Revenge - what’s your experience?

[Getitgirl]

I’m a great believer that living well is the best revenge. But I wonder sometimes how it would feel to carry out an act of pure revenge - would it make you feel better about the person who wronged you? Did it bring any temporary relief and was there regret?

I’d love to hear of anyone’s experience of doing this - from the petty to the properly vengeful!

for context, a man who ghosted me two years ago keeps cropping up on the apps and ‘liking’ my profile. I ignore every time - even the fact he’s lying about his age every time every time he appears. Whilst tempting to let rip, I sense the relief would be short-lived.

over to you

that’s isn’t karma though

that all happens to the best of us with no one seeking revenge on us

I've become a peacemaker (well, I try to be one!) and it's a far more peaceful life. I don't think about those who have wronged me like I didn't before, it doesn't get under my skin the way it used to.

Keeping civil and unbothered is also the best response to someone who's trying to get at you. They will get bored very quickly and probably won't feel so good about themselves too so they may have some self reflection into their behaviour and work on it!

I'd just block him and move on, he wants you to react.. don't play his game!

I don't like to actually do anything.
I like to behave in a way that suggests I am doing something or have done something then enjoy them being really anxious and paranoid trying to work out what I've done or am about to do.

The perfect revenge for a lazy person.

It lasts longer too.

They used to sell 'Revenge Packs' which were very official looking letters you could send to people who'd done you wrong. I sent a few to bitchy ex-colleagues, nasty ex bosses etc to their work address (making sure they definitely weren't marked private and confidential) and took great delight at imagining the post person opening up a letter addressed to the person asking if they'd like to reorder incontinence pants or if they were pleased wrh their penis enlarger

A vile horrible manager used to enter the works Christmas raffle and win one of the top prizes ( a tv or a tablet ) EVERY year without fail. Obviously rigged in some way . I had given my notice and was in the staff canteen in my own near the raffle book so I ripped her named ticket stubs out of it . You didn't win that year Satan 😂

I think you’re my hero

I harbour secret desires to exact revenge upon the Head of Dept who made my life a living hell for 3 years, to the point where I receive emails to this day apologising for not standing up for me. I have composed emails to her so many times in my head but ultimately know that doing so would have no effect whatsoever and just make me feel shitter. And revenge? Can't be arsed with that.

This is genius level revenge.

I know someone who's husband was booked in for a vasectomy. They found out just days before that husband was cheating with a close relative of hers. But she kept quiet about it. Drove him to the clinic. Sat in the waiting room till he was called in and she said she'd wait for him. Off he went to get his snip. She drove home and put his stuff on the front step and locked the doors.

Savage

A friend of mine posted dog pooh through the post to an absolute knob of a team leader (after friend left the job) team.leader used to open the mail. Friend tipped off one of her former colleagues to watch for a couple of days when TL was opening the mail. One morning she opened up an envelope, looked confused, sniffed inside the envelope and jumped up from her text straight to the toilets looking very nauseous 🤣🤣🤣

surely he wanted a vasectomy anyway and if he’d planned to have children with the OW, he wouldn’t have done so

@crayfishyum he was having it because she couldn't use any birth control and he refused to wear condoms. So he'd probably of cancelled it if he realised the marriage was over.

especially if he refused to wear condoms…

@crayfishyum he was livid

weird! be having an affair but so committed to your partner that you have a vasectomy!

In any event , if he refuse to wear condoms, he’s probably quite pleased he went ahead!

I have revenge fantasies too.
Only mine are psychotic and I'm sure if I shared them I'd get called all sorts for the disturbing shit I play in my head at night 😂

I don't think I've ever taken revenge. Too busy taking too much responsibility for things that haven't been my doing 😆 (obviously I am not innocent in everything and have made plenty of mistakes)

I regularly fantasise about telling all and sundry at work about a particular colleague who bullied me out of my job. She is a terrible manager and cannot hold onto a permanent team- honestly it amazes me how it hasn't been addressed. She is an absolute nightmare to work for, inconsistent, lies, gaslights. I hated her for a very long time. I'm now in a fairly senior position in the company and she is still in the same position. Still can't hold on to staff for longer than 3 months.

Not really revenge, but does fall under "living well". Left an awful job which despite my skills, work was constantly criticised, made to manage projects in another part of the business I had zero previous experience in and which was not part of my job description. Bullied, screamed at and hung out to dry. If they'd let me use my expertise in the ways I suggested, it would have made a massive difference to them and clients but no. Anyhow, fast forward a few years, industry awards and old employers were there. Literally my ass didn't touch the seat all night, I won award after award after award. Up and down collecting trophies. I have never felt more vindicated.

A lightweight one but still satisfying

A woman I used to work with in a previous job was pretty dismissive and scathing of me. We were not friends at all.

I now work for a great company, which is 95% WFH. Old company where she works is still very much office based.

Woman emailed me on LinkedIn: 'Oh, hi, it's so long since we spoke (🤔 we never spoke, she hated me!) I see you now work at XYZ company and wondered how is it, is it WFH? Could you put a good word in for me??' Etc.

Took great delight in simply not replying.

Another one from me. As a teenager I got a job in a well known supermarket. In my first week I had a hospital appointment which had been booked a few months back ( nothing serious) but I hadn't mentioned at the interview, I hadn't realised I needed to. Next day at work I was called into the office and grilled by the horrible manager, who was like an old fashioned headmaster. He accused me of lying about a medical condition so he informed me he was terminating my contract as of 530pm that day. I probably should have walked out then but like a fool I stayed the rest of the day, filling shelves.
However.........this was before Barcodes and we had to price every item with a price ticket gun.So I spent the entire day pricing up whole aisles of products with prices much lower than they should be, and placed them all at the back of the shelves so it would take them a while to come to the front🤣🤣🤣

Another cycling one. The driver who pushed past me to get to the traffic lights. I thought he was going to drive over me. He turns left so I do then we pull into a car park We have a brief conversation and he tells me where to go and walks towards his workplace. Only I don't go anywhere. I stand next to his expensive wankpanzer. He comes back to me and asks what I am doing. I reply 'nothing' because I'm not doing anything just standing there. Now he is getting mad. But what's he going to do? He can't go into work and he can't stand watching me. I invited him to call the police but it was a public car park. This stand off went on for about 15 mins. I wasn't going to harm the car but the threat was enough. As I was leaving I reminded him I knew his car and where he worked. Of course I never did anything, just hoped he thought better of his actions next time.

I don't think it's fair to be unkind about something someone can't help but my STBEx husband did a lot of damage with his very small penis. When I was packing up his stuff from the kitchen I put a cashew nut in the box. It's puerile, I know, but I hope it choked him gave him something to huff about.

@IToldMyVersionofEvents a cashew! I am weak.

i nicknamed one particularly unpleasant character mini milk for similar reasons. And no I didn’t tell him before anyone accuses me of being weird!

Ex MIL treated me appallingly when her son left me and 2 children ( aged 3 and 2) for a 17 year old work colleague. She lived 3 doors away but cut us off completely, ignored the children if we saw her in the supermarket. She is now sad and alone and in very poor health. Her son ( my ex) embezzled a million pounds of other people's money and recently committed suicide. His second wife ( the OW) also divorced him and has no contact with his mother. The child of thst marriage is 15 and refuses to see her granny. I have been married to my second husband for 20 years. I have a brilliant life. I have no contact with his mother. My children are now 30 and 31 and have no contact with her. She has never seen either great grandchild . Oh dear how sad. I used to think thst when she died I would go and dance on her grave singing ' Ding dong the witch is dead'. To be honest I wouldn't even bother to do that now.