Wedding Dress Regrets, Been 3 years.

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I got married at 24, had a great day, love my husband. I felt young and daft in the shop and ended up buying the first dress I tried on.

It's been years now and I still sometimes torture myself over it. It crops up when I am anxious about other things in life.

I've attached a photo. I analyse photos and go down a rabbit hole sometimes when I'm feeling low. I don't know what's wrong and why I can't snap out of it!

OMG, you look stunning, it is such a stunning, yet simple dress and frankly very few people could have carried that off as it would not be forgiving on many people but you did it! It looks amazing, take the win, because you deserve it.

I quite agree. Stunning, elegant, timeless.

The obsessive focusing on the (perfectly lovely) dress three years after the event does make me think OCD is at play. Definitely worth investigating this further.

It's a beautiful, classic, timeless dress and your figure looks tremendous in it! the fact you are fixating on these things I think means you may need a little help here - you're redirecting x

Beautiful dress, lovely figure, it really suits you.

I was ready to tell you looked nice whatever, but you did actually look amazing.

Once you’ve had a couple of dc you will realise that bellies are not always washboard flat! It’s best to know that now!

OP I think you do need to try and change mindsets if you can. You didn’t get married in a dinosaur or clown costume, you chose a perfectly lovely dress in which you looked fab. It is also fine to think “with hindsight I would maybe have chosen something else” whilst still having lovely memories of the day and the dress. I can’t imagine anyone else is giving it a moment’s thought so stressing after 3 year, unless this represents something broader, isn’t something you need to be doing.

There is no “one” when it comes to dresses or baby names - I like my DC names but if they hadn’t been realistic options (perhaps my sibling has just used the same name) there are plenty of others to have chosen from. I liked my wedding dress from when I saw it in a magazine but had I not seen it or I couldn’t get it for some reason there are plenty of other suitable dresses I could have worn with confidence.

Is this really about the dress or is the dress a wider symptom?

I think your dress was stunning and you looked very beautiful in it. The style is simple yet timeless and elegant, and the neckline is gorgeous.

It's a lovely dress I always wonder how bride's manage in a big dress all day. Things like going to the toilet it's just not practical as well as the expence.

It is an elegant and sophisticated dress, I expect people at your wedding loved the way you looked.

I agree! I had a very simple dress and I was pretty hot in it for some of the day as it was a sunny, humid day and I like to dance a lot! A meringue would have been boiling and sweaty, and hard to dance in.

I always say that in situations - whatever they maybe - 'that at the time it was the right decision'
If you ever question did you do the right thing further down the line then remind yourself that whatever followed, might have been changed with more information or whatever but back then - it was the right decision!! So you need never second guess yourself again!!
It's a gorgeous dress - so it was exactly right for you!!

It was plain and also beautiful, it fit you perfectly .

OP I couldn't relate more! I married quite a bit younger than you and always felt a bit like a child bride picking out wedding stuff so was really half hearted. Now, nearly two decades later, I know I would have gone all in for a wedding in my late twenties or thirties!

Even though I looked fine on my wedding day, I too felt like I chose the simplest dress without seeing what else was out there. To be honest, just the distance of time (and a happy marriage) takes the regret away- I felt it worst maybe 5-7 years after our wedding!

I did exactly the same thing. I was so overwhelmed by the whole wedding business and being the centre of attention I just picked the first dress I tried on. Looking back it was hideous and not at all my style. I ended up throwing it in a skip about 8 years later because it bought me down every time I looked at it. I regret I didn't look my best on such a special day but I did the best I could at the time.

That was nearly 40 years ago. My DH and I are still together so I never got a chance for a do-over!

Try not to worry about it and if it helps I think your dress is beautiful.

Stunning. Your dress is elegant, stylish and classic. It has an Audrey Hepburn vibe. You looked absolutely beautiful.

You look so classy and elegant! What a great choice and fits you so well.

this post of yours sounds so like me, so you have my sympathies! It’s so overwhelming and draining

It's a beautiful, classic, classy dress, and it fitted you perfectly.

Gorgeous,elegant,classic and timeless. Thought you were going say it was ott,a meringue or something.

Absolutely gorgeous and classy and you really had the figure for it. Stunning!

Not sure if anyone else has added this, but a sweet tale...

About a young bride who made her own, imperfect, wedding dress but it all worked out well..

I don't mean to sound harsh, but I don't understand worrying about your wedding dress years after the actual wedding. Nobody will even remember what the dress looked like; they probably couldn't describe it the day after they attended the wedding!

I've attended more weddings than I care to remember and honestly not a single dress made such an impression (either way!) that I could recall it after the fact.

A happy bride is a beautiful bride. Cherish the lovely memories and forget the dress (because everyone else already has!)

Its gorgeous.

I regret my wedding dress still 13 years on - I was 24 too!!

Beautiful dress. You had the figure for it.