I have a date and I can't get my wedding and engagement rings off...

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What should I do?

Split from H last year. My fingers (and the rest of me) have grown significantly in the 20 years since my rings went on and there is no way of getting them off without intervention (I've tried all the washing up liquid and dental floss interventions).

Options are:

• front up with the date before I go and explain the situation in advance
• find out if I can get them cut off somehow which I don't really want to do because they were expensive
• chop off hand
• brazen it out and say nothing.

WWYD?

I got a ring cutter from Amazon, think it was about £8

I feel so claustrophobic even reading this

Don’t be so silly you don’t have to cut off a hand!… just the one finger 😂 you’ll be fine you’ve got plenty more 😅
Do you think any at all is swelling/bloating from eating? I’m just wondering if you could maybe flush yourself out by drinking loadsss of water and stay away from salt for a few day? You really only need a little bit of give so maybe it’ll help?

How did the date go? Hope it was fun!
Just caught up on the thread and am sorry that I too, said cut them off! The suggestion about the Tiffany code and having it cut to avoid that is great. Can then resize or mend accordingly.

You can buy a ring cutter from Amazon. As long as you cut at the very bottom of the shank they’ll be easily repaired should you want to.

I work in a jewellers just have them cut off, it’s not a problem and if you wanted to they can be rejoined once they have been cut.

If you go onto YouTube and type in how to get a ring of with dental floss. Basically wrap it round your finger and hopefully slide of. Saw it done years ago with thread. Worth a try. Good luck.

Even if you cut them off you’ll likely have marks from where they have been. I have a ring on that’s hard to remove and when I do remove the mark doesn’t go away.

It’s a first date - say nothing - there are more important things to talk about and figure out like whether you like this person! If the date asks, briefly explain and move the conversation on :)

The jewller who cut mine off bent it totally out of shape. I’m confident firemen would have been more subtle than that.

I would probably say in advance to avoid any awkwardness and you don’t want to be worrying about it before even meeting the person so I’d just get it out of the way. Can you try baby oil and pull the skin upwards, at the same time as trying to take them off with the other hand? Also check YouTube for ideas, I’m sure I seen some videos on there before on ways to take them off - good luck!

I’m gonna be the big bitch and say ‘maybe it’s time to lose some weight’. Not a popular opinion I’m sure, but let’s not sugar coat things! It won’t take much for your rings to become looser, hey presto.

You got it in your first few words!! How do you know that the OP is actually overweight? She might just have been thinner when she got married!!

The OP has been through a recent marriage breakup and you think that's an appropriate thing to say to her!?

If you're divorced, over the person and ready to move on, get them cut off. Why the heck do you want to preserve a reminder of a messed up relationship? If you're widowed then leave them and explain that you are widowed. I can't speak for everyone obviously, but I can think of 2 friends of mine who are widowed and still wear their rings and I think it's a lovely remind of something special that will live on in their hearts, even if life moves on in other ways.

As Buddha said, Life is miserable (enough) without us adding more misery to it by cruel comments (especially without the full knowledge of the facts). Michael Mosley has made himself a rich and famous man by exhorting people to "lose weight". Alas, it's not so simple especially in two days!! 😀

This reply is probably too late but you could try getting your finger really cold and holding it above your head at the same time. Maybe hold some ice in a tea towel. The finger will shrink and the blood will run out too. Also lube them up with loads of vegetable oil or whatever oil you have. After 5 minutes of cold/hand in the air you might be able to wiggle them loose.

I’d think it was a red flag if a date turned up wearing a wedding ring. I stopped wearing mine long before I left but and I’ve been left over 2 years and no intention of starting to date. Why have you still got them on. I’m going to buy myself a nice ring soon just because I did really like my engagement ring but I can’t wear it anymore

When was this date even? Why do op’s post then never come back? It’s like not settling the bill for legal advice …

Your local A and E will have the knowledge and a ring cutter if necessary!

I guess you can’t wear them forever just because they were expensive. You’re going to have to get them cut off at some point so you’re never going to be able to sell them as they are, so I’d just get it over and done with. Unless really you just want to keep them and this is a cover up? I don’t know. It’s just a no brainier to me unless there’s a deeper reason you don’t want to.

I completely agree! OP, we all want to know what happened! 🤔

I have dents and marks on my fingers, all part of wearing tight fitting rings. I never try removing them anymore, I think my hands look better with rings on. It's a shame that this lady really needs her rings cut off although in a way still wants to wear them .I can understand her dilemma.

Plaster over for 1st date
Cut off and remould into aomething else or sell. My wedding/engagement rings turned into a new sofa which I love so so much. Every single time i sit on it, it makes me happy

@styleitoutttt Please come back and tell us what you did!