If you could say just one sentence to a person that you’ve never been able to…

[Arlanymor]

… what would it be?

I’ll go first: “You didn’t make a noble sacrifice, you went back to a relationship where you are used and abused in front of your children who will see this dysfunction as the ‘model’ for their future relationships. Wake the fuck up.”

Dad, I love you so much.

You brought this on yourself. Don’t be a cunt and bad stuff won’t happen. Simple.

Definitely no apology necessary. Sometimes that one sentence is all you need.

I can't believe I've never put it into words before and I found it releasing and so good to write it down. Woke up this morning thinking how much better I feel for doing it.

Thank you @Arlanymor for this fantastic, uplifting thread.

Vote for me. 🙏Pleeeeeese!

Don’t lecture me about climate change when you are faffing about in your kitchen while your sink tap runs the whole time and your clothes in the dryer on a sunny day.

Your tearful eulogy for your late DH when we all knew you were fucking any man you could get into bed was the most shameless piece of hypocrisy I have ever encountered. I never thought much of you before then, but my opinion dropped even lower after that.

You’re so welcome!

Why did you have to fuck it all up, you could have had everything and now you have lost it all.

You are a horrible bully who should never have had children. You sit with your golden child and tell everyone you are family orientated all the while destroying your scapegoat child, you fake weep at your mothers grave for instagram, when you are the one that pushed her into her grave with your vile, nasty tongue.
I hope one day everyone sees you for the poisonous person you are.

You are a rapist, you raped me.

You can pray to your God all you like, and devote your life to caring for the helpless and needy but I see through your act. I saw how you treated Dad when he relied on you. You were cruel and malicious. Dad had to be taken from his home and admitted to care to keep him safe from you. DId it make you feel good to remove his pain relief from him when he was dying from cancer? We may be blood relatives but you will never have a place in my life.

Do you really think I don't know when you're lying?
I'm not as stupid or blinkered as your gran.

I did this. It's a huge regret.

My sentence would be, "I'm sorry."

I miss you more than you know and I'm so, so proud of you.

You have never enjoyed the relationships with your children and grandchildren that you could have had because you prioritised a coercive and controlling man instead, even getting married to him.

You allowed me and my sibling to be in danger from a sexually predatory grandparent. Again, in order to spend weekends with a man who has wrecked your life with his selfishness.

I have never forgiven you for bullying me into an abortion. It may have been the best option but the way you went about it means our relationship was broken at a fundamental level.

If you think I was motivated by the money you kept saying you were going to leave me, you were wrong. I tried, really tried, while all the time you were a narcissistic bastard towards me, my husband, and my children. You eventually left it all to your sister, who is much more easily manipulated than I am. Perhaps, dad, if you'd put more effort in when I was growing up, I might have put more effort in when you were dying.

You are utterly vapid, morally bankrupt, deeply stupid (despite your belief you are very intelligent), selfish and malicious and the more people know you, the more obvious this is, which is why your 'friends' are really acquaintances who use you to boost their SM like you do with them.

Some things were clearly never meant for you but you’ve double-crossed and cheated to get them anyway. I’d say you are heading for a massive fall that you’re not going to be able to paper over like you usually do

Sorry

You also have a daughter, why shouldn't she do her share of sorting out stuff for you, running around after you, driving you you around etc etc. It's not fair.

Thank you for all you did for me. I didn’t appreciate it at the time because I was a self obsessed teen, but you made a huge difference to my life and I never got to tell you what I did with the opportunities you created for me

You may think you're being great parents by having no discipline for your kids, but you're really not. They'll grow up to be insufferable entitled brats. Oh and all the neighbours think you're wankers and wish you'd move away.

You selfish faithless arrogant piece of shit, I hope you die an early and painful death, before you have killed your poor child with over feeding.

You’re a jumped up little prick who along with your evil, lying witch of a sidekick and her flying monkeys, have destroyed something great. Behind the fake smiles, everyone wants you gone.

To A: Stop being a victim and own up to what you did.

To B: He's not your dad.