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Yurnsli · 26/04/2024 19:43

Hi everyone,

I just got this message from my ex-husband that quite frankly pissed me off. I don't know what to reply.

For context, my ex-husband and I are legally divorced and have been separated for the last fifteen years.

My son insisted I let him move into the annex temporarily as he doesn't have money and nowhere to go.

I stupidly accepted.

He has no money as far as I'm aware, although he's been very evasive and secretive around a trust fund he and his sister got from his father's inheritance.

He refuses to apply for any financial help or get his retirement money and refuses to move out of the house. Although our daughter offered to help him find a place and help him get his finances sorted.

I feel I have no choice but to give him money and do his shopping.

I left to travel to my pregnant daughter's to help her out as she is currently alone with a toddler and is due in the next couple of weeks. I am quite skint myself at this point and only left him and my son with enough to cover essential shopping and did a full shop as well.

He texted me this:

"Unfortunately, when you left, you didn't leave any money for me. This means I cannot buy food or cigarettes.
Can you think of a solution to this problem?"

I find it very cheeky but don't know how to reply.
I'm tired of this situation and want to get rid of him to be honest.

OP posts:
ThereIsATInWater · 26/04/2024 19:45

Piss off and get a job??

LillyLeaf · 26/04/2024 19:48

'I expect you to be gone by the time I get back'

TTPD · 26/04/2024 19:48

"Move out of my house you scrounging waste of space”?

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BoohooWoohoo · 26/04/2024 19:48

How old is the son who insisted his dad move in? He can financially support the cf.

thistimelastweek · 26/04/2024 19:48

Yup. Stand on your own two feet and solve your own problems.

justasmalltownmum · 26/04/2024 19:49

LillyLeaf · 26/04/2024 19:48

'I expect you to be gone by the time I get back'

Yes this!

SuncreamAndIceCream · 26/04/2024 19:51

"Fuck off out of my house you lazy piece of shit"

Shinyandnew1 · 26/04/2024 19:51

My son insisted I let him move into the annex temporarily as he doesn't have money and nowhere to go.

WTF-why?! How long has he been living with you?

Pixilicious1 · 26/04/2024 19:52

“Pay for your own cigarettes and food you fucking freeloader. And be gone by the time I get back”

what a bloody cheek he has!

NoTeaNoShade · 26/04/2024 19:52

I don't think I'd reply to that. His having no food/cigarettes doesn't impact you, he is a grown adult.

unicornsarereal72 · 26/04/2024 19:53

No. No i can't. 🤣

Nightone · 26/04/2024 19:54

Maybe move house to somewhere without an annexe.

Mix56 · 26/04/2024 19:56

"No". Is the correct response

DeleteIfNotAloud · 26/04/2024 19:56

"No, it's your responsibility to find a solution"

And then fuck the fucker off. Get him gone!

greengreyblue · 26/04/2024 19:57

Jesus Christ! Tell them to fuck right off! He’s a grown man!

2chocolateoranges · 26/04/2024 19:57

my reply would be

Do what everyone else does and get a fucking job!

GreatGateauxsby · 26/04/2024 19:57

“No.
Can you find a solution for this problem?”

while he is there he should find a solution to his housing problem.

the problem you need to solve is why you are letting your son and ex husband treat you like shit…

Ivyy · 26/04/2024 19:58

Wtf?! Op tell him tough shit not my problem or responsibility!

Littlebluebird123 · 26/04/2024 20:02

I can see why you're not together.
Unfortunately, I think you need to evict him and ignore the 'you made me homeless' comments. You may even need to wait until he's out and change the locks. I'm not sure of the legal position if he isn't paying rent/has no agreement but you don't want him to squat there.
He's completely taking advantage of you and putting you in a difficult position. You will need to explain exactly why he can't stay to your son. Perhaps your daughter can back you with this?
He sounds absolutely vile.
Hope you can stand strong.

SoYoung · 26/04/2024 20:02

I can't even begin to think about what you should send to him. I have to start with asking you op, in the nicest possible way, what on earth are you doing? What are you doing?

Why would you let yourself be taken advantage of like this? Get rid of him.

madameparis · 26/04/2024 20:02

Yes I have a solution to this problem - you. You need to work out how you are going to earn money to pay for anything that you need. I am giving you a months notice to find somewhere else to live. You need to be fully moved out by X date. During this months notice I will not be financing anything further for you.

Summerhillsquare · 26/04/2024 20:02

You cannot be serious!

Bitzi · 26/04/2024 20:03

Well, the message is the least of your problems.

TroysMammy · 26/04/2024 20:03

ThereIsATInWater · 26/04/2024 19:45

Piss off and get a job??

Exactly what I was going to say.

BrieHugger · 26/04/2024 20:04

“Knock it off this months rent money”

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