Should I wake my lodger? Hasn't turned up for work

[Noodge]

My lodger works in a nursery and starts around 07:30.

Her boss has messaged me this morning to ask me to get her to get in touch as she hasn't turned up for work.

I actually heard lodger getting up this morning, but then I went back to sleep.

Is it my business? I'm inclined to think not but then, if she's accidentally slept in she might appreciate me waking her up? I've only just seen the message so she's already very late.

Boss knows who I am as we're both in the same social group.

WWYD?

In that situation, if they cannot get hold of employee through proper channels, the nursery needs to phone bank staff, cancel children’s attendance, redeploy staff or whatever is in their policy for this situation. I briefly worked for one, the policy did not involve contacting acquaintances that aren’t the employees emergency contact, through Facebook. It is unprofessional and inappropriate.

I definitely would have stayed out of it, assuming she is an adult.

I too woke up for work and decided I was too poorly to go in so rang in sick and then went back to bed.

I’ve never done that before and I rarely ever get sick but I just needed it today and I would have hated someone waking me up, especially if she’s struggled to get to sleep during the night like me.

I have been back several times today! I'm not one of those who starts threads and runs
Lodger walks to work, and I'd be very surprised if her manager didn't know that.

Is it illegal to contact me? It's really none of my business if lodger doesn't go to work isn't it?

That's an emergency for the company to deal with. It's not a health emergency for the employee allowing boss to hassle employees friends or LL over.

"If a reliable employee does not show up for work on time, does not contact you and doesn't not answer your phone, of course you will try to track them down. Not because you're trying to harass them, but because you're trying to check if they're still alive"

I'm sorry - but if an employee is a no show one morning, you don't assume they're dead

Not at all. Very very sadly, somebody in the same Uni Halls as my son, died from this. It is very speedy and looks a like a hangover.

Boss probably messaged because he/she couldn't get an answer from the employee.

OP says she is known to boss, and boss knows OP is in same social group as employee, so logical to contact OP I guess, even if a bit annoying.

Depends on their health record and age. So no. no-one assumes, but it is safe to ensure all is OK.

EVen if a colleague is young, if you know they are diabetic, or have epilepsy, heart prolems, or mental health issues - you'd be seriously at fault if you didn't check.

No, i think it’s invasive to knock. Maybe she chucked a sickie

🤣🤣🤣

No it’s not. Don’t be silly

In a similar situation my housemate was halfway to work with a broken arm and a smashed bike and phone and would have been waiting for help a lot longer if a mutual friend and colleague hadn’t texted me to ask if I knew where she was as was expected at work. I’ve always understood it to be normal to check if someone is alright if they aren’t where they usually are.

My initial thought was has the huge dog eaten the lodger but I'm a bit dog phobic so there we are. I don't think legally you have to get involved but if there was genuine concern about your lodgers health then it was caring of your lodgers boss to get in touch with you.

No it’s absolutely none of your business if your lodger doesn’t go to work.

Tbh even if they were your own adult child, it wouldn’t be your business/responsibility.

I hope that they contacted you because they were worried and wondered if she’d got into an accident or something, rather than hoping you’d encourage her to go in.

What's bangret?

What is bangret?

@eggplant16

What is the OPs post gave you the impression this could even be a possibility?

That'll be it!

If one of my employees didn't turn up to work with no contact I'd be very worried about them and would certainly contact whoever they lived with to check that they are ok. For all you knew she could have left the house and been hit by a bus, or had a seizure and choked on her own vomit, bit callous that you found it so inconvenient to check up on her in such circumstances.

I can't work out whether half these posters are touchingly naïve or just bloody selfish! Of course bad things can happen to anyone. They happen many times a day. If you'd had, say, a brain bleed during the night and were paralysed, you'd be really fucked off that someone you lived with had left you to potentially die because they didn't see it as their place to knock on your door.

What made you jump to meningitis instead of the thousand other things it could have been?

Experience, probably. One PP has already said her brother died of it because no-one checked in on him.

It’s sadly very speedy. Can look just like a bit of cold or a bit of fever. A relative of mine died of it at the age of 15. It only took a few hours before it was too late. The brother who thought he would just let him sleep it off became a doctor, married to another doctor. To help others.

It’s obviously a stretch, but to make people aware of it can only be a good thing.

Making people aware of what? That not going to work might mean you have meningitis?

Eh?