Do you sneak off to have sex with your partner in the middle of the day?

[SugarMitts]

This is a bit of an ongoing discussion between me & DH, he says lots of his friends say they will sneak off upstairs while the kids are engrossed in play or watching a film or whatever to have sex and has tried to persuade me to do it a few times

But I just can not possibly imagine how anyone can get horny hearing kids playing in the other room, the thought alone makes me feel really weird and honestly I think it’s a bit gross!

Do you do this?! How!?! Don’t you need time to switch from Mum to horny person? Isn’t it off putting knowing the kids are up and awake and right there?
Or am I right in thinking this is just one of those things that people joke about but no one actually does?

I can see why so many people on here post about being in sexless marriages!

😂mine are adults now, and still do it!

We don’t, but we both work part time, so its easy to find the time for it, plus it means we aren’t knackered from work.

I’m afraid we do this quite often. We usually have children in bed in the morning and have an extremely night owl child who’s often awake when I go to bed (I’m usually too tired then anyway). So upstairs when they’re downstairs with a noisy Tv is often easiest. I didn’t realise people thought it so unusual!

We sneak into the shower. That way we cant hear them so well and they cant hear us (i think). And we only do that when they are very busy.

Bleugh, not for me! Each to their own but I couldn’t relax enough. Even recently in an Airbnb with an exceptionally squeaky bed I couldn’t do it when the kids were asleep!

No, never. To be fair, my son is only a toddler so leaving him to go off for a fuck would be pretty dodgy ground 😂

Beginning (and others!) saying they can't have sex when the kids are awake... When do you have sex then?!

I'm not leaving it til mine are 18...

Have your DHs friends been reading some bad fiction?

Of course! I would say this is quite normal based on conversations with friends. Had a lock on the bedroom and ensuite. Occasional quickie in the garage etc. My DC are older now but without this I'd never have got any due to the different schedules DH and I worked. Even as they became teens we'd be waiting weeks if we held out for an evening alone. Surely you can't be having much sex if you have to wait for quiet asleep kids with no risk of interruption?

Have a quickie every so often when ds is upstairs and we're downstairs.

Pretty much everyone I know who has DC has done it at some point, it’s probably easier when they’re engrossed in something downstairs than when they might wake up at any moment during the night. Though equally, I know of several people who co sleep with toddlers and have gotten pregnant whilst still doing this, so there are clearly also people who are fairly relaxed about that.

We do when the eldest is at nursery and the baby goes down for a nap. Mine are little though, so are easily contained by cots or highchairs and can’t walk in.
This evening I offered DH a little ‘stress relief’ in the study, while the kids were in the other room happily watching tv in their high chairs, waiting for dinner 😂

Bleughh.

That's just...icky. I can't think of many things less sexy or more off-putting than knowing your awake dc are close by and may possibly come looking for you.

We always did this when the DC were young.

Saturday evening movie (let's say 5pm). We'd have a gin and tonic and then as soon as they had snacks and the movie started in the sitting room, we'd leg it upstairs.

Have to be more creative now they are teens!

Occasionally throughout the course of our lives as parents we've snuck off to "sort the washing out" upstairs or outside to "tidy the shed" for a quick and quiet shag. We've never been caught.

Yes
as much as possible
life is too short

Of course! We don't live in a mansion so there's actually less chance of being rumbled when the kids are preoccupied in the daytime somewhere downstairs than in the much quieter dead of night, all in our rooms which are relatively close by.

Pretty sure he's doing that thing where he makes stuff up to make you feel pressured. Like "so and sos wife always does xyz"

That's what i thought, too.

The OP's husband's 'friend' told him.

Ewww

All the time! Never been caught!

We do. Two early teens, in the house. We just say we are going for a nap

Fairly often when they're engrossed in other things. We have two teens and two younger DC. If we waited until everyone in the house was asleep it would never happen. We've got a lock on the door and if they're focused on something else they don't even notice we've gone.

Yep, when my kids were younger, I'd ask him to come up & help me fold the washing. The kids would stay well away for fear of being asked to help. Sometimes you gotta get it where you can & a quickly from behind is the way to go.