I have a date and I can't get my wedding and engagement rings off...

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What should I do?

Split from H last year. My fingers (and the rest of me) have grown significantly in the 20 years since my rings went on and there is no way of getting them off without intervention (I've tried all the washing up liquid and dental floss interventions).

Options are:

• front up with the date before I go and explain the situation in advance
• find out if I can get them cut off somehow which I don't really want to do because they were expensive
• chop off hand
• brazen it out and say nothing.

WWYD?

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Honestly please buy some Windolene ( can’t remember spelling ) glass cleaner it really works!! I tried everything - it worked a treat !!

😂 nearest fire station! One of the fire persons will cut them off for you- had the same problem, went to local station in town

Any jewellers should be able to cut them off and have them repaired fairly cheaply.
However, it will take some time for your finger to lose the divot left behind.

Doctor here. I have removed rings much worse than that using this technique. The trick is to use a piece of elastic. It is much more effective than dental tape because it provides compression.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DxoAbK5Pc6w

I had some success with threading cotton through the rings, soaping them and pulling them with the cotton.

You listing the chop off hand option would make me (if I was a bloke going on a date with you who is presumably a straight woman) really look forward to the date because you sound like good fun! Front it out and laugh about it. And have a good time!

Just show him your swollen finger if he asks. It's self-evident that they are seriously stuck.

I have not RTFT so maybe someone else has suggested this. If u have no time between now & the date to get to the jewellers/ get rings professionally removed, why not postpone the date & push it back a few days? ‘Something has come up’ etc etc. That’d buy u some time to get the rings removed

Just tell him you put them on in case you get picked to be on married at first sight. And ask him if this is the secret audition? The rings being stuck show you're destined to be together forever and ever and ever. Say you've been practising writing your vows for weeks and you think you love him. And tell him not to worry, you'll put him first on the picture task however hot the others are. Looking forward to intimacy week.

If he even asks, which he probably won’t , just tell him the truth . It’s a first date, which should be fun . And I guess the truth is you didn’t want to cut them off yet. At this stage , it’s frankly none of his business.

Tell him it is a cultural thing your mother has insisted on.

On your first date you have to wear your mother (or gran's) wedding and engagement rings.

If your date can easily remove them then you are not compatible and should not have a second date.

You don't believe in this but your mother / grandmother are very superstitious about it and you have to film his hand trying to remove the rings.

He will either humour you or run for the hills.

Alternatively get surgical (duct) tape and bind your ring finger to your middle finger as if you have broken it.

WD40?

Are they not hurting your fingers though? You can get yhem cut the rings! and save the girl's best friend!

It would put me off if someone had rings or had obviously just taken them off even if I wasn't sure what kind of relationship I wanted yet. Just wouldn't go there if I thought they were still with the ex. I took mine off as soon as I left though.

Well you couldn’t sell it while stuck on your finger anyway, you’ll need to get it cut off! Maybe it could be rejoined after it’s off your finger

Does he know you have children? If he does then he knows you’ve been married or in a LTR in the past. In which case I’d just brazen it out with the truth.

on a first date, as a man I doubt I’d notice and I doubt I’d care that much.

Iced water to shrink finger, then cooking oil to lubricate.

I haven't read the full thread but I'd send him a text prior to the date, telling him in an offhand (ha! Pun not intended) way that you hope it won't put him off but you've been trying to get your wedding rings off but the damn things are stuck on. It's like I can't get away from my ex husband, ha ha, but the marriage is well and truly over, I can assure you.

You'll have an indentation anyway so you might as well be upfront and not try to hide it. Hopefully he'll appreciate your honesty and have a laugh with you. Maybe he'll accept that someone who has had an almost 20 year marriage is someone who will commit to a relationship, if things go well. If they do, then you can try all the methods above to get them off.

BTW my wedding ring is also stuck on (I've gained at least 3 stone since I got married in 1996 and my fingers also swell up) but I did manage to get it off once for an MRI by using the cold water technique followed by tying cotton around it.

Cover your finger in thick oily moisturiser, working it in and under the ring by pulling it forward as much as you can then spreading cream where it would naturally sit and then pushing it back again. Next hold the hand up above your head for at least a minute but I’d do it till it starts to hurt. This drains the blood from the extremity and slightly deflates the fingers. You should be surprised how much wiggle room that gives - I always am. Then work quickly to twist the ring off, inching forward with each twist. The knuckle might cause you to exclaim a little but it’s quick!

It won’t really matter for the date; but you might as well work on getting it off. I’d feel sort of creepily psychologically trapped!

The Tiffany setting will add to the value so I’d try not to resort to this.

Yes the skin pulling also helps.

The caterpillar technique worked for me. I used lard, took me over an hour, and my finger was so sore, I thought I’d broken it.