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Lord help me, a child with no manners is around for a sleepover

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Rainallnight · 03/05/2024 17:53

Good friend of DD is over on a sleepover. Both going on 8. There hasn’t been a single please or thank you from the friend. I am probably being unreasonable (hence not posting in AIBU!) but I find it very grating and it’s going to get on my nerves all the through.

Just needed to get that off my chest!

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Medsy · 06/05/2024 05:21

pollymere · 05/05/2024 10:06

My DH doesn't have English as his Mother Tongue. This means he often talks imperatively which can feel quite aggressive. He also says can I rather than please or thank you. I've worked with Irish people who would say "Would you put the kettle on?" rather than Please put the kettle on.

I think there are cultures that are polite but don't say please or thank you. I think you are perhaps judging a child by your own cultural standards.

I think you are perhaps judging a child by your own cultural standards
Oh get over yourself. In this country please and thank you is our norm and our cultural standards apply.

I was raised an immigrant in a different language. So what? It's up to you to adapt.

What if you came from a culture where it was considered normal to get your cock out as a way of saying hello?

WhatWouldJeevesDo · 06/05/2024 06:44

Medsy · 06/05/2024 05:21

I think you are perhaps judging a child by your own cultural standards
Oh get over yourself. In this country please and thank you is our norm and our cultural standards apply.

I was raised an immigrant in a different language. So what? It's up to you to adapt.

What if you came from a culture where it was considered normal to get your cock out as a way of saying hello?

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It would also be unreasonable for you to condemn a seven-year-old girl for not doing so.

Calliopespa · 06/05/2024 10:12

WhatWouldJeevesDo · 05/05/2024 20:28

Yes. ‘No manners’ sounds quite extreme like the young lady in the limerick.

There was a young lady from Tottenham,
Who had no manners, or else she'd forgotten 'em.
At tea at the vicar's,
She tore off her knickers.
Because, she explained, she felt hot in 'em.

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I love that Limerick - best of the lot!

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JudgeJ · 10/05/2024 20:38

BigAnne · 04/05/2024 11:27

Looks like you've got poor reading comprehension.

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Not at all dear, my comprehension is excellent, shame we can't say that of others.

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