Should I wake my lodger? Hasn't turned up for work

[Noodge]

My lodger works in a nursery and starts around 07:30.

Her boss has messaged me this morning to ask me to get her to get in touch as she hasn't turned up for work.

I actually heard lodger getting up this morning, but then I went back to sleep.

Is it my business? I'm inclined to think not but then, if she's accidentally slept in she might appreciate me waking her up? I've only just seen the message so she's already very late.

Boss knows who I am as we're both in the same social group.

WWYD?

If OP doesn’t return to this thread after she’s knocked then this’ll run for 18 pages I reckon, with evermore outlandish theories

It was inappropriate for the lodgers boss to contact you but, arguably, if she's genuinely concerned, any solution to check that her employee is safe is probably fair enough.

I'd knock.

I'd also make it clear to the lodger that if she's lying in because she's tired/hungover/just cant' be assed, that this is 100% not okay and you are not her mother or her partner so you having to take responsibility for this when ther wasn't a good reason is not on.

That's a huge leap!

I'll be honest, I agree with this. It was an overstep on the part of the boss friend to contact you.

But they didn't know that until they contacted the OP.

Presume you've checked now, as it's an hour later & hope your lodger is OK.

But, I would also tell her boss / your friend to not involve you in office politics in the future.

Crikey. Just check on her! Why wouldn’t you? I’m astonished anyone would need to ask randoms on the internet about this.

When someone fails to come into work, it’s not an emergency.

Its because OP knocked on the door, opened it up and got caught in the time vortex that appeared in the lodger's room - and she's now stuck on Mars in the Space Year 50045.12

Can she take me there too? Bad day

She'd love to, but her phone has no signal there ...

It can be. I know at least two people who were called because someone didn't come in to work (young people). Someone went to check and they were dead.

Sure, but that’s not the employer’s place to assume.

@GalileoHumpkins what is bangret please?

@WittiestUsernameEver yes, that's exactly what happened. Weather's a bit crap up here.

@KikiShaLeeBopDeBopBop I think it is too!

Sorry for late update, I had to take my dog out before work.

At the time of receiving message from boss I messaged lodger. I was about to knock on her room when she (lodger) messaged me saying she'd called in sick to work as she'd 'thrown up a couple of times in the night'. I messaged boss back to tell her same and didn't knock on the door.

Lodger's Mum lives 5 mins away and I would imagine is her emergency contact but I don't know that for sure, just an educated guess!

@SheepAndSword I got so invested in the matter of Joyce Vincent. So sad!

@GerbilsForever24 whilst I agree I'd say that's more what I should say to her boss rather than lodger? Not her fault they contacted me?

I wouldn't say me and boss are friends per se, we know one another and are friendly. We share an interest and bump into each other socialising at said interest sometimes? I've always liked her so I am not annoyed with her as such-she maybe was genuinely concerned.

@FortunataTagnips I just genuinely didn't know what to do. I'd be pretty annoyed if I'd decided not to go to work because I was ill and my landlord got involved, as one example as to why. Lodger is an adult and it is her prerogative to not go to work for whatever reason, annoying as it may be for others. But then there's the fact that something could have happened to her, you never know...

Fair enough, once someone is already dead, it's not an emergency. But it is if someone is very ill or injured and they could end up dead if they don't get prompt medical care.

'If they'd have been found sooner, they would have survived, but we didn't want to inappropriately call their landlord when they didn't show up at work, so they didn't'.

What I meant is that your lodger needs to take responsibility for calling in sick ON TIME. Because she clearly didn't, the boss then called you which wasn't appropriate.

Pretty normal for an employer to contact an emergency contact if someone doesn't show up? Duty of care.

I don't know if OP is that person but it sounds like they are part of the same social group, so they know who lives with who.

I'd be pretty annoyed if I'd decided not to go to work because I was ill and my landlord got involved, as one example as to why. Lodger is an adult and it is her prerogative to not go to work for whatever reason, annoying as it may be for others. But then there's the fact that something could have happened to her, you never know

But workplaces usually have rules that state if you're not going to be at work, you need to call them by a certain time. Your lodger didn't do that, so its on her when her employer called you about it

@GerbilsForever24 sorry, I understands. I am not sure how the nursery operates, I assume if the early start is at 07:30 then that's what time they open so perhaps she couldn't have called in sick before then? But by the time I saw the message it was obviously much later than that. It was sent at 07:55 but I'd not looked.

I don't think they knocked on the correct house however. As I've said even if I hadn't have heard it the bloody dog would have!

Glad it’s sorted but I’d be telling Manager to leave me out of it in future.

I will. Lazy/selfish as it may sound I have enough things to do of a morning without dealing with someone else's work situation!

How much effort does it really take to check on someone in another room in your house?

You’re not that busy if you can start a thread on here about it 🙄

It is in the sense that employers have a duty of care towards their employees and have to take steps to make sure they’re okay when they don’t show up for their shifts.

I'd block the boss from messaging you, highly unprofessional of them.