If you could say just one sentence to a person that you’ve never been able to…

[Arlanymor]

… what would it be?

I’ll go first: “You didn’t make a noble sacrifice, you went back to a relationship where you are used and abused in front of your children who will see this dysfunction as the ‘model’ for their future relationships. Wake the fuck up.”

You are a deeply unpleasant person and I find it very difficult to be around you.

You’ve been an utter waste of space as a father and I despise you for the way you’ve treated your children.

You might be my son in-laws' family but have you always been so rude, obnoxious and such an obvious bunch of misfits??

Dad is thinking about cutting you out of the will because of your selfish behaviour during mums final illness and death and given how spiteful and nasty you have been to me, I would take the money without a second thought.

You are the problem. You are an extremely selfish, manipulative, and controlling woman. You've destroyed your marriage and screwed up your kids' childhoods. Own it and be a better person. Stop lying to yourself and others.

You micro manage, have no ppl skills and are a bully, we know what really happened ZW

I'm torn between...'I'm genuinely really glad you're happy, you two are obviously made for one another and that's a wonderful thing.'... to an ex who professed to always be friends with ex's but then met the woman who became his wife and promptly cut all ties with me. They're so wonderful together and I seriously wish them all the happiness in the world, but sad I lost a great friend in the mix of it..

Or

'Why did you cut me out of the will and leave everything just to the boys?' I was the primary carer (but mainly a really good friend I thought) to an elderly relative who left everything to my brother's and nothing to me. I didn't contest, was their decision, but I'd love to understand why.

Thank you for your letter, I forgive you & I love you.

To Dawn, a colleague from many years ago: What an absolutely terrible thing to say to somebody. I have as much right to look for work as the next person. Just because you don't like my quiet personality, it doesn't mean you can speak to me as if I am nothing. How dare you be so dismissive of another human being.

You are a compulsive micro nanage and make other people's lives q misery You don't understand the job and are a hypocrite Please just retire now

Why did you think you could just drop us and then send cards three years later?Did it dawn on you that you had cut yourself off from your inheritance? You can't cherry pick the bits of the relationship with your father that you want and leave the rest. Life doesn't work like that.

That made me laugh out loud

the public think you're absolutely lovely and caring but I worked for you and know you're a dead eyed, cold fish with very little talent.

To S: You told everyone at work that I slept with you to get the job, something I only found out years after I left. Just to be clear: we never had any kind of physical contact, and I would rather set myself on fire than touch you or even look at you again, you pretentious, talentless, rotten, Gollum-faced turd

To R: You have made so many people’s lives a misery. You have upset mum and dad so much. Yes, your wife is a horrible bitch whom no one likes. Yes, you’re a spineless twat. You’ve been consistently vile for 20+ years - the only success story in your worthless life

To T: I will have my revenge. Everyone still knows you for your bullying and self-professed lack of hygiene “down below”. I can’t wait to tell all the celebrities you represent

To my 2 childhood bullies who made my life hell. I'm glad you're dead and I'm glad you're a drugged up scrote.

You are a manipulative twat and I wish she’d never met you.

I should pent my whole life being told I’m not enough or I’m too much. I don’t listen enough, I’m not well behaved enough. I’m too loud, too fat, too quiet. I just never felt enough for anyone. Then you came along and made me feel like I was enough for you. You showed me what it felt like to be loved and cared for. And then out of nowhere, you left. And now I’m stuck here wishing I’d never even met you because at least before you I never knew what it felt like to be loved. Now there’s nothing but emptiness and void and wonder at how I’m ever going to find anyone like you. I hate you so much because I can’t stop loving you. Congratulations, you broke me.

@StuckInHove 🫂💐🙏❤️

I wish you could realise how much you hurt me.
Why you think I'm not affected by your actions is beyond my comprehension.

You seem so proud of your kindness to others, and your ability to be empathetic, but it's seems that it doesn't apply to me.

I wonder if it's punishment for me choosing to live with someone you don't approve of, but you pretend that you do.

You say "I love you" to me, but I can feel the negativity, the dismissive attitude.

I so wish I was brave enough to tell you, but I won't , coz I know you'll twist it back on me... and even if you did understand, we would both suffer, coz of your anxiety issues.

Id never forgive myself for making you realise, so although it's crazy, I prefer to be the one who's hurt and crying out inside my head....

I love you, and I never would've believed that I could one day feel like this.

Sorry OP I've abused the "just one thing" rule.... but I kinda feel better and worse for letting the beast out...

And to someone else...

Why would you believe I would do such a thing?
Is it because YOU would?
I never got the chance to explain the situation, the reasons, the fact that I made a promise that I would never "tell".

You know that I've been compromised, but still you spit your vitriol, and you nurse your feelings based on assumptions.

I don't doubt you feel justified, but if only you knew the truth, if you'd let me be the adult that I was trusted to be by a shared loved one.

I don't wish you ill, but I'm glad that you're no longer in my life, as that would only enable you to try to damage me further.

OMG..... thank you OP 🙏🏻

If all of your friends are always upsetting you, have you ever considered the possibility that the problem is you?

Who was that aimed at?

This is a friend who can be kind and great fun; but she can also be blunt to the point of rudeness. I try and ignore these comments and change the subject; however other friends sometimes call her out or are a bit rude back.
If they do say something she gets upset and says people are being ‘mean’.
A few months ago she was complaining to me about how all of her friends upset her. She was then annoyed when I said it was very rare for any of my friends to upset me.

FairyLiz…

maybe by you saying that you rarely get upset by your friends, it made her feel uncomfortable that she gets upset by people she regards as friends?

Some people seem to be unaware that they are capable of upsetting others, and are truly astounded if and when it’s pointed out to them.

I rarely show a friend they have said something outrageous… I did once, quite a few years back and because I’d tried “to get over” her comments, she thought all was well… so maybe it came as a shock when later, I confessed I couldn’t regard her as a friend anymore, because how the heck she could’ve said what she said, is way beyond my comprehension.

Friendship can be very complex, and to be fair, I really haven’t got the headspace to try to cultivate a meaningful friendship with another person… so it’s as well my other half is a best friend to me.
I do miss having a mate to share fun as well as the ugh! stuff with.
it feels like it’d be a gamble to try to be myself with someone new now.
i don’t want to be vulnerable to snide (ambiguous) comments that are subtly hidden under the guise of friendship.
Those of you that can hand on heart truly believe you have a friend that you are totally connected and confident with, I’m envious, but at the same time, happy that you’ve got it.
Certainly is a big subject..

I don't actually like you very much. Everything is always someone else's fault. You take no responsibility for your own life. You're not a fun person to be around. you're just draining and exhausting. If we weren't related we absolutely would not be friends.