Do you sneak off to have sex with your partner in the middle of the day?

[SugarMitts]

This is a bit of an ongoing discussion between me & DH, he says lots of his friends say they will sneak off upstairs while the kids are engrossed in play or watching a film or whatever to have sex and has tried to persuade me to do it a few times

But I just can not possibly imagine how anyone can get horny hearing kids playing in the other room, the thought alone makes me feel really weird and honestly I think it’s a bit gross!

Do you do this?! How!?! Don’t you need time to switch from Mum to horny person? Isn’t it off putting knowing the kids are up and awake and right there?
Or am I right in thinking this is just one of those things that people joke about but no one actually does?

Yes and for those of us at this stage who don't wfh it has to be when kids are home!

(ponders wfh career change..)

Maybe you don't understand it because you can only be in one mode or personality at a time. So when the children are around, you are in "mum" mode/personality and that overrides everything else. For the rest of us, we can be more than one thing at a time. We can be mum and a sexual being. Having children around doesn't override our ability to fancy our partners.

A few people assuming I don’t fancy my husband because being around his children doesn’t make me wet
Strange take but ok …

Christ really OP!

Tbf, she's got a point.
A lot of posters that are ok with having sex whilst their children are awake and in the house seem to think that they must be more sexually attracted/sexually active than people who don't.

That is a strange take.

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Honestly I'm cringing for you. I can't believe you typed that 🤣

There is nothing wrong with occasionally having sex with your partner if your children are safe, can't come in the room and won't overhear you. For some of us, that's the only opportunity we have and don't want to wait until the children are grown up and have left.

I think the fact you're trying to imply there is something sinister to it says more about your own mind than anyone else's OP.

Agree haha

Better sex (I can't see how less freedom is better unless it's meant to be somehow thrilling), less prudish (no), higher libido (no, just wait til another time if the feeling comes), more attracted (no, still attracted to partner even if we don't drop everything and have sex).....

I’m cringing for people who get horny whilst playing with their children
I know which type of cringe I’d rather be 🤷🏻‍♀️

Good God! Nobody has* said *that!!!

DS is an only. The chances of him coming to find one of us if we've disappeared for more than 5 minutes is very high. 😂

I mean, people kind of have! One woman was so horny she had to strap her children in high chairs so she could go suck her husband off! And another said they used the kids shouting them to make them try to finish faster?!
I’m sorry but that is fucking sick

And if I had come on and made a thread saying my husband leaves the children unattended to go upstairs and have a wank people would be outraged! Just because both parents are involved doesn’t make it less wrong, probably makes it more wrong tbh

No, they absolutely haven’t said that playing with their children turns them on. Wtf is wrong with you?!?

I am the high chair person, and if you had bothered to read my posts you will see quite clearly see that that is not what happened.

And the lady in the shower said her kids shouting put an end the things, not that* it *made them finish faster.

Stop changing what people are saying to turn it into something sick and twisted. Clearly your original post was not sincere and you had ulterior motives for starting this discussion.

I'd be more concerned about your thought processes than anything anyone has said here. I don't know if you have perhaps twisted things to suit your narrative or those are the thoughts that come naturally to you, which is a concern.

@SugarMitts nobody is saying playing with their children makes them horny. It's not cause and effect. In the same way that playing with your children and being hungry doesn't mean your children have made you hungry. They're both just physiological impulses. Stop being so precious.

What a fucked up post.

Think your attitude is way more alarming than any of us with an active sex life who have sex with kids in the house.

And again, I do with my husband. DD doesn't see or hear. She's perfectly occupied while me and DH nip in the shower.

OP's getting quite the pasting.

I have to say, I disagree with the idea that it's abnormal to feel pangs/fanny flutters/want sex or to rub one out. It happens when you see something or whatever.

Normally, when it happens, you suppress it and tell yourself there'll be time later, and move on.

There have been some questionable anecdotes on this thread. I mean, if it's true that someone used their children shouting to push them to orgasm, that's a bit. The point of a daytime quickie (if you must) is to be discreet and zone the children out. It's not supposed to be thrilling, and at the point your dc are shouting to you/you can hear them that loudly, maybe just stop? And do it later.

Yeah, that part was mistold - accidentally or not.

That poster said that sometimes the children would come upstairs and shout whatever issue they had through the door, and that was the end of that. As in, stopped.

Can't believe people can feel horny with kids around, everyday is a school day 😂

I don't think it's wrong to get pangs even when looking after the kids, but the stories of people strapping their toddlers into high chairs and leaving them to go and suck their husbands knob and leaving kids yelling for them whilst they are banging away in the next room really shitty tbh. Surely you can hold off till they are in bed asleep 🙄

Nobody has said they have left their kids yelling in the next room. People have said that occasionally they have been interrupted by kids shouting for them in which case they have responded to their kids shouting for them.

My kids are older now. It's sometimes past 10 when they are all asleep, but which time me and DH are falling asleep ourselves and we'd end up with no sex life. Its important to maintain a healthy active sex life in a relationship. So many people come onto mums net talking about how their marriage has fallen apart and then mention that they never have sex. You have to make / find time for intimacy in a way that works. It's fine for children to be occupied somewhere else in the house when they are old enough to not need constant supervision

It's fine for children to be occupied somewhere else in the house when they are old enough to not need constant supervision

In the post you just quoted, the children weren't old enough to be left unsupervised hence being strapped to their high chair.

That was one example where if you've read the post by the Mum who said that she said she was just behind the door in the room adjacent and was the whole of 5 minutes and could hear them the whole time. Plenty of people don't hover over their small children strapped in their highchairs while they complete quick tasks. Would this Mum be getting the same amount of berating if after dinner she left the toddler occupied and strapped in to the highchair why she cleaning the table and washed the pots up, or while she ran the toddler a bath? No. People are just being unnecessarily precious because we're talking about sex.