I have a date and I can't get my wedding and engagement rings off...

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What should I do?

Split from H last year. My fingers (and the rest of me) have grown significantly in the 20 years since my rings went on and there is no way of getting them off without intervention (I've tried all the washing up liquid and dental floss interventions).

Options are:

• front up with the date before I go and explain the situation in advance
• find out if I can get them cut off somehow which I don't really want to do because they were expensive
• chop off hand
• brazen it out and say nothing.

WWYD?

😂😂😂 your posts are loaded with ‘miaow’.

I got mine cut off at a jewellers. He didn't charge anything for that, then fixed the platinum band for £40. No sign of any damage. And got a good polish up, looks better than it has done in years.

Actually that’s quite a low key solution😂 … against a context of fire brigades, ring cutting and vaginal lubricant.

OP, what happened?

We are invested. Please tell us how it went!

Yes did you get it off? ( the ring that is…)

God, what kind of advice is that?!
You didn’t give it much thought, did you…

Wreck one’s body and metabolism for a ring???
You can get it cut off and sorted for less than a £100.. that’s really the only sound advice besides explaining the situation to a prospective date.

I met up with a man I knew from school after seeing him on faceb. I had good memories of him and was considering some kind of relationship, but after meeting I saw that he had two names of his ex wives tattooed on him. I think that's worse than a ring.

Wear thermal gloves :)

Just joking no I actually have the same-ish problem I done the most stupid thing and got my ex name tattooed on my hand lol its so embarrassing but I did love him and he's still a very big part of my life as we have a son together and it's not a regret your past doesn't determine your future I doubt a piece of metal can make someone run away if they have genuine interest

I got mine sawed off at a jeweler with twin toddlers with me. They didn't even charge me.

I would just explain. Althou I'm the meantime, keep trying to get them off. Must be annoying to keep looking at them regardless of the date or not x

Wrap cloth around them. That's an old trick actors do on stage when they are playing an unmarried role but don't want to take their rings off. If date asks why you have cloth on your finger (which is unlikely) then you can explain.

Personally though I would try to get them cut off prior to the date if you can as it's not good for you to wear rings that are too tight so I would get them cut off at some point even if you cannot get that done before the date.

A good jeweller will able to resize them for you so you can wear them again if you want to maybe on a different finger. You could even have them re designed into a new ring.

I take mine off every evening and put them back on the next day. I just cannot sleep with any jewellery on.

I can see the cloth might work on stage where the audience is at a distance, but on a date I think I’d definitely notice and I’d find it so much weirder than rings. It would look a bit like self harming, or just not being upfront.

Yeah I guess that is true. I might tie colourful pieces of cloth around several fingers or find some way of disguising the rings so they don't look like a wedding stack. Add a third ring maybe and match up a similar stack on the right hand.

Is there a fast finger weight-loss diet you could try? Like a diet that targets where you lose the weight from?

Date is tomorrow, any luck?

I'd send him a message to say you'll be wearing a wedding ring and why. I'd leave a date if I spotted a wedding ring!

The best thing to do is add a third ring to the finger rather than have the rings cut off which would leave an obvious dent in the finger and perhaps put rings on the other hand as well but if any questions asked just explain. I am sure he would understand.

One half of the Scummy Mummies duo, Helen, had the same issue with her rings. On a girls' weekend away she decided that now was the time to remove them, but couldn't, so rocked up at the nearest fire station where they cut them off for her!

Isn't it dangerous for health reasons to not take them off, as the skin sweats under the ring so could cause fungus or bacteria build up? Or does gold protect that from happening? I thought it's copper that kills germs though.

Have them cut off - I'm guessing long term you want them off anyway?

You could then have them made into a new piece of jewellery.

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You do realise it only takes SECONDS to get them cut off? It'll more than likely be free too.

Worry about repairing them later.

I think mentally it'll be good to remove them too.

So much anticipation, so much excitement and so much to prepare to fend off unlikely awkward queries.. Only four days left!! Enjoy with all our best wishes.

Adding a third will make it look like she is wearing an eternity ring in addition to the engagement and wedding rings. I don't see how that helps! Rings on the other fingers are probably are more effective distraction.

I really don’t think this is the big deals folk are making it out to be. Presumably your date knows you had a recent split? Even if not, and you absolutely try everything and can’t get them off, I’d just be saying to the person from the get go ‘by the way, I promise I’m not with anyone! I just haven’t been able to get these rings off. If the person gets all sensitive about it and cant see the funny side I don’t think I could be doing with that. Definitely I would not be wearing gloves, or plasters, or loads of other rings or any of that nonsense ….