I have a date and I can't get my wedding and engagement rings off...

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What should I do?

Split from H last year. My fingers (and the rest of me) have grown significantly in the 20 years since my rings went on and there is no way of getting them off without intervention (I've tried all the washing up liquid and dental floss interventions).

Options are:

• front up with the date before I go and explain the situation in advance
• find out if I can get them cut off somehow which I don't really want to do because they were expensive
• chop off hand
• brazen it out and say nothing.

WWYD?

OP I think being pissed is the perfect time, ship surgeons used to give sailors a good glug of rum before cutting off their leg, after all.
I used the caterpillar method to remove a ring after 23 years and it worked, the wider the ring on top the harder you need to push underneath to tip it over the bone whilst keeping your finger half crooked. Also ‘belt and brace’ this method with an iced water bath and lubricant.

You should be upfront about it and honest as to why you haven’t taken them off in a year, your date will likely find that weird.

Not sure if I’m the alone in this, but there’s really no need for the attitude 😂

I’m 2 years separated, not divorced either, and my rings were already off before I moved out. They came off when we agreed it was over. My marks from having them on so long have only fully faded in the last few months.

Because apart from the obvious legal matters to attend to - I’m not married; so why would I be wearing my wedding ring. It wasn’t trauma or anxiety, it was what I thought was common sense. Why would I be wearing the rings of a guy I don’t want to be with.

If you don’t have time to get it cut off (?), I’d tell him before. Save yourself the date chat. “Funny story, can’t get my rings off/don’t particularly want to.”

Get someone to help you do this wrap cotton thread around your finger in front of the ring to compress that part of your finger and move ring forward then cotton to next part and ring forward again and continue to do so until they are off. I warn you it can be painful and have someone there in case you can't get it past the joint and need to push it back. Do one at a time. Otherwise you can get them cut off. xx

Wear loads of rings and then he won’t notice

Can you put a plaster over them?? Bit more discrete?!

Put rings on your other fingers so they're just decoration

You must need to get ordinary thread, not floss and wrap it round so,so tightly.cintinuing tight over the buldgy but after the knuckle. Think killer tight with the turns very close together. Liquid soap on top, hold the thread at the nail end tight and pull the thread under the ring. Do one at at time. I'm sure these will come off with the technique if you do it properly. I've removed tighter than than with it.
Better if you can get someone to help you as it's tricky and can hurt a bit. I have every faith.

Your date knows you were married once? What’s the problem?

Tape them

Take an over the counter diuretic for a couple of days, put your hand in icy cold water for a few minutes, liberally slobber all over the ring area and knuckle, stick you hand in the air, wave it around, wiggle and wiggle the rings round and round, up and down, continue to slobber on the area as needed and they'll come off!! Honest!! Did it myself!

Window cleaner - spray on and around the rings, then they will slide straight off

I don't think one crown would be sufficient

If the date is with a man, there is a good chance he won't notice. And if he does, you have something amusing to talk about.

I had my engagement cut off recently and made bigger. It didn't cost much and the jeweller did it on the spot.

If you're 'dating' casually with no view for a relationship then he's not going to give a shit if you have a wedding ring on or not.

However, please get them off and if you still want to wear them, resized. It's very cheap and it will mean you can wear them without worrying about the next time you need to take them off (surgery etc).

There's an old trick using cotton wrapped tightly round your finger that works, but it'd be easier for you to Google it to see how it's done, than me trying to explain it.

I have to say, this thread has prompted me to check my rings - haven't taken them off in years. Engagement ring I can still get off, but my wedding band is certainly not readily moving. They are fine where they are, not the least bit tight, it is just the knuckle that they don't want to go over ...

Is this the dental floss technique?

But if they won't come off just be honest up front.

Twist the diamond round so it just looks like a gold band.

No Dentist😷

...no dentist...

Have you tried this?

In spite of what he says, apparently it hurts like hell but is effective - it's how they remove rings in hospital.

Otherwise, just leave it - it'll be a talking point! 😂 Either way - have fun!

There is a trick with a ribbon if you look it up on YouTube also, for anyone is in this position if you have managed to get them off.

Google ‘nurses ribbon trick for removing rings’ you will find a video.