I have a date and I can't get my wedding and engagement rings off...

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What should I do?

Split from H last year. My fingers (and the rest of me) have grown significantly in the 20 years since my rings went on and there is no way of getting them off without intervention (I've tried all the washing up liquid and dental floss interventions).

Options are:

• front up with the date before I go and explain the situation in advance
• find out if I can get them cut off somehow which I don't really want to do because they were expensive
• chop off hand
• brazen it out and say nothing.

WWYD?

Just wear them, surely it’s not that big a deal, just laugh and say “couldn’t get them off but marriage is well and truly over” or whatever.

Don't say nothing. I'd be a little unnerved if I were on a date with a person wearing a wedding ring. Out of all of your options, I'd say tell the person that you couldn't get your rings off, but do it in person, so at least it will clearly come across as a funny situation rather that you can laugh about together.

Keep trying with lots and lots of soap.

I got my 30yo wedding ring off eventually .

Wear gloves 🧤 hahahahahahah

Have you tried leaving your hand in iced water for a bit? Not particularly comfortable but my hands shrink when cold and I've had rings fall off. Worth a try along with some oil of some sort. This would be my worst nightmare. I took my rings off quickly after ex left and sold them. Pissed me off just looking at them 🙄

Well you’re going to need to get them cut off at some stage surely if you genuinely haven’t removed them ever in 20 years and they’re now stuck past the point of home remedies.

The resale value of rings tends to be pretty low, certainly in comparison to what you pay for them. I would just get them chopped off.

I'd get a jeweller or fire brigade to cut them off. What's your alternative, wear them for ever?

Keep your hand in your pocket like King Charles does?

I had mine cut off in H Samuel's. Had to pay. Can't remember how much. Recently. October?

I'm going to have the gold made into new rings.

Have them cut off. It’s clearly something that you don’t want people you date seeing, and you can have them mended afterwards fairly inexpensively if you want to sell them or pass them to DC. Costs about the same as if you wanted them resized.

I know loads of women who wear rings on their “marriage” finger without being married, so it doesn’t strike me as being a massive problem. Presumably your date knows you’ve been married before and it’s not an issue?

Isn’t haemorrhoid cream meant to be helpful for this? Obviously I am not assuming the OP owns any…

Well are you planning to wear them forever?
You’ll have to have them professionally removed at point.

Loads of Vaseline? You’ve probably tried it. After the ice. 🙏🏻

Get them cut off. You'll have to eventually surely.

Or if you really can't, fess up before the date.

5 Ways to Remove a Stuck Ring from Your Finger (wikihow.com)

Are they really really stuck..? Cold water hand soak, then a very very directed dribble of hot water on the rings only. Soap/oil/lube,.don't get too much on your other hand so you can still grip. Try the first ring first rather than both together. Twist as you pull.

If they are still really stuck, then either laugh it off in person with your date, or get them cut off at a jewellers. My vote would be to cut them off. Use this as the moment you deal with this. Even if your date doesn't work out, I'd imagine it would feel (literally) free-ing to move past the wedding rings?

Whatever happens I hope you have a fabulous time 😊

Even if you do take them off the indentations and tan lines will still be visible tonight.

Wear rings across both hands so it looks deliberate.

Er you're getting divorced. They need off and they ain't never going back on. And they aren't worth jack as rings anyway - what you'll get by selling them is basically the reuse price for the metal and stones, so you won't really lose anything by cutting them.

Get them cut off already.

Style it out with one sequined glove a la Michael Jackson.

Bandage your left hand to cover them up, and explain that it is because you punched some chap in a tea room because he had 'looked at you in a funny kind of way'.

Wear plasters over them?

Another option is to put rings on every single finger like Mr T. Also wear as many necklaces as possible. Your date might not even notice them then.

Could you get your hands on a crown before the date?

Just explain. If you take them off it looks worse as you will leave obvious marks.

gloves ?