you! He absolutely took you and your efforts for granted.

What was his reaction when you ‘forgot’ his birthday?
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@Newestname002 she did leave in the end, I think he bullied her out too. He used his wife’s inheritance to set up the company then divorced her. Hope she took him to the cleaners!

I once went on a terrible date with a man I met OLD. From the minute he laid eyes on me, he made it clear there was no physical attraction. We'd exchanged (truthful) pictures but nonetheless, he mentioned a few times that I wasn't his 'type', made an insulting remark about what I was wearing and when the waitress made a comment about 'couples', he jumped in quickly with, 'we're not a couple...Lord, no!'

Stupidly instead of just ending the date, I stayed till the end but afterwards my self esteem was shot. He even had the audacity to email me and suggest meeting up again to see if maybe it would be better second time around. I declined.

It took me quite a while to get my confidence back up and while I never considered 'revenge', an opportunity to dent his ego fell into my lap!

A couple of years later I was at a publicity launch and he was there. I was feeling good about myself that night, had been working out and just generally felt good in myself. He walks up to me but at first I didn't recognise him as he'd gained weight and grown his hair. He had a name tag on and I think he assumed I knew who he was. For the first minute or so, I really couldn't place him so I said, 'how do I know you? I'm not sure we've met before?'

He then reminds me it was OLD, the penny dropped but I decided to just keep up the pretense of not knowing him. Very childish of me but I could see that his ego was somewhat dented that I could not remember his marvellous self 2 years later. I ended up excusing myself, still pretending I didn't remember the date and honestly, I felt great.

Not something I'd normally do but I really enjoyed this.

I snuck into an office and wiped the entire system. Erased everything. And I mean EVERYTHING.

Wow - that was a lot! Especially if they were silly enough not to have backups. Did they suspect it was you - or just confused?🌹

@DeeplyMovingExperience DeeplyMovingExperience · 08/06/2024 15:43
Cornered in the lift by a highly toxic boss during the 1980s who groped me, terrified me, and was a disgusting pig of a man.

I was young and one of the few staff who knew how to operate a computer.

I snuck into an office and wiped the entire system. Erased everything. And I mean EVERYTHING.

Woah! You are lucky you weren't caught as you might have ended up in prison!
Today, you would almost certainly be caught as they'd have login details and CCTV.

This is classic action of a young person I think. Older and wiser would be waaay more cautious.

It so much revenge, more just a satisfying moment for me.

My ex was crap with money, regarding child maintenance we'd agreed an amount and stuck to it for years. My fault for not thinking to check. Until one day he dropped our dd off and started banging on about how much he was earning, how he was buying x car, had booked x holiday had pay rises and bonuses, he was just showing off tbh. This was about 24 hours after he'd said he couldn't afford to go halves on dd's school uniform as he was skint.

So I went inside, logged into CMS website and put in a claim. After they'd got hold of his HMRC figures he ended up paying me almost doubt the amount. That was exceptionally satisfying.

I bet you were floating a few inches off the floor all night. Good for you - and I bet they were sour all night during your awards. 🌹

Excellent! Did she end up paying?

@DeeplyMovingExperience

you wiped their computer in the 1980s and the next day it was “chaos”

in the 80s? 🤔

bloody hell he wasn’t the sharpest tool in the box if he’d been planning on paying for this on your credit card @PandaChopChop

My ex best friend from childhood was AWFUL to me for years. Bullying, spiteful, jealous, passive aggressive. I took it for a long time sadly, until it dawned on me in my 30s that real friends don't make you miserable and you shouldn't dread seeing them. I stopped responding to texts and just let it all go. Much happier immediately even though I lost a friend group in the process. Five years on ex friend messages me with an apology saying she realises now how badly she treated me and she feels guilty and can I forgive her? Nope. I left her on read. She can live with the guilt. Sometimes no response says everything and I know it will really bug her that I haven't given her what she wanted.
When I left a terrible job years ago I deleted every single contact/diary entry I had (PR). I shredded all my paperwork and cleared my tray. Nobody had asked for a handover and the lady I worked with had said my job was easy (it wasn't). Got a flustered email a few weeks later at my new (fantastic and better paid) job from the lady asking for my contacts and how did I do this and that and how did I get the copier to collate? I didn't reply. If my job was that easy I'm sure she could figure it out.

Silence is indeed the best response. Go you!