So so so shit

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Waiting for my Dad to die and I can't do this. Pancreatic cancer spread to liver, he's so uncomfortable and they can't do anything to help him now. This is beyond distressing - you would put an animal to sleep. Just wanted to vent - he doesn't deserve it.

Ive been there OP with my dad..very quick but very slow in the end, you know. Heartbreaking but also a relief. Im sorry, i really am. Go sleep for as long as you want. Love sent ♥️

Thank you all again - you're the sanest ones around at the moment

What a huge shock for you all, I'm very sorry OP. How lovely for your dad that you were with him for those horrible days and final moments- ultimately that's all anyone can hope for.

I'm so sorry, I lost my dad to exactly this. From the jaundice to the end was approx 2 weeks for him.

Our hospice continuously stressed that any concerns at all I was to phone them, so I'd suggest you do that. Thankfully for me my dad was adamant he didn't want to die at home and we were able to get him admitted to the hospice 48 hours before he passed where the care was incredible - mainly down to the staff/patient ratio plus several volunteers.

I wish you all the best at what I know is an awful time. Try and stay strong xxx

Bless you, I'm so sorry to hear that he's gone. Take time for yourself now.

Damn I should have RTFT before replying.
I'm so very sorry to learn he's passed. But relieved for you that his suffering is over.
My wonderful dad was 12 days diagnosis to death. Pancreatic Cancer really must be the nastiest of all the cancers.

My beautiful dad had Huntington’s Disease and then got lung cancer. We were told probably 18 months.

He had radiotherapy that caused his chest to collapse. He died within 4 weeks of diagnosis. Huge shock.

I was his carer and with him throughout. I was utterly bereft when he died. The speed of it all utterly sideswiped me.

Now, many years on I can see that maybe it was a blessing in disguise. A short illness means he was spared months of suffering. It was hard to feel that way when it happened though. Time helped.

I’m so glad your dad passed peacefully ❤️

On a more practical note, you can ask them to take a lock of his hair for you or his fingerprints. You can have that made into jewellery etc. You might not want to but just thought I’d mention it, just in case. I didn’t know about it at the time and didn’t think. I really wish I’d done it.

Sending you and your family lots of love 💐

Such a sad time for you OP. But you were wonderful to your Dad in his last days. God bless you for your care and for getting him the help he needed.

I lost my cousin to liver cancer just over 3 weeks ago but was privileged to be able to see her and sit with her in the final days. [After just 2.5 months of illness]. I was able to show her how much I cared about her and I hoped I gave some small measure of comfort. She was so brave.

My Great Grandmother, my Grandfather, my Grandmother, my Father, my Mother and now my Cousin all taken by this awful disease.

Take care of yourself at this time OP, it's always a shock and feels surreal for a while. I hope you have plenty of support where you are. X

Condolences to you and your family on your sad loss.

Am so sorry for your loss xx

So sorry for your loss OP. Relieved for you all that your dad is now at peace 💐

I did this last year, with my DH, and it’s unbearable. We let humans suffer in a way we wouldn’t be allowed to let animals suffer.

Thoughts with you.💐.

Another who has been there. I’m so sorry you’re in it right now.

(My eyes were opened. I never realised how many people are going through this every day while the world went on.)

So so sorry you have lost your Dad so quickly, take comfort he didn't suffer for too long.

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So sorry to read that you've lost your Dad. Sending love for the tough times ahead.

You did so well by him, he knew he was loved.

Thanks. We've actually managed to have a bit of a laugh this morning

Hiya, OP . . . . yes, I remember we did this! We sat around in the garden reminiscing and it was lovely, helpful and I was so grateful that we had that time together. There were other times when we were busy, sorting out all the things that need to be done following a death and there were also times when the tears flowed.

Take good care of yourself, take it day by day, sometimes hour by hour, there will be so many things and feelings to deal with

💐