What would you reply to this message?

[Yurnsli]

Hi everyone,

I just got this message from my ex-husband that quite frankly pissed me off. I don't know what to reply.

For context, my ex-husband and I are legally divorced and have been separated for the last fifteen years.

My son insisted I let him move into the annex temporarily as he doesn't have money and nowhere to go.

I stupidly accepted.

He has no money as far as I'm aware, although he's been very evasive and secretive around a trust fund he and his sister got from his father's inheritance.

He refuses to apply for any financial help or get his retirement money and refuses to move out of the house. Although our daughter offered to help him find a place and help him get his finances sorted.

I feel I have no choice but to give him money and do his shopping.

I left to travel to my pregnant daughter's to help her out as she is currently alone with a toddler and is due in the next couple of weeks. I am quite skint myself at this point and only left him and my son with enough to cover essential shopping and did a full shop as well.

He texted me this:

"Unfortunately, when you left, you didn't leave any money for me. This means I cannot buy food or cigarettes.
Can you think of a solution to this problem?"

I find it very cheeky but don't know how to reply.
I'm tired of this situation and want to get rid of him to be honest.

Get that fucker out of your home OP.

just Reply, “No”.

Jesus Christ! Imagine being so entitled that not only are you being housed by your ex wife but also expecting her to feed you!

The only answer is either a straightforward ‘no’ or a full on ‘you cannot be serious’ John McEnroe style meltdown

And yet it is obviously still Op's problem...

Op you need to think about why you are letting both your son and your ex husband dictate everything in your life.

Just don’t reply!

Fuck off you cheeky lazy twat!

Watch until he goes out and then get the locks changed quickly. While the locksmith is working, put his stuff in bin liners and leave it outside (safely) for him. Text him to tell him you've done it.

This must be AI. No-one is this much of a doormat. No-one.

This can't be real. Get the cheeky scrounging bastard out your house, your son sounds as bad as his dad so tell him to bugger off as well.

I was literally sat mouth open by the ending of reading that!!! Tell him it isn't your problem to solve, and you're glad he's opened a discussion as you want to give him notice to leave your property. Absolute cheeky fucker!!!

Has he got any relatives? Tell him to ask them.

I would reply:
you can’t take knickers off a bare arse, I’m skint, simple solution though for your problem, get your own money.

My response would be the shrug emoji 🤷🏼‍♀️ aaaannnddd...block.

Get the lazy b@stard out, OP. What a leech.

I'd respond with notice of when he needs to move out by.

You reply ' I want you gone ASAP.'

End of.

I honestly don't even understand how you let him into your annex when you could be renting it out and earning extra money.

How old is this son who seems to be following in his father's footsteps? Is he contributing financially to your household? Why are you letting yourself be bullied like this? F

“Hahahahaha. I don’t fucking think so.”

Is this a joke? You seriously let your ex husband move into your house and you give him money and buy his food? If this is true, you need to seriously get a grip of the situation. Don't reply to his message. When you get home, pack up his stuff and put it outside. Tell him to leave immediately. If he refuses, call the police and have him removed. Change your locks. Tell your children, who I'm presuming are adults, that under no circumstances is he to enter your house again. Come on OP, big girl pants on and take charge of your own life!

"Get the fuck out of my house you lazy freeloading piece of crap. The solution to your problem is to get a fucking job and stop expecting your EX wife to support you. This is stopping now. I will not longer be paying for anything and if you are not out by the time I get back I will be contacting the police to have your removed."

First reply has it spot on.

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Agreed. OP I think you posted this thinking you were making your ex look bad but you’re the one who looks like an idiot here.

If you don't like it, leave.

Why do you feel you have to house and give him money?

"Who's this?"