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WWYD about lying hairdresser?

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CharDee · 26/05/2024 21:16

I was bridesmaid at a wedding yesterday. The bride wanted to spend the morning with her mum and sister who is MOH and then the bridesmaids turn up at 12 for photos and to get dressed. All bridesmaids were asked to do their own hair and makeup so before Christmas I booked with my regular hair dresser for her to do my hair and makeup yesterday morning. My appointment was at 9. I have been going to the same hairdresser for the past 7 years and go roughly every 3 months for a colour and book hair/make up for special occasions because I am genuinely terrible at styling my own hair! It’s something that she knows and often jokes about! I also don’t own much makeup as I don’t wear it often.

On Friday night just after 11 I got a message from my hairdresser to say it was her husband messaging and that she was currently in a&e very unwell, would likely be there for hours as she hadn’t been seen yet and she needed to cancel my appointment. Obviously I replied and thanked him for letting me know and sent my well wishes.

Being ill is completely unavoidable and although it inconvenienced me, I was more concerned about her health. The late hour meant that I couldn’t get in touch with anyone else and even though I did call a few local salons as soon as they opened on Saturday morning, the only appointment was one late in the afternoon.

I managed to do my own hair, just straightened it and put a nice clip in. I put a bit of makeup on but it didn’t look that good! The other bridesmaids are completely different skin tones so they were able to help a little. I felt a bit rubbish but had a good time anyway, just didn’t feel very special! I have very low self esteem at the moment and felt so washed out standing with the stunning bride and beautiful bridesmaids. It really hasn’t helped.

Whilst waiting for the reception I was on instagram and saw a friend’s story. She had gone on her hen do abroad that morning. She shared photos of the airport which were from 6:30 in the morning and she’s there with all her friends all posing with drinks. My hairdresser was one of them. It’s definitely her and we have both spoken about hen do friend being a mutual friend. I went on to friends Facebook profile and saw they’d all been for a meal and then stayed in an apartment the night before and hairdresser was in the photos but not tagged. There was a video of the hen doing something that was posted at 11:30 and hairdresser is there in the background laughing with someone else. In the actual video the hen said something about it being nearly midnight and how she needed her beauty sleep.

I paid a 50% deposit for my appointment and in the message her husband said that she would transfer the deposit to my next appointment which is booked for a few weeks time for a colour. I am a regular customer and this appointment was made months ago. If she had double booked herself and said she had this hen do then I would have understood and had time to book elsewhere. Instead she has lied about it and left me completely stuck.

Would you contact her when she’s back from the hen do and ask her about it? Would you cancel the upcoming appointment? Would you just let it go?

I’m trying to work out a scenario where she hasn’t lied but she was hardly going to be able to do my hair whilst on a flight to Ibiza even if she wasn’t ill.

OP posts:
TruthorDie · 27/05/2024 15:36

Loving your responses! She’s quite shameless isn’t she. Another vote to leave a negative and detailed review about her lies and lack of professionalism

StaunchMomma · 27/05/2024 15:38

scrapsontheside · 26/05/2024 22:08

@CharDee are you not tempted to like or comment on Instagram?
Let her squirm!

Edited

Hard agree!

'Oh, don't you look WELL! They must have miracle doctors in Ibiza A&E's!'

Jessie21 · 27/05/2024 15:40

Firstly, find a new salon. Don't go back, there's no point. She's broken your trust.

Secondly, leave a review. Put screenshots up of the messages and any social media posts of the hen do that are just her. Make sure they're time stamped.

I don’t know how anyone can lie like that.

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LordSnot · 27/05/2024 15:41

Great text, well done. I bet you looked gorgeous at the wedding too.

afterfive · 27/05/2024 15:42

Could her partner have lied without telling her exactly what he said by any chance?

If she knew you were friends with the bride to be she must have known you would find out about her going.

But great text, glad you are not a doormat. You even should have asked for compensation for her standing you up like that. Before a wedding. It’s such a shitty thing to do.

Theredoubtableskins · 27/05/2024 15:44

Doesn’t sound like she thinks she did anything wrong. Are you sure her flight couldn’t have been afternoon or evening, so she would have had time to do your hair? Her reply is just kind of odd. Really doesn’t sound like she thinks she did anything bad.

