I have a date and I can't get my wedding and engagement rings off...

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What should I do?

Split from H last year. My fingers (and the rest of me) have grown significantly in the 20 years since my rings went on and there is no way of getting them off without intervention (I've tried all the washing up liquid and dental floss interventions).

Options are:

• front up with the date before I go and explain the situation in advance
• find out if I can get them cut off somehow which I don't really want to do because they were expensive
• chop off hand
• brazen it out and say nothing.

WWYD?

You need to let yourself get cold, that will make it easier to get them off

The fire brigade???? 😂

A friend of mine had the same problem and I advised her to put your hand in cold water as cold as you can take and leave it in for as long as possible as your fingers will shrink. After doing this put the fingers in butter and you should be able to get them off.

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Did you manage to get them off??

The fire brigade will do it if it's a threat to health, but not in as neat a way as a jeweller would. I'm a jeweller, we do it nice and neat and retain as much metal as possible, but not so much with the fire brigade

Just wear them. My Dad died many years ago my Mum still wears her rings, she likes them. She has been with her current partner for over thirty years neither of them worry about it! Enjoy your date!

When I was married I would take off my rings when I got home. I didn't realise some people never took off their wedding ring for years, so they got stuck.

Blimey, I never knew that. I had visions of someone calling 999 cos they couldn't get their ring off!

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If you don't love them and they aren't sentimental, maybe get them cut off, then have them melted and remade into a piece to celebrate you/your new life journey?
Getting advice on keeping the most or increasing the value would be beneficial if they were expensive.

I take it this person doesn’t know you and had never seen you before ?

I would personally get them cut off and made into a different ring you can wear on your right hand.

Sorry I was someone who said get them cut off ! However I see the timescale is a problem! I definitely think either a finger bandage or putting on loads of rings is the way - unless he’s really looking out for it it’s too confusing to work out the ring finger 😂. I’d put a totally bling non wedding/ engagement ring on top of you existing rings too if you have room. Either ones you’ve got or a quick run to Tesco’s whatever ! My DH never ever notices rings and tbh why should your date care as you are on a date so presumably ‘available’ whatever that might mean to you …. Good luck and good fun ❤️

If you’re just meeting for a shag, don’t worry about it.

Cut your hand off. It will be an interesting point of discussion to get the conversation going and provide a more relaxed atmosphere....

@MsRosley people do (I work for fire service)

Don’t do this to your Tiffany setting OP!!

If you can’t get it off go on a diet! 🤣

Just explain. It’s obvious from how they look that you can’t get them off.

I can’t understand why they’ve ended up like that, totally stuck and more or less growing into your skin, it’s like Chinese footbinding of old- yuck.

My rings ended up too tight once I’d had kids. I took them off each night though and it only took a couple of v hot summer nights when i panicked cos I thought they were stuck. After that I never put them back on again. DH is the Same. They’ve both in a little box waiting for the time we had spare money to make them bigger. They’ve been in the box about 15 years and for the last 10 we’ve had money to make them bigger but just never bothered.

I just thought everyone took their rings off once they got too fat for them? It doesn’t usually happen overnight.

Must have been an amicable split too. Most people I know lost tonnes of weight through stress while going through a split.

I’m having flashbacks to the sex lube and a fish slice thread.

Rotate the diamond on the engagement ring round so it's not visible and add a third ring on the same finger.

If you are anywhere near London, Birmingham or Manchester I would actually go to Tiffany’s. They offer a lifetime aftercare service on their rings and will know where the serial number is likely located on the band, so it can be avoided when it is cut off (which I’m afraid will likely be necessary).

I know someone who got absolutely steaming drunk at bottomless brunch when her decree absolute came through, then walked into the local fire station on her way home to ask them to cut off her ring. It was a quiet day and they did it!

For a whole load of other people cortisol makes them gain weight… 😩😩😩
some people gain weight and others loose…

When I was separated I went out with a woman who got the right hump because I was wearing a wedding ring. I hadn't even thought about it. I have several rings on other fingers. I didn't see her again due to her overeaction ie a complete meltdown.

have You put on a lot of weight over the 20 years? If so maybe try going on a crash diet, you could then remove them without cutting them off