Do you sneak off to have sex with your partner in the middle of the day?

[SugarMitts]

This is a bit of an ongoing discussion between me & DH, he says lots of his friends say they will sneak off upstairs while the kids are engrossed in play or watching a film or whatever to have sex and has tried to persuade me to do it a few times

But I just can not possibly imagine how anyone can get horny hearing kids playing in the other room, the thought alone makes me feel really weird and honestly I think it’s a bit gross!

Do you do this?! How!?! Don’t you need time to switch from Mum to horny person? Isn’t it off putting knowing the kids are up and awake and right there?
Or am I right in thinking this is just one of those things that people joke about but no one actually does?

Why is that ‘ewww’? The kids were oblivious.

There are some really immature and weird reactions to people having sex on this thread. You don’t suddenly stop being lovers/people the second you get married and have kids….

Or maybe some of you do and that’s why so many people on here are in unhappy relationships….

Hilariously this thread of full of people saying they have sex discreetly while kids at home interspersed with a few horrified individuals who insist OPs DH is making the whole thing up. Is he also behind all the other posts on here? How deep does this lie go?

Not to be too intrusive, but if children being in the building is an issue, how do the people saying no manage to have sex with young children? I get its not the ideal, but we want to have sex more than once a week generally, how do you get so much alone time, with young children (not babies)?

@WhatFlavourIsIt absolutely!!

I'm single now but when I wasn't yes we use to do this often. Never got caught out

We’ve done it once. Wasn’t enjoyable. I have a child who sleeps in my bed and an older child who won’t go to bed so me and DH literally get zero time alone to be intimate.

Yes we have / do. More so now the kids are teens. Music on, door shut, something behind the door although we have a pretty strict knock first policy anyway. DH gets up way too early for me and we’re too knackered on a night.

Not full sex while the kids are awake but he's given me a quick orgasm manually, fully dressed while they're occupied upstairs. I wouldn't relax stripping off for sex, hearing them coming then having get dressed before they walk in.

I don’t think anyone’s saying children in the building is a problem - it’s awake children! No way I could feel sexy at all. Plenty of time when they’re asleep when they’re small - and surely even young teens, you can just stay up later mostly.

We do it sometimes if the dc are watching tv or busy with something. It's necessary sometimes especially in the school holidays as it's either do it when kids are awake in the house or not at all.

But they don't always sleep early. If our dc are still awake at 1a.m., trying to be intimate either in our room or in the living room without being overheard is difficult because there is no noise in the house at that time and our rooms share a wall. The downstairs is worse because the stairs open out into the living and dining room!

During the day, we can sneak off and not be missed or overheard because the house is louder and busier and in our room we can be closed away.

You don't need to strip fully naked for sex though!

We have a lock on the bedroom door 🤣

Nah not for me, feels wrong and I wouldn't be able to relax, but each to their own!

We have sex most days and without the lock that would not happen 🤷‍♀️

No, not anymore and very happy for it.
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I think Morecambe and Wise did, oh actually it might of been Laurel and Hardy.

Nope can’t think of anything worse. But that’s probably more to do with me completely losing interest in sex as I’ve got older due to disabilities and menopause issues. When I was younger I might have done. But it depends on how confident you are that your kids aren’t going to come and find you.

Yes but not when kids are home. I just wouldn't relax but when we're working from home, absolutely

We used to when we had smaller kids, the shower was a great help!
Now they’re older and out of the house during the day so when dh and I find ourselves in the house together at the same time it’s a lot more relaxing and enjoyable knowing there’s no one else in the house.

I'm Not in an unhappy relationship thanks 😂 and I'm certainly not envious of wanking my husband off while my kids are sat in highchairs in the other room, can't think of anything less sexy tbh but you do you 🤷🙄

My DC are 14, 27 and 30 so no chance. Me and DH work all day and at night all their bedroom doors are open.

Nope.

I've never been 'up for it' whilst looking after the kids.
The idea of them being able to walk in makes me feel the exact opposite of sexy. Turns my stomach a bit actually.

Sex downstairs??? I salute you!

It was head, and because of the spontaneity, it actually was quite sexy. Weird to be so judgemental over something so normal.