Do you sneak off to have sex with your partner in the middle of the day?

[SugarMitts]

This is a bit of an ongoing discussion between me & DH, he says lots of his friends say they will sneak off upstairs while the kids are engrossed in play or watching a film or whatever to have sex and has tried to persuade me to do it a few times

But I just can not possibly imagine how anyone can get horny hearing kids playing in the other room, the thought alone makes me feel really weird and honestly I think it’s a bit gross!

Do you do this?! How!?! Don’t you need time to switch from Mum to horny person? Isn’t it off putting knowing the kids are up and awake and right there?
Or am I right in thinking this is just one of those things that people joke about but no one actually does?

Seriously, you don't have to approve of every single scenario.

Unless you are that poster with NC? Like, jus no, sorry.

Obviously you're child being strapped to a highchair to answer the door or wipe the table is not the same as randomly having sex/giving a blowjob in the middle of the day.

I didn’t NC, but the ‘safety’ of the situation is the exact same no matter what I was doing in those 5 mins. The over the top reaction from other posters like yourself is just boring now.

Did name change yet reappeared right now to defend you choice, despite me asking someone else?

No I am not that poster with a name change

I just don't think she did anything wrong. The safety of the situation is exactly the same.

I don't think it it's wrong to have sex with children in the house aslong as the children are occupied and safe and in a different room. In the high chair situation her children were occupied, safe, and in a different room. It's a none issue and people are just being precious because of the sex and nothing more.

I get notifications when people comment and you keep taking about me 🙄

You posted your anecdote and several people reacted to it, people will 'talk about it'. And to the (other?) poster, it is interesting that this one anecdote has been noticed by multiple people.

There's a quite a spectrum between 'we take the opportunity to have an early night when our older dc are downstairs with friends' and 'we leave small dc unattended in high chairs whilst they want dinner and have sex...'.

Still misrepresenting what I said and removing context to make it sound worse than it was 👏

Oh come on. Your making it sound like the kids were crying with hunger and they were just left completely unattended with the Mum vanishing for ages to have sex and not the 5 min quickie a few metres away in ear shot in a different room while the children were occupied and completely fine.

You’re being deliberately disingenuous.

nobody said that.

taking what opportunities arise is a totally different scanario.

I used to try to but my ex was a very vanilla "only on the bed" type and any kind of stress (time pressure, kids etc) would not have enabled him to proceed.
FWIW I know a lot of very frustrated married women who have similar issues with their men. It's a common misconception men are always up for it, ready and able.

@XMissPlacedX yes this is important! I mean after all mommy and daddy are humans with needs. I would go nuts lol