Edited to say never mind, I read the OP again and you said she was in the photos from the airport so hairdresser definitely flew out first thing so wouldn’t have been around to do your hair.
Maybe she just doesn’t realise she has been caught out. Probably thinks you think she flew out today or something.

Bloop1986 · 27/05/2024 15:46

Absolutely fuming reading that! If she had cancelled in time for you to sort an alternative hairdresser you might have respected her but wow! I would never give her business again!!

Hecatoncheires · 27/05/2024 15:47

@CharDee Oh, OP, I am confident you are not as plain as you think you are. I bet you really are every bit as naturally pretty as your DH says. And you sound lovely too. If I had to pick someone to spend the day with it out of you and your horrible hairdresser then she would be trampled in my rush to bundle you into my car and off to the nearest place for cocktails and chat and fun. All the very best to you.

godmum56 · 27/05/2024 15:49

scrapsontheside · 26/05/2024 21:32

Screenshot the pics
Full refund

This....not just a liar but a lousy liar.

drusth · 27/05/2024 15:50

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godmum56 · 27/05/2024 15:51

CharDee · 27/05/2024 14:00

We have a reply!

“Heyy, sure I’ll send the refund over when I’m back. Need to double check how much it was you sent. Are you rearranging your next appointment?”

I’ve replied

“Thank you. It was £50 for the appointment you cancelled on Saturday and it was £30 for my upcoming appointment. The screenshots of the payments I made are in this chat, just above the messages from you last Sunday confirming my appointment and from your husband, late on Friday night, to tell me you were ill and had to cancel my appointment.

I will be rearranging my appointment with a different hairdresser, I’m afraid. As good as you are as a hairdresser and MUA, I’m not sure even in your best health you would have been able to style my hair and do my makeup to a good enough standard from a plane on its way to Ibiza.

Let me know when you’ve transferred the money back."

well done you

BirthdayRainbow · 27/05/2024 15:52

I really hope you get all the money back. Excellent messages to her.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 27/05/2024 15:53

Anyone else getting this add?

WWYD about lying hairdresser?
Tigertigertigertiger · 27/05/2024 15:56

Let it go. Life's short

HollaHolla · 27/05/2024 15:59

Good for you, OP! What an awful let down from someone who KNEW it was for an important occasion.
Your DH sounds like a good 'un, and just wants you to feel confident, and your best. I bet he really always does think you're gorgeous.

MrsKeats · 27/05/2024 16:03

Changingplace · 26/05/2024 21:44

Screen shot all the pics now, insta stories will disappear.

Ask for a full refund, and never use her again, that’s appalling :(

This

LEWWW · 27/05/2024 16:03

Make sure you leave a review on Google/social pages so that future clients are aware. That is so bad.

MrsKeats · 27/05/2024 16:10

Ok sorry I'm behind.
Great response op.

PrimalOwl10 · 27/05/2024 16:15

What a horrible cow having your hair and make up was a treat and she spoilt it for you when you could have went else where

MrsWhites · 27/05/2024 16:17

OP your latest response made me gasp out loud - in a good way! Brilliant reply!

Can’t believe she was hard faced enough to reply the way she did without acknowledging how out of order she’d been - no apology for letting you down or anything!

SheerLucks · 27/05/2024 16:22

Great response OP!!

She sounds completely flakey and unprofessional and you're right to feel very hurt by this. Do not go back!!

CoffeeLover90 · 27/05/2024 16:45

Want to follow this because that reply made me snort laugh and I hope there's an opportunity for another.
Also would like to bake that DH a cake.

TokyoSushi · 27/05/2024 16:59

Oh OP, what a cow the hairdresser is!! Thank goodness for lovely DH & niece, I get you looked lovely!

TokyoSushi · 27/05/2024 16:59

*bet

Duckingella · 27/05/2024 17:16

She knew she wouldn't be able to cover that appointment so had ample time to cancel it and let you book elsewhere.

I have hair and MUA friends who if they had forgotten to cancel a client for bridesmaids makeup would have asked around to have someone cover said appointment.

Ask for a full refund and find another hairdresser.

Also for shits and giggles I'd put generic comments on a few of the photos with the hairdresser in eg "I hope you all had a great time" "You all look amazing" etc so she knows you've seen the photos.